My Wedding Ideology: The Sulla Tips
December 13th, 2006 @ 7:52 pm by Mrs. Ant
Sulla, you are my hero.
Brides to be, please do yourself a favor and read up on the Sulla Tips. Even if you’ve already seen them, you should read them again (as I did whenever I felt myself turning back into a wedding-planning zombie)! The Sulla Tips were my most valuable and treasured wedding resource by far.
The core of her advice is this: “If you want to make your wedding better, make it richer in feeling, not stuff.”
Her words of wisdom were absolutely right. Details such as the flower arrangements, invitations, and programs were nice, but they didn’t really matter.
In fact, we chose not to have a lot of extras that the wedding industry misleads brides into thinking are necessary or expected. We did NOT have any favors (gasp!), out-of-town bags, menu cards, guestbooks, serving sets, personalized ribbons/ matchbooks/ napkins/ coasters, and so forth. I’m not saying that these things are not worth having- in fact, I’ve been to wonderful weddings where they did have these extra touches that I noticed and appreciated. But are they absolutely necessary? No. Did our guests miss these details and think our wedding was inferior? Definitely not!
Years from now, we won’t really remember the little details and extra touches. But we will probably remember how good the reggae band and the DJ were…
…how the drinks were flowing and how delicious the buffet was! (photo taken by a guest)
Decades from now, when we’re old, gray, and wrinkled.. we probably won’t remember those important details either. (Unless I go back and read my blog entries! ;))
So what will always always be remembered?!
The funny moments during the ceremony..
The personalized vows we wrote that got everyone crying..
How in love we were..
How much we all laughed and enjoyed ourselves..
And how ridiculously fun the party was and how we all ended up dancing in the pool!
Thank you, Sulla! Thank you for teaching me that: “If you want to make your wedding better, make it richer in feeling, not stuff.”
What do you think of the Sulla Tips? Do you agree or disagree?
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12 Responses to “My Wedding Ideology: The Sulla Tips”
Only an idiot would disagree with the Wisdom of Sulla.
You guys look like you had an awesome time. I hope we manage to have that much fun.
it’s so true. i think people tend to notice the overall atmosphere of the wedding, not the little details. although i must admit that the little details did make fun projects for me.
dancing in the pool?? which i was there!
I agree! So hard to realize on your own though. Just tonight we were freaking out about the not-ideal chairs at our site and if we should get covers, but frankly I would rather spend that $1,000 dollars on the honeymoon. Sulla’s tips and your reflections really helped me rethink my priorities. It is so easy to get caught up in all of this.
Thanks Mrs Ant!!
Ooh, so sweet, I almost got teary! Good timing too, as I’m feeling very overwhelmed lately.
Congratulations Mrs Ant! I couldn’t agree more with you. I’m in the midst of preparing for my wedding and I want to stick by this principle too. Btw, you look GORGEOUS in all the photos and all your guests look like they had a great time.
I couldn’t agree with Sulla, or you, more. I was initially upset at the idea of no chair covers, because the chairs in the reception room were truly ugly, but no one noticed or cared, and truth be told, aside from when we were setting everything up, I didn’t care either that day. What I will remember is how happy we were, and how many people told me it was the best ceremony they’d attended. That is especially touching to me because I wrote our ceremony wording and chose the songs with then FI to be meaningful to us, and people really saw that.
thanks for sharing that. something i needed to hear:)
I completely agree. We did not have favors, personalized napkins or even matching bridesmaids dresses. We had a great band, good food (I hear anyway, I never got to eat!) and so many friends and family there. And when we kissed he picked me up off my feet! I’ll never forget that.
Great post! I do agree that the more simple and focused the wedding is, the better it will be overall. I think it is so stupid (sorry if i am insulting anyone) to match every color exactly. it is predicatble. what i remember about weddings are three things: food, music, and the couple!
So when it comes to my wedding planning… my budget goes mainly to food and music instead of little gifts that will be thrown away in a heartbeat.
Thank you for posting this!! I’m a wedding planner and constantly encourage my brides to read Sulla’s tips. It brings them back down to earth when they are stressing themselves out over inconsequential details.
Yay for Sulla!
[blushing] Thank you! I am SO glad that the tips are still out there! Yay for all you wise brides for seeing through all the hype and getting what’s really special about your “special day.” All best,
Jennifer aka Sulla
Mrs. Ant, New York/Jamaica
Age and Occupation: 25, PhD Student
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 25, Finance
Engagement Date: July 26, 2005
Wedding Date: November 18, 2006
Blogging Since: February 15, 2006
Venue: Rockhouse Hotel
About Me: I live in New York but I'm planning a destination wedding in Negril, Jamaica. My fiance and I are high school sweethearts!
So wise you are Mrs Ant! I totally agree with you. For some reason, Mr Apple has been telling me that this whole time but it doesn’t sink in. It wasn’t until your email and tonights blog that made me realize he’s right. Hahaha.