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Hi,
I’m seeking advice on how to approach a specific money matter with my fiance. Here’s the situation.
Money has never been an issue between my fiance and I. Everything up until now has been separate, but now that we have shared expenses, I’m encountering an issue. Between the two of us, I’m the only one who has money saved up. I’ve been saving up money since my first job about 13 years ago. He’s spent every last penny of his and then some. I didn’t want to wait another 10+ years for him to save up money so we can get married, and because of that I’m forking out all the money to pay for the wedding.
Ideally, the expenses should be split between the two of us, but because of his lack of funds, it’s not. I don’t think it’s unreasonable for me to request that I be “reimbursed” by keeping the monetary gifts we receive to cover what I spent on the wedding, and the excess (if there is any) should then be deposited into our joint account. I want to know if other people think this is reasonable. I know gifts are meant for the both of us, but so should expenses. Has anyone been in a similar situation? Is this a reasonable request? If it is, what is a good way to approach it?
Thanks.
GB
Is over?
I found these cute little blown-glass birdies on etsy (one of my fav sites!) from seller matthewstewart. This is my ghetto rendition of what the cake toppers will look like on top of our cake - of course, the colors will all coordinate on the real thing.
I emailed my cake consultant, Heather, at Frosted Art Bakery & Studio and asked her how much it would be to make those birds out of chocolate; it will cost me an extra $150! 
I think I’ll go ahead and put my order in for those glass birds today. What do you think?
While going through my FMIL’s Williams-Sonoma catalog, I found a few things “bird” brides might find helpful to put in their nest favors.
These are truffle eggs, coming in a package of 24 for $12.00.
A funny thing happened to me since last June — I lost interest in the “wedding” — the party, the shoes, the personalized napkins, the I-never- got-around-to-making cocktail menu, the place card “disaster” — and started paying a lot more attention to the marriage.
Suddenly, what are we having for dinner began to trump post-wedding related tasks. My dress didn’t go to the cleaners until December, the thank you notes didn’t get finished until… gulp… last week (!). I still haven’t started dealing with the wedding album, and my last name remains unchanged (although I’m sure my hubby would call this marriage, rather than wedding, related).
I decided to post here to put myself on notice and get my act together. Below is a list of wedding related tasks that remain and that must (must must must) be started in the coming weeks and (hopefully) completed by our one-year anniversary:
1 - Order photos on Shutterfly to make mini-albums for my mom, grandparents and Mr. Firefly’s sister. I have already purchased this Celine Countryman brag book for one of the albums — each page fits a 4×6 print. I might go with something a bit fancier for my mother if I decide to forgo the standard 5×7 white leather parents’ album.
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“Add a memorable touch to your wedding with unique favors that match your theme.”
As highly personalized weddings are becoming more popular, so are theme weddings–they allow a couple to exhibit their unique interest in a certain movie, culture, team or event. And the people at Middle Earth Weddings have figured out nearly every aspect of the Lord of the Rings wedding of your dreams (if that’s what you dream about, of course 
)!
Their site features a directory for everything from elfin cakes to the wedding hairstyle a hobbit might have–such a treasure trove of information!
The photos section shows some real-life Middle Earth weddings, and I must admit I was pleasantly surprised by what I saw. I loved the subtle touches that people incorporated–instead of having a Gandalf look-alike officiate and forcing guests to show up in cloaks, the couples’ interest in LotR was manifested in many less overt ways.
Sad to say, but my hair is pitifully thin and I barely get a half a handful when I pull it back into a ponytail.
See Exhibit A…ignore the shiny forehead. My hair just kind of sits there and does nothing. Not to mention I consider this a halfway decent hair day. 
Create the honeymoon of your dreams.
We came…we saw…we “I do’d.”
October 21 was a pretty magical day from start to finish (despite some major snafus). Yep…it went by in a flash. Yep…many things went wrong, but our wedding day was still more dreamy/fantastic/over the top/delicious/fun than I could have ever imagined. Here are the deets:
Our wedding was in Big Horn (a fancy shmancy community in Palm Desert, CA where my aunt, who threw our whole shindig, lives).
I like a little sparkle every once in a while. I’m that kind of girl. Miss Caterpillar turned me onto Bayberry Cove some time ago and I’ve been hooked ever since! Most of the site is categorized by season–more specifically holidays, but they have some things that might work for your wedding too. Some of it is a bit pricey, but I thought it might be great inspiration for people who enjoy a good DIY project.
A fun cake stand.
It’s finally time to update everyone on our trip upstate last weekend to see if we can have our wedding where we were planning to. (At our family’s summer house in the Adirondacks…which lacks enough uninterrupted space for a single large tent.)
Because the snow was so so deep…
we decided not to make our caterer drive all the way out to meet us. Instead, we took our 100 lb plus black lab and some snowshoes, and tried to trek up ourselves to at least check the area out. It was rather difficult.
Mrs. Beetle used to write a weekly advice column for us back when she was a lovely Miss. At the time she was actually a bride-to-bee, but wasn’t a regular weddingbee blogger. She’s since had a gorgeous destination wedding in California, so we’ve asked her to guest blog this week!
Mrs. Beetle is going to share some pictures, ideas, and advice as a former bride, and as someone who’s in the wedding biz (she’s the mind behind Paper Bride!).
Please welcome back Mrs. Beetle! 
This past weekend, I went to go pick up my Watters 
I was very surprised at how quickly it came in - I ordered it approximately 3 or so months ago and it came in 2 weeks ago!
This gown is from Watters Brides new 2007 line.
In last week’s “Reader Feedback” post, one of the weddingbee readers commented on how we should have a “Mrs.” come back and blog about wedding do’s and dont’s. This was a great suggestion.
Awhile back I actually emailed a few of the weddingbee bugs about that very same question. They all gave me sound advice. Advice that I desperately needed at the time because I was struggling so much with what I should and should not purchase. They also all agreed that though the little details are cute, the very most important part is to just enjoy and keep it fun during the entire planning process and on the day of our wedding.
I really needed them to tell me that via world wide web. I was just so confused. Though Mr. Apple, friends, and family tell me everyday to not spend so much on “unneccessary” wedding purchases, I don’t listen. I am one stubborn horse. I needed someone who had a recent wedding and not one a decade ago (ie family members) so I could relate better to them.
So, with only three months left - I’m a bit sad that Weddingbee for me is almost over, but so excited to be Mrs. Apple. Here are some tips that I’ve learned along the way. Hopefully this will help some of you currently confused brides.
Dot Print Wrap Dress, $60.00 $39.99 (in-store)
I’m not quite sure how one goes about changing their name. I’m sure it’s rather cheap, but involves a lot of paper work. And errand running and or phone calls to get said paper work. I’m lazy. I don’t want to do that. I saw this on the Knot today and am seriously considering buying it.
Normally $30, it’s on sale for $20.99. “Includes everything needed to change your surname, including official forms for Social Security, IRS, DMV, voting, and passport — plus 14 pages of instructions and a thorough name-change checklist. CD includes form letters to send to banks, doctors, credit card and insurance companies, and more!”
Waste of money? Quite possibly. But for a lazy bum like me, it’s perfect.
One of the most frustrating parts of being a plus-sized bride is that I see all these wonderful ideas that smaller brides have, but know that it will be hard to find the clothing item in my size (if at all possible). Granted, I really don’t have any desire to wear a garter, but it would be great to wear those cute ruffle butt panties or the terrycloth wraps that other people wear.
No worries, friends. I have found sites that have the aforementioned items.
Hipsandcurves.com sells ruffle butt panties (albeit not in blue) that fit anywhere from 1X-3X. The panties are either white or red and are called “Rhumba panties.”
Two sites that have the terrycloth wraps are: Embroideree and Plussizebathwraps.
Now I’ll get to wear the ruffly panties I <3 and get myself and my bridesmaids the terrycloth wraps. The trouble I go through for a couple of pictures!
Anyone out there have other sources for ruffle butt panties for not tiny girls?
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