Wedding Party Conundrum

Wedding Party Conundrum

December 8th, 2006 @ 4:46 pm by Mrs. Emerald
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Uneven is ok… right? Yea, I am personally ok with it, but Mr. Emerald thinks that it will look “unbalanced.” He wants everyone to have a partner, heh heh. Surprisingly, I want 5 and he wants 6! I have always known that I would have 5 for sure: My sister (maid of honor), FI’s sister, and 3 of my closest girlfriends (one will be matron of honor).

As for FI’s 6 guys: he has 3 old friends that he’s known forever (one will be best man), his old college roommate, his brother-in-law, and lastly my best friend (who’s a guy, duh ). Ok, so the fact that he will have 6 is kinda my fault. But it’s important to me that my friend be up there (well, they are friends too, but not super duper close).

Initially I was gonna ask a 6th girlfriend to join my gaggle of bridesmaids, but then I realized that although we are relatively close, I wouldn’t be asking her if I didn’t have this 6th seat to fill. Is that really fair to her? I’m thinking not. So should I ask my best guy friend if he would mind taking a different role? Giving a reading during the ceremony? Usher? I don’t really like the usher idea because it doesn’t seem important enough. Even if I have him stand on my side versus FI’s side, we’d still be uneven. And 6 on each side does sound pretty big… Aiya! What should I do?

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9 Responses to “Wedding Party Conundrum”

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graciette2

This idea may still be uneven, but I saw a picture once where there was a junior bridesmaid who walked down with the flower girl. My fiance’s nephew will only be 1 year old next year, so I was actually comtemplating having somebody carry or pull him down the aisle. Yes, the sides will still be uneven, but the role will be just as important!

12/8/06 @ 4:51 pm (reply)

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felicity

We are probably going to have 3 GMs and 2 MOHs and it doesn’t bother me at all to have them be uneven. I think the rules that everything has to be uniform (number in bridal party, everyone wearing the same thing) are very old school and if they’re not important to you, don’t worry about it. Or rather, tell FI not to worry about it

12/8/06 @ 4:57 pm (reply)

Guest

How about one BMs having two guys on her arm?

12/8/06 @ 5:01 pm (reply)

Guest

We’re going to be uneven, and I’m okay with that…why is your FI so against it?

12/8/06 @ 5:04 pm (reply)

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Miss Plum

omg my FI is being like that too - he says we HAVE to have an even number and is making a big deal out of it - even though I just told him to ask whoever /how many ever he wants to ask. :-p boys….

12/8/06 @ 5:09 pm (reply)

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Go Amie

Tell your FI that having the right people there is more important than having the right *number* of people, and that you are not willing to compromise on who you want to stand with you (as you dedicate your lives to each other) without a good reason. “Matching sides” is not a good reason, IMHO.

12/8/06 @ 6:13 pm (reply)

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WeezerMonkey

Have your male best friend get ordained via http://www.ulc.org. Then he will have a major role, and your FI will have his coveted equal number of GMs and BMs.

12/8/06 @ 9:12 pm (reply)

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peachy

i’ve been to plenty of weddings where it was uneven, and maybe it didn’t look “perfect” but honestly, i thought it was fine…

… i say do what you want…

… that said, however, i have to admit that i’m being a little hypocritical. i very specifically wanted an EVEN number of bridesmaids/groomsmen (e.g. 2, 4, or 6) because i wanted to stand in the exact middle of all of our pictures. haha. i liked the symmetry.

12/9/06 @ 12:18 pm (reply)

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Ariel

One of our groomsmen couldn’t make it to the wedding. Last minute disaster. So we just had our ring boy stand in his place. Our flowergirl was too young to stand the whole ceremony… so it sort of evened out anyway. But it still looked cute. Maybe a jr. bridesmaid?

12/10/06 @ 9:41 pm (reply)