Weddingbee Blog

*sigh* Man o man, parents can be SO difficult. My own parents are in the “Vocally disapprove but support me” catagory. Sounds bearable, but sometimes their “vocalness” can really eat away at me, especially when they share their thoughts to outsiders!! These are such personal matters, I wish they would just keep quiet. I called my dad at his office yesterday and had a nice conversation with his office manager, who shared how sorry she was they my dad disapproves. GREAT. Thanks for sharing dad.

In terms of Mr. E’s parents, they are VERY dependant on him, especially his mom. They dont speak much English and depend on him to take care of ALOT of stuff. And she desperately wants us to move in after we are married, and we have told her that its NOT going to happen, but she keeps nagging. He’s trying to cut the cord, so to speak, or at least stretch it out a bit. Too close for comfort, I tell you!!

And my parents just love my FI, and they’re really good to both of us. They just helped
us buy a house. I couldn’t ask for better, and the FI likes them a lot too.

we both get along with each other’s parents. mine adore him and actually refer to him as their fsil. my dad has even been talking about leaving his business to us. i get along really well with his mother as well. she even sends me a card every once in a while. she’s just happy to see her son is happy. we both definitely lucked out.

Ugh, this topic is seemingly the centre of my existence ever since the engagement; it’s making me lose sleep and even doubt my relationship with my FI because my family has been so vocally opposed. My dad is in the “disapproves but buries his feelings” camp. He voiced his concerns once, we discussed it, I told him why I wasn’t concerned and he gave a nod that told me he didn’t agree but he realized that it was my decision to make. He’s never brought it up since, but he did give my FI permission to marry me so that’s good. My mother, on the other hand, lands squarely in the “outwardly disapproves” camp. Every time I say my FI’s name in her presence she has to start a discussion about how I should leave him. Even my sister, who I thought I could count on for support, seemed concerned at one point but is being supportive, thankfully. It eats me up inside that they all can’t just be happy for me. I have to figure out how to let go of my expectations growing up that my family would love my husband and welcome him into the family, and the same with me and his family.

His family is not as bad as mine. I don’t particularly like them much, but there are no fights about me between my FI and his parents. They seem to like me well enough. And they live 3 hours away. I think a little bit of distance can be a healthy thing. Sometimes I dream about moving to Australia with my FI once we’re married so we can just be with each other and not worry about what the rest of them all thought.

holy mother. that website is CRAZY. crazye of her to create it, even crazier for him to speak to his mother that way. of course, we don’t know both sides of the story, but CRAZY!!!!!

sad to say…i can see my own mother setting up a website just like this. Because i’m not marrying the perfect dream guy she has always wanted me to marry (richest taiwanese guy ever or something like that), she’s decided to disown me even though i have the most loving man ever. She’s refusing to even acknowledging his existence. It’s really her loss to not want to be included in my life.

My dad has always been skeptical of every guy that I’ve dated. I was at the grocery last week and saw one of my dad’s friends, and he came up and said he’d heard I was getting married to a really nice guy. I was happy (and suprised) that my dad said that.

My fiance’s mom is asian and she doesn’t speak english very well. The only reason I point out that she’s asian is because all my asian friends tell me how crazy their moms are, and she is no exception. I think she likes me for the most part, other than I am not at all religious and his family is very religious.

That website is crazy! I feel bad for the mom, and for the son and his wife.

Well I am not engaged yet but I don’t think my bf’s mom likes me either. We don’t talk much and she treats him like he is 5. He has the flu now and she asked if he wanted mommy to take him to the doctor?! He is 27. He doesn’t need mommy for that. She just overprotects him WAY too much and I am so annoyed with it. We all live together and I feel suffocated. But she did buy us a house (well for him, my name is not on the deed). Sorry. needed to vent.

My FILs have been wonderful to me and we get along great, I feel very lucky in that respect!

And just for the record, I’m Asian and my mom isn’t crazy. I don’t even know what to make of that stereotype.

Maybe I have a healthy sense of schadenfreude, but I find the website funny…kind of in the same way that the girl chopping off all her hair in that bridezilla video was funny (when it was “real”). The fact that three grownups can’t get over themselves for long enough to stop harassing each other and making a scene is like a longer, more complex version of “Cops.”

*shrug*

I guess I’m lucky I can laugh at the straight up insanity of life.