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Work has been craaazyyyy this week, so I was really looking forward to our three day weekend away (in the Adirondacks!) seeing my parents, skiing, and checking off some wedding to-dos. The biggest item on the list was to finally have our caterer come check out the space with us, and, you know, tell us if it is physicially possible to even fit our wedding where we want it to be. Eeeeeek.
So that’s sort of a big one, right? And on the slightly-less-colossal side, my mom also found a highly recommended hair stylist (who happens to be the sister of my mom’s third cousin’s wife, oddly enough) who is going to do a hair trial for me! So I may actually not have my hair in a ponytail after all!
But…
The actual wedding location is in a non-winterproofed house up a long, steep, winding, non-plowable driveway. We explained this to our caterer a couple months ago, saying that if it had snowed by the time we made it up there for a site visit, then we’d have to hike up the drive. Which, seriously, is no problem, we’ve done it a zillion times before.
But…
Then they got lots and lots and lots of snow.
As of right this minute, less than 24 hours before our intended arrival at the house, my parents have still been unable to find someone to plow the area in front of the house. So we might have to park at a gas station or something, and have them pick us up and drive their car back to the one parking spot cleared by the house. Meaning the caterer will likewise not have a place to park, and we’re hiking in waist deep snow for a long time, and we won’t really be able to “see” much of the space since it will all be “completely buried.”
We have not made a final call on whether our caterer should drive the hour plus to the site to tryyy to make it work, or whether we’ll just be nice and let him stay home with a nice big mug of hot chocolate. I am slightly leaning towards just having some hot chocolate myself, but, well, we don’t know when we can next make it up there and we REALLLLYYYYY DOOOOO need to find out if there is physically enough space to hold our wedding where we want it to be!
What do you think? Should we be bullies and make him drive over (he said he might have to rent a car since he doubts his old truck will make it!) or just wait as the wedding rapidly approaches without knowing if there’s space for tents and tables, with no backup location? We’re right at four months until the wedding and I’m sure it will be at least a month before we’re able to trek back up there!
[Silver lining: This shouldn't affect my hair trial at least! :-)]
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Dude, snow is so cool when you live in LA! Sorry about that, though. Honestly, do you have any pictures of what the ground normally looks like, so he can see in 2D and then he come show up and see what it possibly looks like in 3D, just with snow covering it- so he sees the actual site and dimensions, but has the picture for reference. And anyway, didn’t he see it for your brother’s wedding?
Good luck with the hair trial!!!
Let him stay home. I mean if he is willing to make the trip then great but have a heart and worry about his safety on the road with other stupid drivers.
I find that when a site is covered with snow, it’s nearly impossible to get an accurate sense of what it really looks like and that might make it hard for him to visualize. But I’d be scared if I were you too - four months, yikes. Can he come out and see the place without you? Maybe you can meet up with him somewhere else and nail down the specifics of your vision and then he can come out and see it with your parents sometime after the snow has melted a bit?
Thistle - that’s exactly what I’m worried about!! I feel like if it were a pain but we’d definitely KNOW at the end of the meeting then it would be worth it, but since there’s a good chance it will end in “we’ll have to see it without snow to tell” I’m just not sure….
BUT…he has done a million events and will have a much better idea of how much space he needs than I would.
Miss Kiwi - he hasn’t actually been up to the house because while my brother’s ceremony was there, they had the reception elsewhere. But bringing pictures is a good idea…I’m just unsure of all the distances between things which I think he might need to measure. We had discussed the possibility of him just going over with my parents but unfortunately it will probably stay snowy for the next couple months so it might be April before it all really melts!!
Seattle - Yeah he is definitely willing to come and at this point seems even more enthusiastic about it than I am!! My parents said all the roads are totally cleared by now so the only trouble would probably be in finding a place to park and then getting out of it again. It’s the hiking and lack of visualization-power that I’m most concerned about now!
it sounds like you’ve done a fair assessment of the situation (ie. you’re not insisting he come just cuz of the time crunch and are fully aware of the lack of visualization power), but I’m leaning towards cancelling. Even if the snow’s not completely gone by March/April, the grounds would be better to look at and assess then than now, when the snow’s piled pretty damn high!
Is there a way you could get a couple of hardy people to go out there with tape measure in hand? Maybe all he needs are pictures and measurments? You could draw a pretty map from a birdseye perspective with accurate measurments. He should be able to figure that out, knowing what’s comfortable for the tents and whatnot. Sounds like a fun couple of cold hours of you and FI measuring every possible measurment in waisthigh snow. Just think of the hot chocolate you can reward yourself with! If he wants to come out anyway even after that, at leas you’ll be able to have some peace of mind with the numbers backing up his gut instinct of wheather or not it’ll work. Good luck!
Oooh that is a good idea Thistle!! I think we’ll probably try doing that now that I think about it. Unless we get lazy and/or cold. 
Thanks guys!!!
sorry, i have no idea what you should do but living in l.a. and having NEVER seen snow before i think that big blanket of snow looks SOOO beautiful.
Is your location somewhere that hosts a lot of events? Can you put your caterer in touch with the site manager? If they are both pros they can work most of it out on the phone or email. Maybe even a conference call with all three of you. A site visit in great, but a lot of caterers are good enough to figure it out by talking it through with the people on site that work the venue every week.
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Mrs. Bluebell, New York
Age and Occupation in 07: 26, Finance Manager
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 27, Playing with the cat and/or Consulting
Engagement Date: December 25, 2005
Wedding Date: June 2007
Venue: Bride's family summer home in the Adirondacks
About Me: Trying to find the perfect balance between family tradition (marrying at the house everyone else in my family gets married at), making our's modern, interesting and different from everyone else in my family's, and incorporating some Chinese tradition for my Chinese fiance. I really have no idea what it's going to end up looking like!
Also, I picked Miss Bluebell for my name because I have blue eyes and I'm a loser like that.
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