In today’s hive:
- Bebe wants to know when she should send her rehearsal dinner invites. Her FFIL wants to send them one week after the wedding invitations, but she’s wondering if she should give people time to decide if they’re coming to the wedding first.
- MOH07 is looking for trolley or bus rental referrals to transport guests from the ceremony site to the reception site in Palos Verdes, CA.
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I agree with Becky. You should have the wedding party confirmed before you send invites, and since they’re the ones you need to rehearse (and therefore feed) I don’t think it would be weird from that aspect.
On the other hand, if you are sending them that close together, why not send them all in the same envelope? That way you can save on postage. I guess this really only works if in your invite package you are having separate cards for things like the hotel info and maps/directions, and if your RD invites match the scheme of the rest of it.
I guess your FFIL is wanting to get a head count asap since he’s (most likely) footing the bill for the RD. But unless this is all happening in the next month, you’ve got time to space it out and let people relish in each invite individually, making them feel doubly important and wanted 
Bebe - what I did was tell people informally that there was a rehearsal dinner and that they were invited. Most OOT guests know, and have verbally confirmed that they will be in attendance. Based on that number, I was able to give my FMIL a general head count of the number of people / mouths that need to be fed.
As for the actual invites themselves, however, I am only sending them out after I get rsvp’s from people. Why? They’re accounted for in the “there will be 35-50″ people at the rehearsal dinner (30 confirmed, 15 other OOT guests), but since I’m hand making the rehearsal dinner invites, I didn’t want to have to make too many for guests I’m not sure of whether they’ll come. Hope that makes sense!
i think you’re more likely to get a response to both if you send them together - it’ll seem doubly important. these are your closest friends and family, so i’m sure they won’t mind whatever you decide to do.
sorry moh07 - i don’t know of any trolley services in that area, but i can advise you to tell them to come earlier than they’re supposed to - because buses and limos are always late in my experience. good luck!
Bebe, I am all about sending it in the actual wedding invitations. We’re not looking for anyone to RSVP, so for us we’re just putting an insert in the invite. You could add an RSVP line to your wedding reception RSVP, or you can send an entirely separate invite but I would send them at the same time as your invites–you don’t need to know any sooner or later than you need to know about your reception!
MOH07- check with your local transportation system. I know mine has one trolley along with all the busses. Its really cute I love the idea!
I have a question for the hive. What’s a graceful way of offering entree selections on the RSVP so that a number is entered for each type of entree where the total is one entree per guest attending? I’m afraid that if I use blank lines with each selection that they would place checks on the lines rather than write numbers, or they would write numbers but the total will not match the number of people attending. All I could come up with is this:
*Entree selection:
Number of Chicken Entrees _______
Number of Fish Entrees _______
Number of Vegetarian Entrees _______
Number of **Kids Meals _______
*Total number of entrees should match Number Attending
**Children 12 years of age or under
Is this okay?
TO the OC brides/brides-2-be,
Can you please suggest some bridal stores in the are for good, affordable wedding dress , besides David’s and Angelo’s??
Thank you!
Jinny’s Bridal in Huntington Beach is a jewel! They won’t wine and dine you like say Priscilla of Boston, but you’ll get a GREAT dress at a GREAT price, plus excellent customer service from women who really know their stock and are there to make you happy. You don’t need an appointment but the weekends are crazy. If you can go on a weekday, you’ll get more personal attention and the store is pretty much empty. They also stay open in the Evening…try after work one night (I did this with my Mom and Sister and we were the only ones in the store.)
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Typically since it’s mostly immediate family and the bridal party at the rehersal dinner I don’t think it’d be a problem to send them out now. If you’re inviting more people, they might be more inclined to attend if they get an invite to the rehersal dinner since it’s technically 2 events in one. KWIM?