Weddingbee Blog

FI and I are both college students, living away from our hometowns. He will graduate mid-May and hopefully have a job to move for (we are planning on living in my hometown, a Kansas City suburb, because it has a much better job market than his northcentral small Kansas hometown). I will stay in our college town for a few weeks after his graduation and then live with my best friend/MOH for a few weeks prior to the wedding. Both of our moms are extremely against living together before marriage (something we don’t agree with), and we don’t want to cause any issues.

ldsbride - I think living with parents is more of a cultural thing. While I understand that in western cultures this is socially frowned upon, in asian cultures (more so the families in Asia, rather than Americanized families) it is not unusual at all.

In regards to Lulu’s question - I think part of the way Americans define themselves is as independent, self reliant, and able to pull themselves up by their own boot straps. We’ve all been told we have to make our own way in the world, America offers us the opportunity and all we have to do is be industrious enough to take it. I think for most Americans when they hear an adult child is living at home it means this person is not independent, can’t make it on their own and are mooching off of/taking advantage of their parents. Now of course there are many reasons why someone would still be living at home with their parents that doesn’t involve any of these but I think the reason why it’s frowned upon is b/c of the American attitude of “do it yourselfness.” I think most Americans consider leaving home at 18 or 21 and never needing to go back a sign of “success.”