Weddingbee Blog

my family is way, way, way more excited about/interested in The Wedding than i am. my parents even had the house re-painted. i just want to be DONE WITH IT.

I hear you! And also, any good leads on those wedges?

hehe great entry

My family doesn’t make that big a deal out of weddings…they’re typically church basement affairs, fairly simple and modest. My wedding isn’t extravagent by any means (well, maybe the 16-foot dessert buffet :-P) but it is more than they’re accustomed to. So I think some family members are interested to hear about it in that regard. One of my cousins, in particular, reads my posts daily and often sends excited and encouraging emails But other family members…not so much. It’s as if they just don’t understand why anyone would want to do more than the minimum for their wedding day (though that is their attitude about life, too…). At every get-together, when they ask about the planning and I give a polite and brief response, it’s always followed by…”When we got married in 19XX, we just had the minister stay after church, then we went to dinner…blah blah blah.” It’s perfectly find that that’s how they wanted their wedding to be, but I do wish they wouldn’t be so judgemental about mine–before it has even occurred!

Wow, I totally vented more than I intended to.

I feel like people ask about our wedding b/c it’s an easy conversation topic for them — they know it will elicit a response, and will provide something for us to talk about. But when people say “how’s the wedding?” they rarely mean, “please, tell me about what a pain in the ass it is!” Don’t get me wrong, I’m psyched to be getting married, but nobody wants to know about in-law drama or lack of cooperation from family. I’ve learned this after having “word vomit” spew forth on some of my kinder friends who sit and listen to me in sympathy on a bad wedding day.

My family cares but I’m not entirely sure they get why we’re stressed out about it. My parents planned theirs in about 2 weeks, and my brother & SIL in 2 months, so I think they think we’re being unnecessarily detail oriented about things that don’t really matter. Eh. I have weddingbee, I don’t need them!!!! Hehe, but they are still interested and excited, just not wanting to hear long stories about how we were obsessing over random detail # 289389923

i wasn’t going to comment since i’m not officially planning my wedding outloud yet, but um, i was totally with you and following until you mentioned the slit in the spanx. what?!

I thank the heavens for weddingbee. No one cares about my wedding other than my FH and he’s even ambivalent at times. I try not to ever mention it although i’m really excited about the whole thing. It really makes me sad that even my sisters don’t give a rats @$$ about the event and don’t care that I care about it.

I have noticed this, too. I think it’s just something easy for people to use as a conversation starter. Kinda like, “How are classes going?” or the classic, “How about this weather?”