Weddingbee Blog

Joyful, the one time I was BM, I have always bought my own dress. However, the bride did help us in cutting costs down by choosing an inexpensive dress and doing the alterations herself.

For my wedding, I only have my MOH, who I told to wear any black dress she wanted. I am buying a pashmina in apple green so there is a splash of color.

Just make sure your BMs are aware of the costs upfront. I think every situation is different. I would love to buy her dress, but it is just not feasible. I tried to do the next best thing in giving her flexibility on price and style, so hopefully she can wear it again.

Joyful,
When I was MOH for my sister, I bought my own dress. For some reason traditions are a little different in Hawaii - the bride and groom normally pay for the bridal party’s attire while on the Mainland, the bridal party pays for their own. I think you should just take costs into consideration for everyone and choose accordingly. Don’t feel that you have to pay for everything if you can’t.

JW - we did a korean ceremony. we changed into our traditional attire during the cocktail hour and did it right at the beginning of the reception. the salad was served while we went to change back into our wedding attire, and then we came out to do our first dance.

i have a friend who did two cultural ceremonies during the reception and it was a lot. if you could do one of them another day or earlier in the day, i think that’d be a lot easier on you.

we had a very short 10-15 minute ceremony, because we had a 20 minute korean ceremony. you can tailor the korean ceremony based on how much time you have, how many relatives you have, etc.

if you want to do both during the reception tho, you could do one during the cocktail hour, and another at some point during your reception. it’ll be a lot of attire changes which is actually much more time consuming than you’d think.

i hope that helps! feel free to ask any more specific questions!

for the beehive - I’m going down the DIY route for invitations and I’d appreciate any advice on doing pocketfold invitations vs. an inner envelope stuffed inside the outer envelope. And I really would like to use dark brown as the color of the envelope, is this a no-no for a mid-May wedding in NJ? My invitations will be printed on an ivory cardstock with sage green and brown ink.

miss Emerald–I ended up having the same problem (only mine was due to metallic ink) and tried using a bit of aerosol hairspray (Aquanet!) on each card–this helped solidify the ink! Just a thought, if you don’t feel like buying more ink

seattleaug11–why don’t you put a line of “___ of ___ will attend” and then one of “___send regrets” This way *you* can fill in the second ___ yourself, with how many people are invited…so one couple’s invite might read “___ of _2_ will attend”. People will still be thick-headed and cross out your number and substitute their own, but that should make it more clear

seattleaug11 - you can see what miss butterfly did here with her rsvps: http://www.weddingbee.com/2006/07/27/invitation-proofs-2/

Beta, I love Jo Malone’s Orange Blossom. I think all of her perfumes are citrusy/fruity.

Miss Emerald - have you tried a fixative spray?

Thanks Beehive! I think I will do the ___of___ idea. I knew you ladies would have the answer!

I do not know where all you can get it but London based Jo Malone (Sacs carries it). She has several heavenly scents.
French lime blossom:The scent of sweet lime blossoms with a twist of bergamot and tarragon is evocative of the first day of spring.
And my favorite; Lime Basil and Mandarin!