Weddingbee Blog

Well, I’d say you could go either way. Either don’t have a wedding band, and say screw “tradition”….or you could just have a ring that doesn’t match, which is perfectly fine, I think. Just do what YOU want to do, really, and don’t worry about what other people think.

My grandmother had worn just her engagement ring until their 25th wedding anniversary when my Grandfather surprised her with a simple gold band wedding ring… on the 50th anniversary he ‘upgraded’ her plain band and bought her a very nice wedding band to wear once again with her engagement ring. It was very touching to hear the thought he put into this all before he even popped the question to her 58 years ago.

I’ve got a very wedding ringish eternity band E-ring that everyone already thinks is a wedding band. As such, I am considering not purchasing a different ‘wedding band.’ However, I might get a small, simple, inexpensive, and thin band to wear as an alternative to my much more expensive E-ring when traveling, or dressing down. I wouldn’t ever try to wear them as a ’set.’ In this way, the pressure to have a “matching” wedding band is removed, but the symbolism of exchanging new rings during the ceremony remains.

I meant band..engagement band on one hand. It’s been one of those mornings!

We are getting a wedding band that matches his that I can wear when we go hiking/skiing/etc. It works perfectly since I don’t think anything will match my e-ring and I don’t want to wear it on those occasions anyway!

my fiance designed my engagement ring himself, it is an emerald stone in a plane platinum setting. when we were shopping for a wedding ring, we found the perfect one for him, but it was in gold! i ended up getting the matching wedding band to that since i liked the symbolizon of a set, but that meant my wedding and enagement bands wouldn’t match. i wear them on different fingers (and stacked on the same fingers when i’m feeling bling-y). i don’t mind at all that they don’t match, though sometimes when i wear my e-ring on my left and my wedding ring on my right, people think i’m still not married…

My coworker and I were just talking about this exact topic! I have a simple three-stone engagement ring and we are getting a simple channel set band for my wedding ring. However, she has just one ring. It’s a very unique style and in order to find a band to fit with it, it would have to be custom made. When they went to talk to a jeweler about it, the jeweler actually recommended not getting a band made because anything added to her current ring would distract from its original style. So, that is what she has had for 4 years. Basically, it’s whatever you want to do!

Thank you to everyone who gave me feedback! We actually found a wedding band that has a contour shape that leaves space between that and my e-ring.. but the space is in the shape of a heart kind of! So I thought that was pretty neat so we went with it! Looks very unique and is also small and delicate enough that it doesn’t take away from my e-ring! Thanks again to my fellow WeddingBee-ers~!

I think an option that a lot of people forget about is to use a diamond that’s already floating around your family. The bulk of the cost of a diamond ring is the rock itself, so you save hugely by not buying a new stone.

My fiance and I are also on a tight budget (we’re in the theater in NYC), but we were able to have a BEAUTIFUL ring designed using stones from his family. We found a jewelry designer we loved and only spent a fraction of our budget. He picked the stones (they came from his family) and we worked out a design together with a jeweler in my hometown (who as it turned out, had designed a ring for my parent’s 25th anniversary!). The ring surpasses my every hope!

I love that my ring connects me to my new family, and that my fiance and I created it together. I also had some concerns about supporting the diamond industry (though that’s another forum altogether), and using an old stone mostly defrays those issues.

….sorry, I meant to say, my wedding ring sits on my left hand….!!