Weddingbee Blog

We both walked into this with our eyes wide open. We knew it’d be huge and formal and that my parents would end up having a lot of say in the final outcome. Good news is that I’m fairly laid back and I trust my mother’s judgement. It’ll be gorgeous b/c she’s got great taste. And my stamp on things will be there as she’s not too overwhelmingly making it hers. She’s a pretty cool mom really. We just realized that the things that were important to her, were fine by us.

Yes. He doesn’t want to get married in the church and this was non negotiable for me. He even kept making remarks to me that he didn’t have a say in anything and I didn’t give up anything and to “give him a piece of paper so he could make a list of all thing ideas of his I turned down’. So being the nice soon to be wife that I am I made him a list. Huh what do you know I had given up more and compromised more than he had. In fact the only thing I didn’t budge on was the church. I want this wedding to be memorable to both of us. So we each get to give a little and take a little. And I get my church ceremony so the rest will just be fine by me.

we originally wanted to have a beach wedding but due to logistics issues, we have to move our ceremony to the lawn that overlooks the ocean. We were bummed…but I guess logistically it just works out better for our guests. We’ll be taking lots of pics on the beach though!

The wedding is shaping up nicely as far as my dreams go. I’ve had to give up some things (the salsa band, fancy favors, the brass quintet, a full open bar) but what was most important to us both was having the people that we loved there. I think it’s been hard for FI to reconcile spending so much money on the wedding, but we both wanted that many people there, and it’s the food and drink that takes up 60% of our budget, so he’s dealing. Plus, he went to all the tastings and looked at all the menus, so he know how much this stuff costs.

It’s all so silly, I know — it’s just crazy that sometimes you start with plan Apple and get plan Orange out of it!

almost the same goes to my wedding. my hubby said the wedding was nothing he envisioned at all (which’s a traditional one with ballgown & tux! hehe), and to a certain extend, he’s a lil disappointed, but the sweet thing was, he’s willing to compromise and even helped me to realize the lil quirky things i wanted in the wedding.

so what we did was, i got him to tell me what were the things he won’t compromise in a wedding (which’s the main setting, worship songs during ceremony etc), and we talked things out. he gets to decide on the things that were important to him and i get mine. and it worked out fantastically.

but at the end of it all, just remember its a ceremony to celebrate a union, the love u both share. its the significance that carries weight.

LB — you did not burst my bubble at all! I am very grateful that my parents are helping us pay for our wedding. It is extremely generous of them. I was simply commenting on how our wedding has changed from our wedding to more of my mother’s wedding. It’s the tradeoff…

Tea, I’m late posting this, but we’re doing the same thing. A few weeks before we’re going to spend the weekend by the ocean and just go out there one night and exchange our own private vows to each other. It’s “our” wedding.

Our big wedding will be pretty small and casual still, but there’s some things we want only between us. I think a little cermony to mark that’ll be nice.