Weddingbee Blog

During my planning, I’ve been keeping in mind all the advice I’ve read from brides having just married. And they ALL say: don’t sweat the details. Stuff that feels monumentally important (such as placecards) don’t matter one iota in the scheme of things. What’s important is that you are getting married, and that, as you mentioned, that your guests have fun. That’s all anyone will remember. No one will care if the flower petals down the aisle were the wrong shade!

The wedding industry tends to brainwash us brides into thinking these silly little things are SO important. It’s pretty ridiculous when you think about it. Would you remember someone’s placecards? I doubt it.

It’s stressful, but only as stressful as we make it. Try to prioritize and tackle only small projects and check yourself constantly to make sure you’re not going overboard. It can be done. And remember, YOU should have fun that day, too!

I’m at the point in my planning where I feel like “It will be what it is and there’s nothing I can do about it” and now I’m just excited about the fact that I’m marrying my wonderful fiance.
I spent this past weekend with my parents and his parents, doing lots of wedding stuff. By the end of Saturday, after I found out that the wacko lady slipper orchids that I was dying for will probably not pan out, and after having my mom scrutinize EVERY detail that I could care less about, I just shut down. There isn’t much left to do, just table cards and stuff like that. Stuff that no one should have opinions about besides FI and I and I vowed that we’re gonna have fun with the rest of this. This wedding is a lot of work, on top of my full-time, high-tension job. It’s not worth freakin’ out over.
One of my A-HA! moments was listening to Barenaked Ladies’ “If I had a million dollars”. Most brides would blow it on the wedding. Personally, I wouldn’t do anything different (Okay, maybe rent that lamborghini that we wanted, instead of the mercedes…). I’d put it away for a house (in this crazy DC market) or FI and I would travel. But spend it on overpriced favors, flowers, or a one-time-use dress? Nah.

If I could afford a wedding planner I would. Then again I’m having a small affair and I’m not looking to wow everyone. I just want everyone to have a fun evening. I say go ahead, indulge and obcess over the details, but only if it makes YOU feel good. This means if the details bring you happiness, not indirectly because it will make your guests happy. I was getting headaches from surfing the web and trying to plan a wedding virtually online. I say take it easy with the process, just focus on one or two aspects of the wedding that you want to go the extra mile for. Good luck and hang in there.

I got married back in October, and I have to tell you I was the same way. Lucky my hubby didn’t want to make a big deal of our wedding. We decided to really focus on the ceremony, because, as he said, the only reason there’s a party is because of the ceremony. We went super-budget on the reception and decided that any details that we didn’t care that much about, we just wouldn’t do. The time with our family was more important that whether they remembered their name cards. In fact, we reserved two tables (for each family) and let everyone else sit where they wanted. This was great. It made for some amazingly fun mixes.

Of course, my Dad was being totally insane about how we didn’t want to have all these details and things, so I just let him figure out what HE wanted for napkins and tablecloths since he was being such a nut. Put your foot down when you have to, but I suggest otherwise that if they want the stress, let them have it.

Another neat trick that minimized the price of favours exponentially was putting disposable cameras on the table instead of little gifties. You ask everyone to take pictures (one camera per table) and then leave the cameras. Develop them at Walmart or whatever, and email out your favourites to attendees. It was very popular. We got some amazing and funny shots. We used those instead of hiring a photographer for the reception. Very chic.

I wish you the best: Remember, enjoy this time. Spend lots of quality time with the fiance. Remember why it is you wanted to go through all this trouble.

I feel your pain, sister! This week in particular I’ve been crazy anxious about the wedding and feeling so over planning / thinking everything sucks. Maybe you’re right, maybe it is the weather. I hope! Hope you get out of the blahs soon!

honestly i’m not super psyched about my wedding. but i’m not a party girl. and don’t get me wrong, i know it will be a great day and in the end i will be glad that we had a wedding with our friends and family for the memories and etc.. but i am a low key person who doesn’t like attention and all these details of trying to pick invitations and dresses and flowers and cakes and food tastings… hotel accomodations… it all seems overpriced and completely ridiculous. people take such huge advantages of people who want to get married it’s completely ridiculous and just.. not right. the price differences are inane. i am fortunate in my parents are footing most of the bill. but even then - i’m not trying to spend that much money.

but you reach a point where you just can’t look at another paper site to figure out your invitations. and the millions of bouquets you look at start to all look the same.

and in the end, all you want is to just get married. and marriage is about so much more than the wedding.

maybe i’m just talking about my own issues instead of yours now. lol.

but i do feel your pain. and it’s not abnormal.

i feel EXACTLY the way you do.