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Normally I’m not a party girl. I’d rather go see a movie or stay home, make cookies and watch The Office with Mr. Kiwi. I don’t like staying up late and I’m not a big dancer, either. So, it shocked me that I was a little disappointed when I realized I probably won’t be having a bachelorette party.
Like I’ve mentioned before, I don’t really have girl friends. I have a few girls I talk to and a lot of girl cousins I hang out with, but that’s really it. Somehow I doubt my guy friends would want to go clubbing with a woman wearing a “My Last Night as a Single Woman!” t-shirt and a (bought by myself) silly antennae headband with penises flailing about. That’s honestly quite alright with me.
I’ve never really understood the need to have a “final” night of being single. The idea of trying to get all the fun and excitement out before the wedding seems silly. I LOVE being in a relationship. I’m a serial monogamer (I love making up words). I’m good at it. But, even as a relationship fiend, I DID once engage in a little beauty of a show called The Thunder Down Under in Las Vegas. It was okay, but a little embarrassing.
Anyway, my life now is a little more domestic and a lot less party-hardy. So, if I were to actually have a bachelorette party, I think I’d want one of those cool pampering parties, or maybe a nice tea luncheon. There are so many kinds of bachelorette party options now: boozin’ it up with your gal pals trying to get a dirty scavenger hunt completed, the afternoon tea parties, the spa days, the weekend-long “girls only parties,” and many many more.
So, unless I make some new friends soon, it’s unlikely I’ll have a bachelorette party. While I’m a little sad about that, I know my mom and family will make sure I have a bridal shower to be proud of.
What kind of bachelorette party did you have/would you want?
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I’m not a big dance club kind of girl either so we’re getting a cabin in the woods. It’s just going to be a wine drinking, hot tub sitting, girl talking weekend.
I’m like you - I’m not a partier anymore and more than likely am not having any type of shower or party thrown for me. I’m ok with it, I mean, I’d have to be, right? Because I can’t force someone to plan one for me 
My ideal bachelorette party would be a day full of shopping, getting manicures/pedicures, going out to a nice restaurant, and indulging in way too much wine, followed by a chick flick marathon. I’m very low key.
I’m really low-key too, and I agree…I don’t run around going to bars and clubs on a regular weekend, so why would I want to on my “last weekend”? I’d be fine with a Kevin Smith movie marathon and tons of wine!
I am definitely a “laid back-SPA-weekend-with- my-girlfriends” type of bride. There is no need for strippers and drunkeness for me. Where there is potential drama…avoid it at all costs.
I’m not much of a party/drinker person either. I’m going to Disney World for mine!
I don’t drink, so that’s out. It’s not exactly a fun night of drunken debauchery when the guest of honor is neither drunk nor eager to be debauched. I’m hoping for an indulgent spa day. Although I won’t be surprised if a stripper shows up. 
I wasn’t even sure if I was going to have a bachelorette party, as my bridesmaids are my young teenage nieces. I do have friends, I just let them off the hook when it came to wearing matching dresses. Anyway, several of my friends got very indignant when I said “probably no bachelorette party…” So I guess we’re having one. It won’t be until just before the wedding, though, as one of my girlfriends is about to pop with her first baby and she’d never forgive us if we went without her. But then it’s supposed to be just before the wedding anyway, right?
i would love to have lunch w/ some girls in an open patio. Tonic in NYC has a nice patio at the top of their restaurant/bar and we can have a wonderful time w/ a cocktail, music, and some food!
I’m guessing that I’m going to have two. One super low key (hopefully spa involved) and the other more of a night on the town kind. I have two seperate groups of friends as I’ve lived in so many places in my life. The night on the town kind probably won’t be my town but rather Miami or LV…. scarry.
My ‘maids are planning two: One will be a spa weekend (or, more likely, a night at the spa and then the next night at my friend’s cabin - wine and pedicures, woo hoo!) and a night on the town. It won’t get too crazy; I’m not a partier, although I’m sure with have some cocktails and make our own fun. My friend mentioned having T-shirts made up, but I’m not going to go the penis/wedding veil route. There won’t be any bachelorette party games (those “checkoff list” games aren’t for me) or a stripper. Just some girls on the town, doing girly things.
I want to make a full day of it, or preferably a full weekend of it so I can do the low-key, relaxing spa day followed by night on the town. I live in Vancouver BC, and they have these awesome stagette parties thrown by a company up in Whistler so we might go there for a whole weekend and just have a blast at various restaurants, do the zip line or go bungee jumping, get massages and go party. I would love that.
I also have few girlfriends and the ones that I do have don’t know one another because they are from different eras in my life so I likely won’t be having a bachelorette party either. I am sort of bummed because although I am not really a club kind of girl either I have been known to shake my booty on occasion (once every 2 years or so!) and would like to be the center of attention for a night. I have had quite a low key engagement since we live in a different city then most of our friends and family so I have never really had the chance to celebrate being a “Bride - to - be” and that bums me out. I know that we will have at least 2 showers but it isn’t the same…
I already posted about my (hopeful) weekend so I don’t know that I need to explain that here. But yeah, the whole getting drunk/strippers/dancing thing is sooooo not my scene so I’m glad we’re going to do something else that I’ll actually enjoy!
And can’t you get together a cousin or two for a spa day at least? It doesn’t have to be a huuuge ordeal, just something to make you feel special!
I am completely on the same page! I have some close girlfriends, but none of them live here. My only friends in NJ are mostly work friends that I have hung out with only once or twice outside of school. I still have some hope that we will do something after my shower, or that my work friends will take me out, but I feel weird *asking* people to celebrate my remaining days as a single gal.
What a shame *we* can’t get together and throw ourselves a relaxing bachelorette day!
All of my girls are spread out, and they are already traveling for the wedding. I am going to celebrate with three of my local girls by having a fabulous day. It will be something low key like wine tasting, going to the Melting Pot and watching Sex and the City.
I’m hoping we’ll have a coed couples party with drinking and board games. Drunk scrabble = fun.
If he wants his own with the strippers & stuff, that’s fine by me, but since most of our friends are in common & I’m closer to the guys it’d be fun to also have an evening where we all hang out.
If not, an inhouse lmt with a slumber party would be fun, as long as it had drunk scrabble.
I’m also trying to get my shower switched to a frisbee golf date at one of the local brew pubs.
me and my honey decided no bachelor/ bachelorette parties, I’m not into having strippers being all up on me, and definetly don’t want my honey going to a striper club either, so we decided to just have a couples night out.
My ideal bachelorette party will be somewhere nearby a beach, but still in a nice city. I want to party up, have a nice dinner together w/ my close friends, and lie on the beach all day. I am actually thinking Oahu, Key West or maybe NYC…. haha… is that too much?
What I did for my bachelorette/bridal shower was have a private yoga-like class with just my girlfriends and I, followed by tea. Actually, my neck and shoulder muscles were so tight before the wedding that the class was perfect - I could actually turn my head at the end.
With all the chaos before the wedding, I valued every precious moment of sleep and was not about to stay up all night participating in activities I don’t care for!
I recently had a really nice bachelorette weekend up in Whistler with about 8 of my close friends. On our first night we did a sex toy party with trinity romance shop at our hotel room. They were great, and it was a hoot. My friends let me use the credit we earned to get whatever I wanted… very fun. The next day we had a relaxing spa day and went out to a nice dinner at la bocca. We finished up the weekend with some great skiing. All in all an amazing girls weekend food, sex and sport who can beat it?!
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Mrs. Kiwi, Los Angeles
Age and Occupation in 06: 27, Bookkeeper
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 27, P.E. Teach/Coach @ private schools in LA
Engagement Date: March 31, 2006
Wedding Date: November 3, 2007
Venue: Radisson Hotel
About Me: I'm a bookkeeper who failed high school algebra. I'm currently living in Los Angeles, literally a street over from where I grew up with Mr. Kiwi, my honey of three years. We have a jumbo mini-dachshund (seriously, he's huuuuge), and we're planning an autumn themed wedding on a shoestring, paid for by ourselves. The wedding date is my late grandma's birthday, I needed her there somehow, and that seemed like the best way for us. I can't believe I'm a Bee! I couldn't be more proud!
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