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beereader - I can see where you’re coming from and it would probably bother me too. but, your mom probably doesn’t want her new husband to feel left out. She may not even be thinking about this from a “he’s your stepdad” point of view, but more of a “he’s important as my husband” stance, if that makes any sense. Given that the focus will be mostly on you, your dad, your fiance, etc… it might be okay to just let it go, so that your mom’s feelings aren’t hurt.
I’d like to add a question to the beehive ¢¢â€š¬”
Our wedding is at 10am and the reception will be from 11-3pm. The reception is taking place at a restaurant (that we will have entirely to ourselves). I’ve been in contact with a string trio and they’ve quoted us $1000 for the reception. It’s a reasonable quote (I’ve done my comparison), but I’m now thinking about using the satellite music or cd player for the reception as that’ll amount to significant cost savings (it only costs about $50 to use the cd player and the satellite is free!).
Is the lack of ¢¢â€š¬…”live¢¢â€š¬? music a serious transgression?
Beereader -
Although you mother’s new husband hasn’t really been a part of your life, he is very important to your mother. Clearly this means a lot to her, so unless you are adamently against this he should be allowed to wear a tuxedo. You wouldn’t want her be at all resentful on your special day. Just my opinion.
n - if you think about it, dj’s aren’t exactly “live music” either and they’re totally accepted. so if you want to shave a considerable amount of money off your total tab, go ahead and use the cd player or satellite. at least you won’t have to worry about any possible breaks for the artists or them getting there on time. one less worry.
Beereader,
I think if you feel as though this will bother you, which it would me, I would explain how you feel to your mother. Explain to her that only those directly involved with the wedding party will be wearing tuxes. Maybe be practical and propose that spending the money towards a new suit would be more appropriate and practical! Unless you are having a very formal wedding. You might explain to her that he might feel out of place since your other guests will be wearing suits at most and only those directly involved with the wedding will be wearing tuxes.
Hope you guys can figure this out!
I have another question: How long does the rehearsal dinner last? We are having a cocktail reception for the out of town people after the dinner and at the same restaurant as the rehearsal dinner. We are doing this to keep the dinner to a more manageable size of 30, but I am unsure of the timing for the later “welcome reception”?
Beereader… If I were you, I would just let it go. Most people won’t even notice and it’s not something that will bother you or that you’ll remember years from now. And it’s not like it’s an insult to your dad or anything that another man is wearing a tuxedo. For the sake of keeping the peace, that’s what I would do, at least.
Meg - here are some links i found:
http://orientaltrading.com/application?namespace=browse&origin=searchMain.jsp&event=link.itemDetails&demandPrefix=12&sku=95/1444&mode=Searching&erec=8&No=36&D=snowflake&Ntt=snowflake&Ntk=all&Dx=mode%252bmatchallpartial&Ntx=mode%252bmatchallpartial&y=0&N=0&x=0&sd=RUSTIC+METAL+SNOWFLAKE+ORNAMENTS+%28DZ%29
http://christiandollarstore.stores.yahoo.net/relressnowor.html
i couldn’t find a link to one particular type i had in mind..i think you would have liked that one the best.. :T
hope it helps though~
n - i just had my wedding two weeks ago in a restaurant, and we debated about hiring musicians. we went with the satellite radio, and i’m so glad we did! everyone was so busy talking, eating, and having a good time - i don’t think anyone would have noticed or even heard the musicians over all the noise our guests were making!
Beereader, I hear you! My FI’s mother passed away when he was young and his stepmother has only been married to his dad for a few years etc. I dont even want her at the wedding let alone playing any role! She keeps reminding me when her sons are free for our wedding. I barely even know them! Hold your ground.
Meg - try looking at this website, no idea how they are, but they have a lot of variety and costs seem decent:
http://factorydirectcraft.com/catalog/index.php?cPath=1374_1538
Meg - if you’re looking for tiny snowflakes try this website. it’s a website that sells beads and charms.
Does anyone have a recommendation for a NYC based makeup artist.
Or at least a make up artist willing to travel to NYC, and does airbrush preferably.
Thanks ladies!
Maureen Pedala was booked for my date 
THANK YOU for the great ideas!!!
To: n
Is the lighting good in the resturant?, Does it create a good ambiance? Because if so then foget the 1000 dollar band and just go with the ipod because your guests won’t even notice the lack of a band with a beautiful atmosphere.
With regards to the stepfather, I’d let him wear the tux but maybe skip his boutinere (SP?) so you feel you have added a special touch to the people you’re close with without insulting your mom and avoiding one less stressful thing to deal about. I was all stressed before my wedding because of my very tense relationship with my stepmother… I lost many a nights sleep over it. But on the day of, I was so high up on cloud 9 I could barely see the top of her stupid little head when I looked down off the edge of the cloud.
MCR Bride,
Try bridemakeup.com. the artist is really good but not sure if she does air brush.
hi mrs. bee -
do you have any recommendations for wedding planners? i’m in nyc and am planning on getting married in queens and/or long island (nassau county).
and is it unrealistic to think i can pull off a wedding by sept/oct of this year?
thanks so much for your help!
Panda, I’m getting married in LIC.
My wedding planner does the NYC areas.
I got her recommeded by a few other brides I’m on a board with.
Tell her Michele and Rob sent you.
http://www.dazzlingaffairs.com/dayof.html
Francesca Leonardini
Dazzling Affairs, Inc.
Wedding and Event Planners
Office: 516-887-0199
Cell: 516-455-1751
Fax: 516-887-3130
Email: francesca@dazzlingaffairs.com
WWW: http://www.dazzlingaffairs.com
I would say let your stepdad wear the tux. Is it really that big of a deal to cause a fuss over it? My mom & (now) stepdad have been married for almost 2 years, but have been together for almost 12. We’re not really CLOSE, but he’s helped me out with school a LOT, and if my Mom wanted him to be a part of my wedding, I wouldn’t be all up in arms about it. But my real dad is DEFINATELY not going to be a part of my wedding.
kgirl - it depends on how many people plan on giving speeches. at one rehearsal dinner i went to, 7 groomsmen and several bridesmaids gave speeches. i think you should allot at least 2 hours for the dinner - that should be enough time. and you can always continue to mingle with your wedding party once the welcome reception begins. good luck! 
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