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Wedding voo-doo- guru edition
Background story: My grandfather checked with 2 different “elders” to see what dates would be auspicious for our wedding. They both said our date and the weekend before our date were great dates, so I went ahead and picked one and booked all my vendors.
Yesterday evening, my mother calls me from Vietnam. She tells me that she went to consult 2 MORE of those monks that tell your “fortune” / look for an auspicious wedding date for you.
This is what she tells me:
“You can’t get married on the date that you chose! Don’t tell FI, but he was born on a very dark day! If you marry him on the date you picked, then you’ll DIE!
I know it’s too late because you can’t back out of this marriage since you two are already in love, but I thought you should know…. I already consulted with 2 different guys and they said the same thing!”
Me: 
WTF - why would you tell me that?!?
I was so freaking upset - over something dumb like that. I’m not superstitious and don’t believe in the accuracy of those “fortune telling monks,” but it was still very upsetting/disconcerting to hear someone tell me that I was going to DIE. UGH.
Today, she went to go consult some more guys to see if they say the same thing… to be continued.
humm…thats pretty creepy. I dont believe them either, they once told me I would marry, have a child and be divorced before I was 17. which did not happen.
you have to remember…to take it with a grain of salt…sure, it doesn’t sound good…but it’s just a myth.
My mother is very superstitious as well. I had to follow the japanese rokuyo calendar to make sure my wedding date didn’t fall on an unlucky date. I hope everything works out for you…
okay - that made me laugh out loud - not because you are going to die but my mom is also SUPER super superstitious and I imagined my mom telling me the same thing. My mom told me that I wasn’t allowed to get married in 2005 - bad luck year.
I’m sure your mom will be able to find 2 more monks that will be able to tell her differently. Don’t sweat it. Your mom will consult with many more people until she gets the answer she wants. That’s basically how it goes.
Just in case though - be careful when you cross streets 
Ridiculous and rude. My “old country” future FIL thinks if you take a picture w/ 3 people in it, one of them will die. LAUGH AND LET IT GO.
Anyway, if I’ve learned one thing in Wedding Bee, it’s that YOU are the one who is making the date great, marking the launch of your marriage with a fabulously planned wedding, not leaving things to chance!
hahahah! taht sounds like something my mom would’ve said.
but like the previous poster said, she’ll keep askin people till she hears what she wants. you’ll be good to go.
i can COMPLETELY relate. during our engagement party, we had two wedding bells as decorations taped to the walls. during the dinner, one of them fell off right over my FI. so his mom (who is chinese but raised in vietnam) went to see a monk the next day. the monk tells her that that omen means that one of us will die. so his mother flies off the handle and tells my FI that he should not marry me. now i am not superstitious at all, so of course it made no logical sense to me. it wasn’t because i was a bad person or that i came from a bad family which made her object to our marriage but it was because someone told her the stars weren’t properly aligned for us. what a load of crap! long story short, we eloped. ok well, all my friends and family knew, but not his side. feel free to email me to find out more of my story or just to vent if you like.
Just tell her she’s right, we’re all going to die (eventually). No one can predict when.
My parents are super superstitious too! They wont’ let us get married this Year of the Pig and they will insist on consulting a “fortune teller” to pick a lucky date and to see if we’re marriage compatible. According to my mom, the engagement has to be called off if we are nto compatible according to some guy.
Should be interesting to hear the rest of your story!
I too am a little guilty of supestitions, I can’t help it - I grew up on all of that stuff, animal sign, born morning of or evening jargon. I read it wasn’t a good year to get married in 2007 but damn’t i’ve got limits! I can’t satisfy everyone and their signs!
I just have to accept it when it comes day by day. I just pray that me and Mr Apple have a happy, healthy, and successful marriage together. That should be enough and just follow your heart.
It is really great to have a vietnamese blogger on here. I grew up with Vietnamese beliefs as well, I would take this advice from your mother. My cousin was consulted to not marry her husband on a certain day because it would end in infidelity and a divorce, it came true. Just see what you feel. Good luck
If you don’t believe, it shouldn’t bother you.
We got married in the “ghost month.” Didn’t care.
i’m sorry — that sucks! my mom wanted to check our dates too but i’d rather not know and just pick a day…maybe to appease your mom there is something you can do–some ritual or steps you can take–to reverse the bad luck.
I’m glad I’m not the only one with these superstition issues. My parents freaked when they found out that my fiance and I are 6 years apart (really 5.5, but that didn’t matter). Strangely 6 is a lucky number in general (in Chinese) but if you’re that many years apart it’s suddenly bad … not consistent. Then FI and I went ahead and made our wedding plans because no one said they wanted to be involved. Right after we book and put deposits down my parents freak and say that we didn’t choose an auspicious date for our wedding (5/24) and that since all is booked we should still marry on that day but date our marriage license for an auspicious date! The nerve, and the fact that it’s illegal. Then there was a big blow up about having our reception on an auspicious date (we’re having a destination wedding). So after a month of fighting we caved and chose 7/1 for the reception … sadly we’re paying for everything and we’re not superstitious.
Uhm, not to be morbid, but maybe you need to remind your mom that we’re all going to die someday. I really don’t think your wedding date has any impact on that final event though.
Ooh, that’s a lot to dump on someone! I’d be bleepin’ angry too. Maybe you just need to tell your Mom that you are going with that date regardless of the fortune teller’s predictions, and she’ll drop the subject.
i think that superstitions were made up to instill fear in people. before hearing the usual superstitions, did you even think twice about walking underneath a ladder or the thirteenth day of the month falling on a friday? who is someone to say that a number is lucky or unlucky? or that two people were or were not meant to be together? do they have some authority, power, or knowledge unbeknownst to us?
I hear you: my mom is a former professional astrologer. Almost right after I got engaged, she asked for FH’s date and time of birth, and then asked what I wanted most out of our marriage. I said I wanted mostly for things to continue just like they are, so she asked for the date we met and picked all the dates that were astrologically most like that day. She gave us a list of about 12 weekends over the next year and a half, 11 of which were super inconvenient, but one we kind of liked, so we’re going with it. I figure, hey, why not? It’s no sillier than wearing something blue.
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Mrs. Plum, Dallas Age and Occupation in 06: 22, Accountant by day/Floral and Event Designer by night and weekends Fiance's Age and Occupation: 24, Security Admin Engagement Date: December 31, 2004 Wedding Date: June 29, 2007 Venue: Marie Gabrielle Restaurant and Gardens About Me: I have been engaged for about two years now - yes, a long engagement, because my fiance and I wanted to wait until I graduated college, which I did this past summer! He proposed after dating just two months - crazy, I know, but 2 years later, here we are, still crazy in love :-). We are having not one, but TWO weddings and TWO receptions in one weekend - American-style and Vietnamese-style - in Dallas, Texas, where I was born and raised!
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