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we are having 2 best man…FI’s brother and his best friend from hs. I think it’s totally fine that way.

You can definitely have two maids of honor! One of my best friends is a twin. She had her twin and her younger sister both be maids of honor and it was wonderful. It would have been more awkward had she only asked one of them since she was very close to both.

I’ve seen plenty of weddings with 2 MOH’s. I’m not sure how you would handle it, but maybe you could look at what the MOH is usually responsible for and split it between the two. Or maybe they could work together on everything!

I am in a wedding where there are 4 maids of honor! And in my wedding I had bridesmaids, but not a maid of honor. I think anything goes, these days.

I am having two MOH’s. One is my cousin who is two weeks younger than me, we grew up very close and are basically like sisters. The other I have been best friends with since we were five. Last summer I was her MOH, along with her little sister. Don’t pay attention to rules! Do what makes you happy! The more the merrier. Think of you how luck you are to have two people you care about that much!!!

You can do whatever you want.

I have 2 sisters and they are both my maids of honor.

we also have 2 best men. my FI’s brother and his friend from high school.

one can hold your flowers during the ceremony, the other can fix your dress. one can hold the ring, the other can sign your marriage certificate as witness . give them different things to be responsible for.

I think you can definitely have two MoH’s, especially if you want to make both people happy! you can switch their order too (one stands by you at the ceremony, the other gifts the toast or is announced right before you at the reception).

I’d like to add a question to the beehive —
Our wedding is at 10am and the reception will be from 11-3pm. The reception is taking place at a restaurant (that we will have entirely to ourselves). I’ve been in contact with a string trio and they’ve quoted us $1000 for the reception. It’s a reasonable quote (I’ve done my comparison), but I’m now thinking about using the satellite music or cd player for the reception as that’ll amount to significant cost savings (it only costs about $50 to use the cd player and the satellite is free!).

Is the lack of “live” music a serious transgression?

Thank you to everyone who gave me feedback!! My sister WAS reluctant at first because she thought I asked her out of pity.. but now she realizes that I had my reasons for choosing my BF, but that I am also honored to have her as my MOH as well. So cheers to having 2 MOHS!!

Have two. Why not? It’s your wedding, you can do what you want. I’m having a matron of honor, four junior bridesmaids, and a flowergirl. And it’s very unlikely that the male side will even come close in numbers. No one really cares all that much these days, and those who do need to examine their priorities. If anyone asks you about it, say, “I want to honor both. Is that a problem for you? Why is that?” and hopefully they’ll slink off.

And when you ask your sister, tell her the whole story. Tell her that you had the pact with your friend, that you didn’t think about her back then as she was too young, and you didn’t ask her before because you didn’t realize you could have two maids of honor and you felt bound by the pact. Apologize. And have a wonderful wedding.

Both, they will be different but both special since one is your sister and one is your best friend. You should include them both!!!