Weddingbee Blog

I think you might need to have your ring sized or just pick a band to put on your finger and get some therapy.

Couldn’t you just tell everyone it’s a small wedding of just family?

My co-worker took some time off, told her boss the day before why so that he could pass the news and when she came back it was already ‘old news’.

i can understand. i really don’t like people knowing too much about me at work. i honestly don’t talk to very many of my coworkers. only two actually. everyone else is idle chatter. and i don’t really worry about what other people say. but if you are in an office where that sort of stuff would affect your work, i can totally understand why you’d want to keep it hidden.

I like the idea of “leaking” the info right before you leave. I think it will accomplish exactly what you want - all of the gossip and “why didn’t she invite us?” questions will be out of the way and when you return they will most likely congratulate you and just move on.
I do wear my ring but I find myself pulling my sweater sleeves down to cover it or placing my other hand on top of it when I am sitting down. To my shock and delight my FI surprised me with what is an unusually large diamond for girls around here and I have been asked many inappropriate questions about it (carat size, cost, you name it!) so I just try to avoid it altogether by hiding my ring. Which is a real shame because it is so beautiful and FI is so proud that he picked it out all by himself and that I love it so much. I just can’t take the questions - I try to ward them off with the “yes, I am very lucky” or “he definitely spent more than he should have” comments but some girls are relentless!

I agree with Nancy.

i would also like to know how ur fiance feels about you not wearing your ring because “you dont like rings and the thing is too big for your hand anyway”.

I think it’s great the weddingbee hired a blogger who isn’t totally gung-ho about the traditional big, white wedding. It’s a different perspective (which is always valuable.)

I’m kinda disappointed that people are already attacking Ms Broccoli’s choices.

I know many people who are extremely gregarious outside of work, but incredibly private and quiet with their co-workers. We all work in very different professions and I’m sure you’ve realized that letting this out might lead to much more trouble than joy.
Thanks for being honest with us!

I have several issues with this.

If I were your fiance, I would be offended that the ring I purchased for you is just stuck in a drawer somewhere. It’s too big? Get it resized! If you didn’t even LIKE rings, why make him “try, really try” to get you a ring?

Secondly, I find it borderline unbalanced to try to hide this from your co-workers. For all the people who are saying this is about separating “work-life” from “personal-life”, that’s not what this is about at all IMHO.
It’s one thing to not be gregarious around co-workers (totally fine!), it’s a whole other ball of wax to go out of your way to be so secretive and constantly be evasive and, yes, shiftly, to people around you. What happens after you get married? Are you just going to keep that from them as well? What about if you get pregnant? Time to break out that shawl to hide your stomach. Giving birth? “Oh, uh, I need to go on a long vacation…I might be several pounds lighter when I get back.”

My main issue is that it implies that there’s something embarrassing about getting married. TELLING your co-workers you’re engaged is different than GLOATING to your co-workers that you’re engaged.