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Question for the Beehive: Does anyone know what knottie bio lists & shows tons of fonts? I remember seeing it once but forgot to bookmark it.

I have a question for the beehive. My godmother is throwing me a shower - do I need to extend invitations to all of my fiance’s aunts/adult female cousins? I don’t want them to feel left out - but since we’re not close (some I’ve only met once!) I don’t want to seem like I’m being greedy for gifts. Advice?

Jen–I’m no emily post, but I think it would be nice to do so–give them the opportunity to decline the invitation rather than deciding for them, if you know what i mean. That is, if they’re not already planning a shower for you in their neck of the woods–are you sure this isn’t the case?

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iheartq–I think that it would be perfectly acceptable to broach the subject to the other BM’s–the worst they can do is say no! Are you already close with them? If you are, they might be more understanding. If not, you could always point out that it would be for the bride’s benefit–not yours. I assume they want to give their friend the best shower possible

If you all are students or just starting out, could you perhaps ask them to contribute in some other way? If one girl were in charge of purchasing the decorations, and anther was in charge of games/activities, that could help reduce your costs without putting them in a bind, either. The other girls could contribute food, too–and it *can* still look very elegant and professional even if everything is homemade!

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Oh, and Jen–glad I helped! But that little gem was told to me by my aunt, when I had a somewhat similar situation So all credit goes to her!

Sally - If you have any showers I think it is generally more acceptable to include registry info in those invites. Other than that, word of mouth is ideal. Some couple never even register and others register and word gets around…it’ll be fine either way.

MissBluebear - I think it depends on the tone of your wedding. If you’re having an uber formal wedding then you really should wear tuxes (in my opinion). Our wedding is more on the summertime casual side and you can see a couple of my favorite ideas in my knot planning bio:
http://talk.theknot.com/boards/User/Profile.aspx?UserID=112042
I would never do bow ties. I am all about the “regular” ties–colorful and preppy! My cousin did black pants with white button downs–no tie–and it looked great. We’re doing that but with colorful ties (and bouts, of course)!

iheartq - It doesn’t hurt to ask, and as someone who’s been in three weddings as a MOH and three more weddings as a BM I have always just expected those additional costs. It’s not rude to ask even if it is uncomfortable.
You could do some budget friendly options if you end up with no support but I would hope that the other bridal party members would offer their help or help once asked.

Wsukarebear,
Thanks so much for your input. My wedding is in late March and it’s semi-formal as our venue (The Fox Hollow) has Mahogany walls….hence my dilemma. I don’t want to force the guys to buy tuxes, but I’m guessing if I can find a nice 2/3 button jacket, they could get away with it. Decisions, decisions….=(

Miss Bluebear - Our groomsmen wore 3 button suits with long ties, no vests, and looked smashing. They were rentals, except my Dad’s, which was his own suit. If all the boys had had dark suits, we wouldn’t have even had to rent them. But one has managed to get through college without buying a suit, so I didn’t make him. Well used link to wedding photos: http://www.xanga.com/shortcake2675/560181119/wedding-photo-extravaganza.html

Thanks for your input everyone. After reading your comments, I sort of had an epiphany!..haha.. I’m not that close to any of the girls and I have never met 3 of the them. There’s 7 of us! It’s probably why I feel uncomfortable asking.

Miss Blueberry - I love your suggestion about having the other girls contribute something.

Tea/Mrs Dragonfly- I liked your suggestions about the potluck and bringing in home-cooked food.

Since I already have the decorations and games down pact (since most of it is DIY), I will ask each of the girls to contribute to just the food by choosing a party platter/entree off the menu from the restaurant. It’s sort of like a pot luck but they won’t have to cook. And they can choose whatever they can afford. But I’ll leave it open if they decide they want to cook something. It will still help me alot with the cost of food!

Wsukarebear - You’re right. It doesn’t hurt to ask at all. And I feel so much more comfortable and confident asking them now.

Thanks guys! (and sorry for the long comment!)

A friend of mine is trying to figure out whether the name/address of the guest and the returning address ( aka hers and her fiances) are suppose to be the same font on the outer invitation envelope. Any advice ? Thank you.