Wedding Blog

Absolutely. My family is Mormon and of course they want us married by a Mormon officiant (Bishop) in a Mormon church, blah blah. I just say what I want and my mom says what she wants and we come up with a compromise. I didn’t want to get married in a Mormon church, so we found a venue that both of us really liked where we could also have the reception.
I don’t know, it just worked out by us talking it through.

Our families are very religious, just not the same ones (Catholic & Episcopalian). FI and I have similar, but still differing spiritual beliefs, yet we were 100% on the same page about how we saw our ceremony. Our families were *very* upset/offended/concerned that we are not having any religion whatsoever in our ceremony. We explained that, while we appreciate their perspectives, we have always held these beliefs and don’t intend to change them for this particular occasion. We’ve heard nothing more about it since.

We’re having a private ceremony: just our closest family members (even still, there will be 41 in attendance!), and that has created equitable a fuss as well.

We figured out recently that it’s impossible to please both families, so we might as well make it a joyous day for ourselves and hope the rest will fall into place!

We have been lucky that our families do not really influence what we do. Neither of us live by them. I am Buddhist. He is Christian and Buddhist. We are crafting our own ceremony. We actually spent the past weekend at a marriage preparation retreat organized by and for Catholics. They were just nice enough to let us participate and they did not try to disuade us from not being Catholic. It was good to talk about spirituality in our lives as it pertains to the wedding and our values.

I practice more structured spirituality than my fiancee and he now plans to attend services held at our home institution. In turn he will teach me a few prayers because I am completely ignorant about the bible and prayers. We are fine with the arrangements for the ceremony but thought more about how to rear our family as we start having kids. We are in agreement as to how we will do this. It is just good to talk about this kind of stuff beforehand. Before our retreat we went through exercises in the Conscious Brides Wedding Planner, so we had no surprises.

Good luck to everyone with this issue because it can be tricky when you are not the same faith, or are not following the faith exactly as how your family wishes.

We are atheists and my parents are Evangelical Christians. They knew long before we were engaged that we wouldn’t have a church ceremony–and they agree the church should be reserved for the believers not the pretenders. But, I didn’t want to ignore my upbringing or disrespect their beliefs by having no religion in our ceremony. So, after we are married, my grandmother is coming up to give a blessing–sort of a closing prayer. It made my mom really happy that I was going to do this.

I was raised in many religions. My mother was raised Unitarian (although my grandmother was a Transendentalist, but when that died out, many became Unitarians and my grandfather was an aethist). My father was raised in a Catholic country (Columbia/Panama/Costa Rica) by a Baha’i and a Jew who pretended to be Catholic in public in the 1950’s. So there are pictures of my Dad the Baha’i/Jew in front of Christmas trees.

Needless to say, when I was born in a Catholic country, my grandparent’s maid found out that there were no plans to baptise me, so she kidnapped me for the afternoon and stood up as my godmother in church to have me baptized in the Catholic church. She soon after confessed and apologized to my parents who thought it was pretty damn funny and figured hey - she’s pretty covered by the Christian/Judea God. I was raised knowing all of these religions and developing my own sense of spirituality/religion

So when I became engaged to my FI who was raised Catholic, his mother had hopes that we’d have a Catholic ceremony b/c I could after all with being baptized. But we put our foot down pretty strongly that we’d be having a very multi/non-denominational (it’s still a little fuzzy, haven’t figured it all out) outside so long as it doesn’t rain.

My FI’s response to his mother I thought was brilliant. His comment was “Mom, God’s a pretty smart guy, he’ll figure it out.”

i’m catholic qnd sweetie is baptist. well we decided to get married in another location that is outside the church. Since then my family has been criticising how ungodly i’m starting my marriage. it hurts my feelings but that’s what we wanted.