I Vow To Write…
February 14th, 2007 @ 7:25 pm by Mrs. Kiwi
…something good? I’ve brought up the personal vows thing with Mr. Kiwi. I said, “Honey, I want our ceremony to have something special, but I’d like that to be our vows.” Mr. Kiwi, playing Sword of Vermillion on PS2, patted my knee, gave me a grin and said, “I sure am glad you’re the writer in our family!”
When forced to elaborate on this, he said, “You’ll do such a good job writing our vows, babe.” So, I guess this means the vow-writing is on me. Ha. Obviously the vows are on me. Now, don’t think Mr. Kiwi is lazy, he certainly can be - about putting his socks in the hamper or washing out his pasta bowl- but when it comes to our relationship, he’s not.
Like I blogged about previously, he’s not a wordsmith, nor is he much of a reader. Quite differently, I read constantly and write whenever I can. So rather than writing vows that are from me to him or vice-versa, I think I will write a vow that we can both say and repeat back to each other. Does that make sense?
So far, my ideas are sappy and romantic, (that’s what happens when you create an ipod playlist of romantic songs!) with a touch of humor. I’m not sure where I want to take these - we’re a very silly couple… but during the wedding? I don’t know if I want that to be somewhere we try to joke it up.
Have you considered your vows? What kind of elements do you want in them?
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5 Responses to “I Vow To Write…”
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my bf wants us to write our own vows. i already get all swoony and goosebumpy just hearing him talk about how much he loves me i can’t imagine how i’ll be when it’s our wedding vows. i’m so going to cry.
I am also the designated wordsmith in the couple, so I wrote our whole darn ceremony. Our vows will be said together in unison (we’ll be repeating after the minister). I took our vows straight from this Quaker wedding certificate because I thought they were so beautiful:
mmm.. nice design, I must say..
Mrs. Kiwi, Los Angeles
Age and Occupation in 06: 27, Bookkeeper
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 27, P.E. Teach/Coach @ private schools in LA
Engagement Date: March 31, 2006
Wedding Date: November 3, 2007
Venue: Radisson Hotel
About Me: I'm a bookkeeper who failed high school algebra. I'm currently living in Los Angeles, literally a street over from where I grew up with Mr. Kiwi, my honey of three years. We have a jumbo mini-dachshund (seriously, he's huuuuge), and we're planning an autumn themed wedding on a shoestring, paid for by ourselves. The wedding date is my late grandma's birthday, I needed her there somehow, and that seemed like the best way for us. I can't believe I'm a Bee! I couldn't be more proud!
We wanted ours to be similar and balanced for each person (no honor and obey for the wife only!), to be something that we just repeat back to one another (we don’t want to be stressed out reading or memorizing), and that stays within the lines of our choosing to be with each other vs. being soulmates or being brought together by some higher power. We also don’t specifically want to mention a religious deity, although we were okay with there being a spiritual feel to the ceremony. We found a great book of vows that had all of these considerations and so we just drew from that.