The Perfect Toast
January 3rd, 2007 @ 10:32 am by Mrs. Orange
Japan has a culture of speech-giving. In a traditional wedding for instance, the bride and/or the groom’s boss (yes, boss from work) is often asked to give a toast in addition to those by friends and families. But in the US, the best man and the maid of honor usually give the toasts. We already have 2 best men and 1 MOH, so that’s 3 people giving speeches.
Plus Mr. Orange thinks his grandfather will also give a toast (actually his grandfather gives the sweetest toasts ever!) so that makes it 4. Then there’s the blessing of the bread by Mr. Orange’s other grandfather, and the blessing for the meal by my pastor….bringing the toast/speech/prayer total 6. Wow, is that too many?
How many toasts/speeches are you planning?
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7 Responses to “The Perfect Toast”
we are having four toasts! father of the groom, father of the bride, a close friend of the bride, and brother of the groom.
As of right now, we have two definite toasts: MOH and best man. I’m guessing FI’s dad will give a toast. My dad might, but he’s not much for talking in front of a lot of people (we are expecting almost 300 guests), so we’ll see what happens. We have had several people ask to give toasts, but I’m not sure if we’re going to want more than what we already have.
i think that’s bordering on max, but i think 4 toasts should be fine. as for prayers/blessings, i don’t really count them as toasts/speeches, and i think two is appropriate and the max there.
It might have been overkill but I had 4 speeches with 5 speakers. I love speeches as I feel its a way to see the bride and groom through the eyes of those who know them the best.
I personally am a fan of the open mic. We have two MOHs and a best man. My fiance is planning to give a thank you toast. My brother (who is a groomsman) asked if he could give one, too. And the pair who introduced us (one is a bridesmaid, the other is a groomsman) have also expressed some interest. That is SEVEN people who would like to get up and say something. Who am I to say no, right? I’m honored and delighted.
is it werid not to have a toast at all? esp. if it’s a very informal wedding.
Mrs. Orange, New York
Age and Occupation in 06: 29, Librarian
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 25, Academic
Engagement Date: January 25, 2006
Wedding Date: March 2007
Venue: Nassau County, Long Island
About Me: Mr. Orange and I met thanks to my college friend and Mr. Orange's dad in Feb. 05. I love to eat, cook, watch Dog the Bounty Hunter, Without a Trace, L&O, and MTV Hits as well as chill with my cat Illie, work on little DIY projects for the wedding, do extensive wedding related searches on Google using my "skills." Ha-ha. We are having a 150+ ppl wedding incorporating his Jewish background and my Japanese heritage.
Well, I am of the camp who believes no one should give a toast who doesn’t want to.
I think the host, the BM and the MOH traditionally are the speech-givers, and I know our best man and my maid and matron of honor already plan on giving speeches (they have just assumed it and I’m glad)! I would be thrilled if my dad said something as the host, but I don’t think he will (save it for the rehearsal dinner, I suppose).
Finally, I have moments where I think I will wlecome and thank everyone–I’ve been hearing this si something B &G’s are starting to do at weddings and like it…but who knows if I’ll be able to muster a word (tears, you know) when the time comes.
I would love to have an open mic but have yet to see that go well. We’ll just see how the reception actually goes! I know guests can grow utterly annoyed or bored with too many long-winded speeches.
Speaking of long winded! Sorry I write so much!