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Mrs. Bee here.
Last night I watched the In Style Weddings Special, and Joely Fisher’s 10 year anniversary vow renewal was one of the featured weddings. Ever since getting married, I’ve wanted to renew our vows on our 5 year anniversary. Now that I’m actually in the wedding industry, I think that I could do it better the second time around. 
We’d do a lot of things differently, it’d be a lot less stressful, and it would really be about us. Mr. Bee and I have even discussed using the loft where we first got married.
I was chatting with Mrs. Butterfly when she was still a Miss, and back then said she didn’t know if she’d want to go through it all again. But now that all has been said and done, she said she’d most definitely like to do it again.
I know many of you are in the midst of crazy wedding planning right now, but do you think you’d want to renew your vows on your 5th, 10th, 25th anniversary?
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Ohhh, I they were my favorite yesterday. I would def. want to renew my vows with my fiance but probably when we have kids and they can witness it. And it would have to be on the beach, with the bare minimums.
Oh and joely fisher’s husband was on the show “I shouldn’t be alive” this past weekend. He survived a helicopter crash into a volcano. He spent two days or so hanging onto the side walls. Crazy~!
Since we didn’t get to have a big wedding last year, my husband and i have decided to renew our vows on our 5th anniversary. By then we are going to be a little more settled and will be financially able to have the wedding we always wanted. I can’t wait
I think I’d like to do one for the 25th. I want it to be scarce enough so I would think about them as life time memories. But I’d like to do many many honeymoons in between!
I would say 25th - a celebration for reaching a milestone! I guess now-a-days…making it 10 years is a milestone, huh? I can’t say much for that since I’ve essentially been dating my FI for 8 years or so. HAHA!
I guess I wouldn’t set a year…it would have to be a time where you had been through enough hardships to really test you, and had (like ariel said) enough memories behin you…And a time when you know you feel a special kind of love.
i never really understood the whole renewing of vows thing. it just seems silly… a commitment is a commitment so why do it all over again? it seems AW-ish to me.
i could maybe fathom it when you’re gray and old and have all your millions (haha!) of grandchildren there and you’ve had the type of marriage/relationship others envy… but even then i find it a bit strange.
i would consider having a small, intimate renewal ceremony for 10 year anniversary. 10 years is a long time and it would be awesome to celebrate it with family and friends!
I suppose when one has a possible vows renewal would depend on what age and/or stage in life they were when they got married. Certainly when one is younger (like in their 20’s) and likely on a more limited budget (or maybe even depending on parental contribution), probably in 10-15 years or so tastes will have evolved and finances improved to where a couple can really throw themselves a great celebration of their own choosing. If so, then great. However we got married in our 40’s and paid for it ourselves. If we should renew vows, it’ll be after a loooong time, like on our 25th anniversary, when we will have hopefully retired!
Andrew & I plan to renew our vows every 5 years, each time in a different part of the world/country. We aren’t having kids, so we’ll have the money to do it. Heh.
to do the whole thing over again? I personally think that’s for people with too much time and money. the wedding is special for a reason, because it’s so unique in nature. If anything it just seems that sometimes people need an excuse to party. Yes there will always be some should’ve and could’ve with the wedding, but why not use the energy to work on the marriage?
When we started planning this wedding we had a really hard time choosing the time of the year and then what kind of wedding we wanted to have, we just think that there are so many beautiful ways to do it. My personal favourites are small and intimate at Lake Louise beside a roaring fire in January, smaller still in an exotic beach location with a steel drum band, seafood cooked right from the ocean and a phenomenal sunset, and the one we chose, a larger, more traditional gathering in our hometown with everyone who loves us and who we love. Anyhow, I was getting overwhelmed with all of the wonderful choices so Mr. Mouse said, “Why don’t we do a different one every 5 years?” Of course I love the idea but whether we actually follow through with it will be a different thing all together.
As for the concept of renewing your vows, I think it is wonderful! People change and grow and I don’t think there is anything more romantic than saying, “I still love you and only you”. I know that the love I share with my fiance is vastly different than it was 5 years ago and our relationship has changed so much in our 13 years together. I also know that I am now able to make a deeper commitment to him now than I could have 5 years ago so I would image, and hope, that the commitment I could make to him 5, 10 or 25 years from now would be deeper still. What could be better than that?
Oh, and we won’t have a whole wedding every 5 years. Just a private little thing on a vacation. It’ll be so great. Getting married all over the world. Heh.
I think it would be wonderful. The more I lean toward an… unusual wedding, the more I think that a vow renewal would be nice, if held in a different style to the original.
The rate myself and the fiance are going, we’ll have to have two ceremonies anyway!
I love the idea of a vow renewal. The only question is how public it will be… just us, or us and our offspring (and theirs, depending on how long we wait to renew), general family, friends… I want to cherish our commitment always, and I think that remembering why we are married and how much we love each other is worth celebrating on any anniversary.
it’s funny because Mr D and I talked about this before too and we would like to do one on our 10 year anniversary. Hopefully by them we will be ok enough to do a “beach front” renewal…this time decorations all done by me.
Miss Mouse - I feel the same way about the reason for the vow renewal. It’s good to declare again that you still love that person while you’ve changed as a person and as a couple.
I had the InStyle thing on while working on the PC and randomly asked FI if he’s be interested in doing a vow renewal fully expecting him to say no. So surprised when he said yes!
And we’d do it completely differently, very small and private, maybe as just a close family and/or friends vacation with the vow renewal as an item but not the focus. Not sure about the timing, maybe 7 years (kind of our magic number).
Renewing your wedding vows is a wonderful concept……..any couple who can make it to the 10 yr and 25 yr marks deserves to celebrate all over again!
Don’t listen to the “Negative Nelly’s”. If you want to renew your vows then do it. My DH and I did after 20 years and it was more wonderful than we could have imagined. It touched our guests in so many ways. Many in attendance cried (including the guys) and even the biggest skeptics found themselves considering a vow renewal of their own.
For now, I don’t really feel it necessary to renew our vows. I’m happy for couples who want to declare their love, publicly, again, but for us, I don’t think it will ever be our style. Perhaps if we live to our 50-year! : )
As someone mentioned, I’m all for more-than-one honeymoons. We’re going to the Greek Isles for our real honeymoon, and I ‘ve been fantasizing (already!) about doing a 10-year anniversary honeymoon to IN-land Greece, like some of the mountain areas, as opposed to the islands. Revisit a place of significance, but see it from a whole new perspective. J and I have also been thinking about returning to the place where we got engaged, and do an anniversary trip with my sister and BIL, since we will all pretty much share an anniversary!
And certainly, I think it’s always important to celebrate long-lasting love. Vow renewals, for me, conjur up images of a second wedding. Dress, cake, VOWS, wedding-hoopla all over again. Some people love that. I’d be happy enough to gather my kids, my oldest friends, my closest friends, getting together both sides of the family again, and having an anniversary party for the milestone years.
We chose a special date because we honestly don’t celebrate our anniversary, so we will get married 2/29/08. A small(100 inc. wedding party) modest wedding.The plan is to just renew our vows every four years. Some years will be a small intimate gatherings with the wedding party and family since we chose friends we have had since elementary school to be in our wedding parties and maybe the years closer to 12 and 24 or 48, we will have a big wedding or destination weddings again.
I love the idea that I can someday look back on all our pictures and see how we have grown older along with our best friends.
That’s the plan anyhow, whether it will actually happen is another thing.
My husband and I renewed our wedding vows last October.
We had a small ceremony, family unity candle lighting and re-exchanged rings.
It was beautful.
I would love to renew our vows around 20+ years but it would be in Hawaii with just the two of us.
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