Wedding Blog

No, I don’t believe in soulmates. I think –at least the way that term is sometimes being used– that sometimes people may expect a mythical, magical partner will fill a void in their lives (i.e. “you complete me”) or get caught up in the fantasy that The One is going to bring them happiness, or that The One is automatically going to know how to romance and love you and somehow not have too many flaws….when love is more about two fallible humans (not on a pedestal or idealized) that are committed to all the things that marriage will entail–communicating, resolving differences, faithfulness, x, y, z, that give and take, which matures over time and shared experiences.

I’m more of the sort to think that there is no “one” (if that were taken toooo literally, it’d take most of us planes, trains, and automobiles to canvas the whole earth to find That One, or we might be susceptible to second thoughts, regrets, wondering if the current person is not the one while The Real One is around the corner, etc. etc.)

Instead I think more that the person you ultimately end up with becomes the one, if that makes sense–that as you learn about each other and go through life together you begin to see they are suited to you and vice versa even if you’re opposite in many ways.

When I was many years younger and way too naive, I thought I had found “the one.” I found “the one” alright - the one that would bring unending drama, a long distance relationship and unfathomable heartache my way. When we parted ways after a disastrous breakup, I was pretty jaded.

I don’t believe there is one person for each of us. I believe there are many people we could live happily with for the rest of our lives. That doesn’t diminish the fact that I have chosen to spend it with one in particular. I know we can be happy together, even when the butterflies cease, the bills roll in and sleeping-in is a distant memory.

My sister put it this way once to me when I was a young teenager and she was an oh-so-wise in-her-twenties woman: There is no Mr. Right but there is a Mr. Right Now, and sometimes that Mr. Right Now works for a lot of now’s to come.

No, but I believe in pathmates. There are people that have the same kinds of goals and dreams that you do, and you mutually choose to share those goals and dreams.

I’m not sure I believe in “soul mates” but I do believe in God working to bring people together. For awhile, I had been pining over a guy I thought for sure was “The One.” He was everything I thought I was looking for: smart, outgoing, handsome, kind etc. But he never pursued me…I always felt like I was doing the chase. Through that time, one passage in the Bible always stuck with me: “The king’s heart is in the hands of the Lord, He directs it like a watercourse wherever He pleases.” And I kept praying, “Lord, if he isn’t the one, please direct my heart elsewhere.” Fastforward 2 years, and I receive a letter from a very old friend. He says he needs to tell me something. So, we meet up and he tells me he has been in love with me since we met 9 years earlier, and had been praying for me 7 years (I know, hard to believe huh?). And eleven weeks later, we were engaged! All this to say that, I don’t think we ever end up with the one we thought we’d end up with. But in God’s wonderfully mysterious plan, we end up with the person that is right for us…a companionship that will help to make us into the people we were meant to be.

I do and I don’t. Sweetie and I are COMPLETE opposites, but it just works. I always tell people there’s no one that I’d rather argue with or love than him. Maybe it was chance that we met(the do part), but it’s been thru hardwork that we’ve stayed together(the don’t part)

I agree-I do not think there is only one person for everyone. I think there are a few people you can be happy with. I think that’s one of the reasons why there are so many divorces-people think they are marrying their soulmate and everything will just “work out”-then they get discouraged and give up when they don’t want to work at it.

i believe that you end up dating the people you date for a reason, these experiences help you become the person you are so that when you do meet the person you are meant to marry you will be exactly what they need and vice versa. i believe that God will give you a partner that is perfect for you with all your imperfections so that the both of you can grow together. relationships are full of compromise and communication.