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At my brother’s wedding last summer, there was no wedding cake. That is - until friends of theirs surpised them with a sheet cake featuring Champy (The Loch Ness monster of Lake Champlain) as a bride, drawn by the local grocery store bakery counter clerk!
The point being, my family are not really “wedding cake” people. We also thought about not having one (Mr. Bluebell doesn’t even like cake!) but in the end, decided we want one. There are some caveats though.
1. We don’t want any fondant anywhere (too formal for our wedding/location/family)
2. No sugarpaste flowers -or- bows -or- creatures or any other three dimensional “things” on the cake (So so pretty to look at, but again, just a bit too much for our wedding)
3. Mr. Bluebell hates regular yellow cake and white/unflavored/whipped icing
So things were looking pretty grim on the cake front for a while. Until I saw this!
[from White Aisle]
and this!
[from the website of Dish Catering]
We realized that the only kind of cake Mr. Bluebell ever enjoys (and oh, he does enjoy it) is chocolate-chocolate, and it’s one of my favorites too. So why not have a gorgeous tiered chocolate cake?? With either a gentle scrolling pattern or sticking on some flowers - real or fake (I ordered one batch of the White Aisle ones just to see what they’re like and they’re gorgeous!)
So Mr. Bluebell and I happily hummed along with our fantastic plan, thinking we could get away with just buying maybe six yellow cupcakes for anyone who is allergic or really dislikes chocolate. (Plus we’ll have fruit and maybe some other desserts as well.)
Then…a friend of ours found out about it. OH THE HORROR!! She simply could not believe that we might only offer chocolate cake! Her argument wasn’t that people might be allergic or not like it - it was that even people who usually do like it might find it too rich after a big meal. My answer to that was…then they can not have a lot of cake. 
But seriously, I figure we’ll have an early dinner since the ceremony is at 3:30, and then just have mingling and/or dancing for a bit after dinner before the cake cutting. And the slices can be small if it’s really rich. 
But, this friend did just get married and part of me wonders if she read this somewhere or was advised not to do all chocolate by her baker or something?
So what do you guys think? Is it really unacceptable to have an all chocolate wedding cake?
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go with the all chocolate cake. if it’s what you want, it’s what you shoud get. like you said, people can just not eat cake or eat the other desserts you are offering. if you can’t live with the idea that some of your guests will not have any cake for dessert, the yellow tier is the best option. yes, you should take your guests into consideration, but in the end, it’s your wedding.
I totally agree, let them eat chocolate! I mean, who cares if it’s not “done” often? And a small slice of cake won’t make all your guests sick with heaviness. Why get something you don’t want just because it’s not the common thing? I’m still going back and forth about that myself. Ganache or buttercream?? I don’t know! I always have a chocolate cake for my birthday, and maybe ONE person doesn’t eat it because she’s not a fan of chocolate, but everyone else says, “Thank goodness you got chocolate”. I’m also a bit of a choco fiend, so they expect it from me. 
i say go for it. you’re already compensating with yellow cupcakes and other desserts. i don’t complain if i don’t like a cake…i just don’t eat it. simple. i actually don’t think there’s ENOUGH chocolate cakes at weddings. i always find chocolate cake to be much more moister than anything else.
Woohoooooooo, thanks you three plus all the anonymous voters! 
I’m feeling goood about all chocolate now! YAY! Now I REALLY can’t wait to do cake testings!!!
How many people can you think of that dislike chocolate enough that they’ll run out of the wedding reception crying? If they don’t like it, they won’t eat it! End of story — not the end of the world
If you and your fiance will like it, then do it!
some people won’t eat the cake regardless of the flavor, so you should get what you want.
my parents do not eat cake at all, and i always get their cake when we are all attending a wedding!
What about weddings where only white cake is served? I only like chocolate cake, isn’t the bride not taking my feelings into consideration if she only serves white cake? Do what you want, you’ll have more people happy about chocolate than crybabies who’ll miss tradition. Yay for chocolate!
I don’t like chocolate cake as much as I do white cake, but if I were a guest at your wedding, I’d at least try it and if it was too rich for me, I would just not eat it. Plus, it’s YOUR wedding. You shouldn’t have your wedding to cater to your guests. They should remember that they are GUESTS to your wedding and that is a priviledge. Go for the chocolate. =)
We’re doing chocolate w/ chocolate frosting, cause it’s our wedding and that’s what we want!
Seriously? I want a chocolate cake just to be different, I did not think of what others’ reactions would be! Go with it, I still am, even with this new knowledge.
Definitely get the all chocolate if it’s what you want. I’m not sure why your friend would be so un-supportive - it’s not like you’re asking about something ridiculous like “Umm, I really don’t want to have chairs at the reception, do you think my guests will mind eating while they stand, hunched over the tables?”. Seriously. Everyone will always have an opinion, but in my opinion (haha), this is not crazy - if you like chocolate, have chocolate! Mmmm.
Chocolate cake is a great idea.
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Mrs. Bluebell, New York
Age and Occupation in 07: 26, Finance Manager
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 27, Playing with the cat and/or Consulting
Engagement Date: December 25, 2005
Wedding Date: June 2007
Venue: Bride's family summer home in the Adirondacks
About Me: Trying to find the perfect balance between family tradition (marrying at the house everyone else in my family gets married at), making our's modern, interesting and different from everyone else in my family's, and incorporating some Chinese tradition for my Chinese fiance. I really have no idea what it's going to end up looking like!
Also, I picked Miss Bluebell for my name because I have blue eyes and I'm a loser like that.
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