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I might have to kill Mr.Strawberry. If I do, I most certainly will use my bare hands. He is so frustrating sometimes! I love him, I do. But some of his “ideas” about life….blow…my… mind.
For example, we have 3 separate bank accounts. A joint account and then we each have our own personal account. The personal account is for eating out at lunch, buying something personal besides clothes or grooming products, or for boozing. 
I went to watch the Seahawks game with some friends a few weeks back and mistakenly used our joint account to purchase alcohol. My mistake was pointed out to me, I was scolded and then had to put X amount of money back into the joint account.
Fast forward to this past weekend. We went out with friends and I was the designated driver. He put his tab on our joint account unbeknownst to me. When I checked the bank account today I realized his error. I pointed it out.
Was he apologetic? No! Did he put the money back? No! Men have such double standards.
One more case in point. He got a brand new 65 inch flat screen tv. It wasn’t cheap. Two weeks later, he wanted to know what I spent $20 at 7-11 for. Umm…candy bars. I bought twenty dollars worth of candy bars. Congrats. You’re marrying a fatty. What do you think I bought? I bought gas! Jeez!
Sorry. Had to vent. I love him, I do. I feel like I must say that again. But, really, I might have to choke him. Anyone else get frustrated with their significant others?
YES!!! I get yelled at for shopping too much yet every week, FI gets at least one box in the mail from his online shopping. Such double standards!
Dude, strawberry, don’t even get me started. He couldn’t find any clean shirts to wear, so he made me look. Dude. If he didn’t stack all his crap in nowhere places he’d FIND THEM.
And why does he have to eat the first and last bite of my dessert?
I can’t wash dishes because of my eczema (no, really!) and he won’t wash them until he’s ready to turn in. So that means he doesn’t wash them when he passes out. The same with other chores, i.e., throwing garbage. Very frustrating!!!!!
Go buy a hot handbag or shoes out of the joint account! that’ll teach him.
Miss Kiwi you read my mind. Why can’t men *see* things when they’re looking for them.
Got a call when I was at a happy hour with my friends the other night
he says “will you stop and get milk on the way home? we’re all out”
ME: “there’s an unopened half gallon in the fridge, I saw it this morning”
HIM: “Where, I’m looking in the fridge right now, there is no milk”
(BTW our fridge is not normal sized, it is NYC apt sized, not a mini, but not full sized by any means)
ME: “look in the door”
HIM: “Oh, I love you, see you when you get home”
Blows my mind.
love this post! definitely rings a bell.. 
Miss Kiwi you read my mind. Why can’t men *see* things when they’re looking for them.
Got a call when I was at a happy hour with my friends the other night
he says “will you stop and get milk on the way home? we’re all out”
ME: “there’s an unopened half gallon in the fridge, I saw it this morning”
HIM: “Where, I’m looking in the fridge right now, there is no milk”
(BTW our fridge is not normal sized, it is NYC apt sized, not a mini, but not full sized by any means, there are not that many places that the milk could be “hiding”)
ME: “look in the door”
HIM: “Oh, I love you, see you when you get home”
Blows my mind.
Miss Kiwi you read my mind. Why can’t men *see* things when they’re looking for them.
Got a call when I was at a happy hour with my friends the other night
he says “will you stop and get milk on the way home? we’re all out”
ME: “there’s an unopened half gallon in the fridge, I saw it this morning”
HIM: “Where, I’m looking in the fridge right now, there is no milk”
(BTW our fridge is not normal sized, it is NYC apt sized, not a mini, but not full sized by any means, there are not that many places that the milk could be “hiding”)
ME: “look in the door”
HIM: “Oh (long silence) I love you, see you when you get home”
Blows my mind.
oops, sorry for the triple posting!
We’re all sitting at our computers nodding and thinking, “yup, yup, I know what that’s like!” Those silly men. They’d be *so* lost without us.
I def agree with this post! Mike is suppose to call his friend for his truck cuz I’m moving. Did he call? No, cuz he forgets and does he say “I’m sorry, sweetie, I’ll call later bla bla bla..” Of course not! He acts like it’s ok. I don’t say anything though, I hold my tongue.
I’m suppose to call my aunt and ask her about plans on a sat night. I tell him “oops I’ll call tonight.” He then tells me “sweetie, you need to remember to ask her bla bla bla bla.”
Yeah, ok. Hrm.
haha.
Yup! At least once a week we have this conversation….
Him: What do you want to eat tonight?
Me: Anything…what do you want?
Him: You pick, honey.
Me: Ok….hmmm…what about (insert yummy food here)?
Him: Veto!
Why do you ask me then??!! He is also so picky….Love him though!
LOL My FI is good about that stuff. If the same thing happened to us, he would point it out and I’d apologize. But he wouldn’t then go out and do the same thing I just did. During the five years we’ve been together, he’s never pulled a double standard on me.
oh geez please don’t get me started. like you, sometimes my s.o. does things that seriously make me want to choke him. i really think men have no common sense sometimes!
Such a minor thing, but it bothers me every single time. My fiance NEVER pushes his chair in when he leaves the dinner table, a stool at a bar, etc. I used to nag him about it. But now I just say that if he forgets to push his chair in at our wedding, I’m going to lose my mind. When he does remember to push it in, he makes a point of showing me that he did it, like it’s a major accomplishment- what am I supposed to say, “good job, son!”????
Miss Strawberry - are you at all concerned about how *controlling* your fiance is? Has it occurred to you that maybe this isn’t the healthiest relationship if he gets to basically control all the finances and tell you want to do, and you just submit? It sounds to me like he’s an asshole and you’re a doormat.
I think you should ask him to put the money back for the alcohol tab, and sweetly remind him that you repaid your joint account for the Seahawks game at his request.
As for the TV, perhaps he figured you would be using it, too, and as a result thought it would qualify as a “joint” expense. However, you should remind him that you wish to be consulted before he makes any large purchases (if he didn’t do so before buying the TV).
Woa. Woa. Woa. Elle. Woa. Doormat? Hiiiilarious.
Miss Strawberry, I like the three bank accounts idea! My guy is more of the girl in this relationship. I am the slob, and he has OCD.
Um, I have to second Elle a little bit. Why are you letting him get away with the double standard (of not reimbursing the account)?
If you don’t stand up for yourself now, it’s likely it will only get worse once you are married.
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Mrs. Strawberry, Seattle Age and Occupation: 25, Radio DJ, Advertising Sales, Day of Wedding Coordinator Fiance's Age and Occupation: 26, Engineer Engagement Date: 07/04/2006 Wedding Date: September 1, 2007 Venue: Lake Union Cafe, Seattle About Me: I'm a Navy brat that has lived all over the world. I love reality shows that are in poor taste, going to new restaurants, and trying to be crafty. Emphasis on trying!
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