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I’m stressing about our guest list again. We sent out the STDs fairly early, since our wedding is on Memorial Day weekend and I wanted the guests to have plenty of notice. Alas, this is only creating problems for us…
I know that we must send invites to everyone who got STDs, but there are some people who we forgot to include in our original count and are held at a “higher status” than some others already on the guest list–our friends taking precedence over my mom’s co-workers, etc. Since we’re just plain out of space to add more people it looks like we can’t just add our friends to the guest count :(.
All I can hope for is that enough people will RSVP “no” fairly early, so that my friends can be invited a bit later…I hope they will be understanding if they receive their invites just a bit late. What a bummer.
Anyone else have this problem? Have you discovered a marvelous solution to it?
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Our guest count came in lower than we expected so we ended up inviting some people within the month before the wedding. I hated it and swore I would never have a B list but when we ended up with 130 instead of 170 that was a big difference. I was very honest with people when I invited them late. I said that unfortunately we had to invite family in the beginning but luckily enough of them couldn’t make it that we eventually were able to invite the people we really wanted to, like you.
They say its an 80/20 deal. That 100% rsvp for yes list- 80% show and 20% dont. This was remarkably close with our wedding.
Yeah - no magic solution. You can send out invitations on the earliest end - maybe 10-12 weeks and then hope for some early no’s. Alas.
we are dealing with the same situation. I hope we will be able to find out early those who cannot attend and invite some we weren’t able to originally!
That sucks about the save the dates sent to people you weren’t sure about coming. We’re just sending save-the-dates to people we definately want to be there. I’m hoping some friends we don’t save STDs to won’t be offended they didn’t get one, we may end up inviting them later.
Friends are understanding. I like kate’s entry above!
Set your RSVP deadline on the early side so you have an excuse to start calling people about 5 weeks out. People get cheap flights either really early or last-minute, and it’s the latter group that will hold up the headcount.
Maybe if your invitations haven’t gone to press, you could have a handful on invites with a later RSVP date. That way, they have more time to RSVP and might not feel as slighted. Different, I know, but a possibility.
Emily–we’re doing the invites ourselves, so that won’t be a problem at all 
We can just print ‘em as we need ‘em!
Kate–Amazing suggestion! Very nicely worded, and I think that our B-listers (oh how I hate calling them that 
) will understand.
Thanks so much everyone! I
“I know that we must send invites to everyone who got STDs”
Hilarious phrase! What an unfortunate double meaning!
Miss Blueberry, our wedding is the same weekend as yours, so we sent our STDs early too. We were just talking the other night about people we invited that we aren’t close to anymore (amazing what 5 or so months will do!), and how we’ve made better friends since then whom we wish we could invite.
I don’t think I’ll be able to bring myself to tell people “sorry, you were a B-lister” lol so I’m just hoping that enough people reply early and won’t be able to make it, and we’ll be able to send out regular invitations still. Just my .02
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Mrs. Blueberry, Kansas City
Age and Occupation in 06: 21, Full-time Student
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 23, Full-time Student
Engagement Date: September 10, 2005
Wedding Date: May 25, 2007
Venue: Wynbrick Center - a historic mansion in my hometown.
About Me: We're having an intimate, 125-ish person wedding with a full-blown dessert reception. When I'm not obsessing over wedding stuff or studying for my BA in English, I'm usually playing with our two kitty cats, blogging, doing crafty things, or hanging out with Mr. Blueberry!
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