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I asked Mr. Apple a couple of months ago whether he preferred to see me in my wedding dress before the ceremony or during the ceremony. Did he want to be surprised? His response was, “Yeah, I want to be surprised!” Then last week I asked him again since I was tempted to show him a photo of my wedding gown (also a busy wedding week), and he said, “Eh, It doesn’t really matter.”
I guess assisting me with wedding planning has really drained his wedding mood. It’s just too much money, detail, organization, color scheme selecting, shopping, research and Weddingbee for him to handle. I can totally understand since I also go through stages too. But I love it nonetheless. So I guess if you do decide to ask your fiance, make sure he’s well fed, well rested, has minimal stress, and is in good spirits.
Lots of brides and their fiances envision seeing each other for the very first time during the ceremony processional. We want that climactic moment. We want to see tears of joy, love, and sheer excitement from both. Totally normal I think.
But for me, I must be abnormal because it doesn’t really matter. I wasn’t happy or hurt by either of his answers. I don’t really have a preference - I’d rather him decide. Though I’ll be in a sparkly white dress with pretty hair, pretty makeup, pretty hairpin, pretty shoes, pretty pearls and diamonds I know he’s not going to be like, “WOW, HOLY MOLY, YOU LOOK STUNNIING and then faint.” Well, maybe a little whisper, “You look beautiful” is good enough for me. 
Have you asked your fiance if he wanted to be surprised or if it even mattered?
My hubby and I saw each other before the ceremony mainly because we wanted to take a bunch of photos with the bridal party and family before the ceremony. We made it special by seeing each other privately, which the photographer captured nicely and discreetly on film.
We are going to have 30 mins before the ceremony where my fiance and i will see each other for the first time. The only other person allowed in the house is the photographer. We will have some alone time, a glass of wine, and then we will start. 
I asked him, and he initially said he wanted to be surprised. But then after discussing with the photographer that we would have to have a 2:30pm ceremony in orrder to get all the pictures in before sunset, he quickly said he would rather have a private moment just the two of us that the photog captures. That way we are able to take all of the pictures before, and we can actually enjoy the cocktail hour with our guests (plus push the ceremony back to 4pm)!!
my husband didn’t want to be surprised…but i wanted him to be! in the end..we had it my way…and my husband said he wouldn’t have had it any other way!
My FI didn’t really have a preference. In the process of trying to figure out a day of timeline, we decided together to see each other before.
I’m pretty traditional, so I’m making certain that my FH will NOT see me before I walk down the aisle! I already have some really cute photos in mind of us in our wedding clothes next to each other but with a wall or something in between us so we can’t actually “see” each other I also want to write him a note that he can read before the ceremony starts and have the photographer capture that as well.
We, too, are doing our pictures beforehand, and the only ones that won’t be done until after the ceremony are the ones of both of us together. That way it should only take us like 30 minutes to get done so we don’t hold the guests in limbo for too long before starting the party!
We have decided to do pictures after the ceremony because he is insistant on not seeing me until I walk down the aisle, I’m actually less worried about pictures (I don’t mind moving the wedding up in the day) than I am about him potentially not liking my dress, I worry about things like that especially because he is really picky.
we’ve talked about it and i’m usually the one that pushes the idea that we shouldn’t see each other..but i think we would have to take pictures before the ceremony. :T
i agree..i know he won’t faint upon seeing..but i too would enjoy that sweet little whispered compliment 
it would have been nice not to see each other - in retrospect i think i definitely would have cried if we waited until the ceremony. but pictures beforehand were more important to me, and mr. bee didn’t really care either.
yeahhh we’re the same as the Bees. i want to but can’t bc of pics. Mr. Peach doesn’t care. boooo. hahaha. oh well.
My FI laced me up the first time I tried on my dress (I bought it on EBay).
We’re also doing all of the pictures before the ceremony. I think interacting with each other like that beforehand will help calm both of us down =P.
we are not seeing each other before, at fi’s insistence. i don’t think it will matter, emotionally — we’re both going to be big crying messes.
We were both in agreement from the start - won’t see each other till the ceremony. Pictures of girls alone and boys alone and each of our families alone will be taken before the ceremony then pictures of us together, families together, and bridal party together will be after the ceremony. It’ll cut into the cocktail hour, but so be it. As long as the caterer brings us some food, I’m a happy girl!
Oh, and we’re also having a photo session the day after the wedding for a lot of more “fun” pictures of the two of us in different locations
We went back and forth about this. I thought I wanted to wait until I walked down the isle — we both did actually. But the more I thought about it, the more it is just about having that moment and having it privately (or just with your photographer) is what we decided was more meaningful. Plus, I wear glasses and from the long church isle, I woun’t be able to see his reaction!
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Mrs. Apple, Dallas Age and Occupation in '07: 28, Entrepreneur Fiance's Age and Occupation: 32, Police Officer Engagement Date: Easter Day 2006 Wedding Date: May 27, 2007 Blogging Since: September 28, 2006 Venue: Marie Gabrielle Restaurant & Gardens About Me: I'm in the midst of trying to plan a "perfectly beautiful" wedding and decorating my new home. It's been exhausting but totally worth every minute of it. Ironically, I was never the type of person to want to get married but now that I'm engaged, I get giddy over anything that is wedding related! I'll try my best to give you all unique and practical ideas.
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