Okay guys, I have a dilemma. I bought a necklace weeks after getting engaged with the hopes to wear it on my wedding day. I loved this necklace the moment I saw it (a few months before), and had to get it. This was a little over a year ago.
Since then, I have built our wedding around this necklace. It being an acorn with oak leaves, the “fall splendor” theme fell into my lap. So, things evolved and our wedding began to take its shape.
Now that I’ve bought my dress, my shoes (more about that later), my tiara and earrings and the heirloom bracelet from my cousin Karen- my necklace doesn’t match. My accessories are gold tones with ivory accents. My necklace is a burnished gold/copper with the acorn made of a small brown pearl.
As much as I want to wear it, I really think it may not be right with the rest of the items I have. Not to mention the acorn is hard to attain in southern California! So, slowly the acorn has been phased out, and the fallen leaves have taken it’s place. I’m fine with the theme “changing” in a way, as I do love the colors of leaves in Autumn.
Anyway, what do you think? Just wear the necklace with the rest of the things even though it really clashes? Or just wear it now, and get something else.
For your reference, here is my necklace. In real life it’s a lot closer to copper in color, and the pearl is almost a purpley color.
And here is my tiara. In real life, the gold is a lot more of a rosy color. The pearl studs I bought are the exact color as the pearls in the tiara.
Honest opinions, please!
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They don’t have to match 10000%! Try taking a picture of the tiara/necklace/earrings all together and see if they “go”! I feel like the overall look is still similar enough that there’s a good chance it will still work together even if they don’t technically match!!
If you love it, wear it. My necklace doesn’t necessarily go with the tone of the wedding but I love it and it was from FI so it’s special to us, and the wedding.
I am in the anti-knot-matchy-matchy-overly-themed wedding hater mode. Don’t get me wrong, I love a lot of those weddings, but I think that brides need to do what they want for their weddings! It sounds like you love it and it sounds like it does fit your theme and therefore, I think you wear it. 
i’m with wsukarebear on this one. it doesn’t have to match.
i was trying to find the haute bride bracelet, and i completely forgot i have a perfect bracelet: a charm bracelet with charms of all the places fi and i have ever traveled to. i’d rather wear that than some trendy accessory.
You’ve got time. When you’ ve got the dress, decide if it works. it’s ok if it doesn’t. Plus, as long as your fall themed wedding isn’t in the spring, I don’t think anything will be wrong.
I’d get some distance from this, though.
Take a picture of them on you - the top of the head and your neck are farther away from each other than you think when it comes to matching. Also, you could go to a bead store and have them (or diy) wire a few darker color pearls randomly into the tiara to add some darker color if you wanted.
If it really doesn’t work with your get up, maybe you could integrate it some other way - like a bouquet wrap or something?
Honest opinion? You should do what makes you happy. I’m also not a matchy-matchy bride. Whenever I find myself thinking “but that’s not my colors!” I give myself a mental slap upside the head. But, it depends how you feel–if it bothers you that it doesn’t match, then find something else. Don’t wear it just because you feel you should. It’s a necklace, not an old friend. Wear the acorn to your rehearsal dinner and on the honeymoon. Wear it all morning as you get ready for your wedding. Or, wear the acorn and be proud! Why not? So there aren’t any acorns around in Southern California! Big deal. BTW, I love your tiara. Where did you get it?
I was going to say the same thing as JLB07… I have a pin that doesn’t “match” (an angel of my grandmother’s that is gold) that I am attaching to my bouquet but I had considered wrapping/attaching a necklace from my great grandmother that is now my mom’s that doesn’t look right with my dress.
If it truly doesn’t match and it doesn’t make you happy to wear it, why not put it in your bouqet. Then you could have the inspiration for everything else still in your attire.
I don’t think it wouldn’t match either. The necklace isn’t large enough to where people would automatically notice a big difference. And I like the leaves, they match the rest of the concept.
I think you can wear it! Heh.
Hey guys!! Thanks for the opinions!
Here’s some things I didn’t really say…
Honestly? I’m not losing sleep over this. Seriously, it’s more of a “hm… I wonder if that’ll look odd in pictures”. And, I’m an weird girl. I need things to match. At least as much as they can in a wedding of many different colors. This is why, no matter how much I want them, I can’t get blue shoes. I think it’s so cool. And I want them. But I won’t wear them. I need things to “go”. It drives me crazy, this need for things to match up. Be it a stack of papers stacked haphazardly or shoes that don’t match my shirt/pants, it’s the same every time.
So I’m not worried people will think it’s weird or doesn’t match (since I do know people don’t give a crap!). I worry that I’ll be distracted about it not going. And yeah, while I hate that, it’s an issue I deal with constantly. I suuuuck. So, I’ll go home today, wear them all, and see if it matches enough to satiate my manic needs.
And if not, rehearsal dinner here I come! And maybe my bouquet, too!
Thanks SO much.
Wrap it around your bouquet! That way, it doesn’t ‘clash’ but since it’s important and you love it, it makes it down the aisle and will look great in pics of your bouquet
What about wrapping it around your bouquet? A lot of brides attach pins and such to the stems (and ribbons thats wrapped around) and you could just put it there.
A lot of people said that,and I just noticed it now, haha.
I say wear it. I LOVE that necklace and I think it would be a shame for you not to 
My advice: Wear it. Because if it’s special to you, that’s what matters.
Here’s my little story.
Right before the ceremony was about to start, I was in the church basement getting ready when I realized I had left my earrings and necklace at home. I freaked out, and my mom ran home to get them. Literally seconds before the processional, my mom ran in, hooked the necklace on, and got in line.
A couple weeks late while my DH and I were looking at photos, I told him about almost not being able to wear the necklace.
His response, “You know, I didn’t even realize you were wearing a necklace.”
Ok I am a matchy matchy women. and I hate mixing of metals. But your wedding is different. I totally think you should wear it if it make you happy.
My humble opinion:
you are expressing doubts ..now…
If you think u can wear both (all ) pieces on YOUR BIG DAY; and know in the back of your mind that its not 100% matching..and really..you are TRULY OK with it…then
there is your answer…
However..if knowing that you are a lil off is uneasy for you..
I would wear the acorn at the rehersal dinner
or maybe get your florist to entwine it with your bouquet
?
In my opinion its not about being 100% MATCHY
for me its important that something isnt OFF…
as in.”ohhh sooo nice….ex-cept….”
my two cents
I say try it all on together. If you love it great, if you don’t, I agree with using it as a boquet wrap. That way it walks down the aisle with you without interruping your “look”.
Most of all- do what makes you happiest. No one but you will notice 90% of the stuff that we brides worry about.
Pencils, I totally forgot: My tiara is from http://www.veilshop.com.
I LOVE it. There are so many other kinds, too!
i’m in love w/ your tiara. its awesome!!
I agree with the others telling you do what makes you happy. But also realize this. There aren’t going to be people saying “OMG! She’s not matching her jewelry!” And if they did, screw them! What do they know. Don’t worry about how others look at you - it’s about you & your soon-to-be-hubby, right?
Wear what you like, it’ll look great. 
Miss Kiwi–thanks for the Veilshop link! I need to think about a veil in the near future. I bought my tiara already, from Orange Blossom Tiaras. I thought yours might be from there too, it has a similar look to some of their designs. I adore my tiara so much I’m getting matching, but less elaborate tiaras for my bridesmaids (who are all ages fifteen and younger.) This is the design, although mine is silver, with cream pearls and sapphire crystals:
http://www.orangeblossomtiaras.com/product/015118.shtml
My bridesmaids will have these. They’re all very excited about the wedding, and now they get to wear a tiara, too! I think I get Aunt of the Year award (they’re my nieces and goddaughter.)
Mrs. Kiwi, Los Angeles
Age and Occupation in 06: 27, Bookkeeper
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 27, P.E. Teach/Coach @ private schools in LA
Engagement Date: March 31, 2006
Wedding Date: November 3, 2007
Venue: Radisson Hotel
About Me: I'm a bookkeeper who failed high school algebra. I'm currently living in Los Angeles, literally a street over from where I grew up with Mr. Kiwi, my honey of three years. We have a jumbo mini-dachshund (seriously, he's huuuuge), and we're planning an autumn themed wedding on a shoestring, paid for by ourselves. The wedding date is my late grandma's birthday, I needed her there somehow, and that seemed like the best way for us. I can't believe I'm a Bee! I couldn't be more proud!
You could wear it for the rehearsal dinner.