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Wow, I didn’t expect all that controversy to my Shhh! post. Thanks for all of your very different opinions! I’d like to think I’m above defending myself, but I’m not. Because I’m human and like most of the world, I enjoyed being loved more than I like being given the cold shoulder. So, please hear me out:
First off, Miss Mouse suggested that I tell my coworkers about my engagement right before the wedding, which is something I never considered (because I’m dense that way). Since we’re not very close to begin with, I really don’t believe that they’ll be upset at being the last to know. They’re very, very respective of my very, very private life, and so we live and work quite well together. Thanks Miss Mouse for the idea! I’m sure it will work out better than coming back and announcing that I’m married (”What? We didn’t even know that you had a boyfriend!… Are you PREGNANT?!”… Um, yeah, that’s the only reason anyone would want to marry me…)
Secondly, Mr. Broccoli loves Miss Broccoli. Miss Broccoli loves Mr. Broccoli. It really works out very well. He is in no way disappointed by my not wearing the e-ring. How come? Well, Mr. Broccoli knew how I felt about wearing an e-ring before he even bought the stone. But he’s somewhat of a traditional guy, and felt that he still needed to get one. If my not wearing the ring were a problem for him, believe me, I would wear the thing. I just feel bad that he still went through all that trouble.
But, like Chrissie mentioned, being engaged is about more than just a ring (who woulda thunk it!). Plenty of husbands don’t wear their wedding bands (my father falls into this category), yet no one suspects them of not loving their wives.
I think walking down the aisle clutching a bunch of flowers sounds ridiculous (Think about it. You. Walking down an aisle. With flowers. It’s just so random. Yet here I am, about to do the very same thing!) I don’t wear my ring. I like to keep the personal… well, personal (I know, I know, I’m writing this for the entire world to see– but it’s different. I feel a whole lot more free on here than I do sometimes in “real” life!) Do these things make me weird? Maybe. Strange? You bet (I like to call myself “unique”– it puts such a rosy glow on things). And maybe I do need therapy… but that’s something Mr. Broccoli has been suggesting for years!
So, all of that to say, I do appreciate your comments. And don’t you think the monkey is cute? I do 
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I think there’s nothing wrong with standing up for your own beliefs.
It isn’t a monkey, it’s a chimpanzee!
Otherwise, I agree with everything you said!
I personally didn’t mean to offend you. I think whatever you do with your ring, your wedding, your life, etc is totally your decision. I only meant to say that I was curious about your fiance’s feelings about you not wearing a ring, especially because he was traditional enough to buy one for you. But mainly I asked because my fiance is very adamant about me wearing my ring, if not fanatical. Lol.
Oi! No wonder I am not a zoologist!
Thanks Lanamia… I think Mr. Broccoli will be fanatical about the wedding ring!
personally, i’m not a big fan of the chimp, haha, but kudos to you miss b. everyone marches to their own drum and it’s just not kind when a person insults someone else’s beat when their own has it’s own musical issues. nobody is perfect and everyone is different.
i’m not much of a bracelet person, so it’s a good thing for me that guys don’t give out engagement bracelets, so i completely understand the ring issue. if ur more of a fan of necklaces, maybe you could string ur e-ring on a simple chain…?
I think it’s your own choice to make always. You should always do what makes you feel most comfortable with. That’s the way I am. I’ve been engaged for over a year now, I still tell everybody he’s a “boyfriend” instead of “fiance.” Personally I hate all the personal questions people tend to ask. “How did he propose? When’s the big day? Yadayada…” I thought I was missing the gene that makes all b2b’s soo ready to spill every detail of her engagement to any willing ear. But I finally realized that there are details of my own relationship I really like to keep personal, between him and I, between us and our families and us and our closest friends.
So if you don’t feel you want to disclose this to your co-workers, you definitely don’t have to. But it will become a sensitive topic at work when you return back from your honeymoon! But you’ve kept mum soo long, I’m sure you’ll find the perfect way to take care of this! Good luck!
i second eve. i had such a hard time with the deluge of personal questions and if i had known how nosy my coworkers were going to be, i would have kept my engagement a secret as well.
i enjoyed this discussion. kudos.
hi miss b.
i think the chimp is cute too!
i was really shocked to hear some of the negative comments on your previous post. I also do not wear my ring. .While I did tell my coworkers I was engaged..it took me about two months to finally tell them.
I love, love, love my ring but it just gets in the way..LOL….my FI doesn’t mind or care if I wear the ring either. He knows that I love him..and I know that he loves me….and that’s what really matters to me…the ring to me is just a symbol….but I don’t need to wear the ring to prove that he is committed to me or I am committed to him..just like you, it’s a very personal thing for me..I don’t care what other people think of me.
I’m so glad to hear that there are other brides out there that are as ‘weird’ as me. I can’t wait to read more of your posts. Wish you the best with everything!
Hi Miss B,
While I am glad that you liked the idea, I really can’t take credit - I was just picking up on what starjas had said in her post. Good for you for defending yourself and I too am looking forward to reading your unique posts!
i have to say, after reading both these posts, i still don’t get it. i respect the fact that all of us have different ways of life and priorities.
but i really do not get it. (not the wearing or not wearing a ring part, but the not telling anyone at work part).
Ms. Broccoli, maybe if you could explain what kind of “drama” would result from sharing kind-of basic, and really not that private news, with your co-workers, readers could better understand your motivation. (i don’t intend this as a criticism, just really trying to get my head around it).
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I truly don’t believe you.
Why post on a wedding board and say you aren’t that into the wedding thing but be so private about your relationship, engagement and marriage.
sorry. not buying it at all.
Wow, Sara, what do you have against her decision for all this?? It doesn’t affect you in any way so I don’t see why it should bother you this much..
Props to you Miss Broccoli, for wanting to keep your personal life personal. I love the fact that you seem to be very nontraditional. And I like the chimp
Ok, I have to agree. If you want to keep your personal life… well, personal - don’t write on a wedding blog!
“I think walking down the aisle clutching a bunch of flowers sounds ridiculous ”
I’m w. you there! I always said I was “never the marrying kind” and now that the day is coming closer…I’m really just looking forward to our new life rather then the wedding hehe 
Don’t let the drama get you down~As long as you share with US the details of your wedding, who cares if you don’t share it w. “real life” people?
I haven’t really seen this bitchiness (from that original post and some here on this one) before on weddingbee, and it’s sad, and those of you posting in that way come off as very immature and close minded. I think more highly of the majority here and am disappointed in those of you who chose to be unnecessarily defensive (because when you feel the need to be bitchy it is about feeling like you need to defend how “right” you are) and judgmental.
I applaud you Miss Broccoli for being yourself. Some people aren’t gaga over weddings. I never was either, until I got engaged. I can understand wanting to keep your personal life personal, and since you aren’t close with your co-workers, I don’t think not sharing your engagement news/wedding plans with them is a big deal. Because believe it or not, other people just aren’t into weddings as much as we like to think they are. So major props to you for being unique!
i’m really appalled by some of the readers’ negativity as well. miss broccoli (and ONLY miss broccoli) is in the best position to judge whether or not to tell her coworkers about HER wedding. it could be that she just doesn’t get along with them, or that she doesn’t want too much attention…we don’t know. i’m sure she has her reasons. so by scolding her or by telling her that she needs therapy is just being judgmental and rude. you may disagree with what she’s doing, but why be mean about it? i’m sure there is a much more respectful way of expressing your thoughts.
i support your decisions, miss broccoli!
i saw follow only the traditions you want to. it just makes your wedding more personalized don’t you think?
Our dept. is a rumor mill, and hurtful things said about me have come back to me before. So the way I approach it now is that my personal life is none of their business. Every office has a different dynamic, and we don’t know enough about Miss Broccoli’s to judge.
I am not that into weddings either. Not everyone has been planning their wedding since age 5. I certainly haven’t, and I can’t wait til it’s over and we’re married. That doesn’t give me any less right to post on weddingbee, as some have suggested.
Yay, Miss Broccoli! I meant to say it before, but welcome aboard. I am glad to see a less than traditional weddingbee blogger.
Miss Broccoli, thank you for your great posts! I feel the same way that I would never want to invite my co-workers or bosses to my wedding. I believe in keeping my personal and professional lives separate.
Keeping your engagement under wraps was a good idea. I did the opposite by telling everyone at work that I’m getting married. However, I’m not sure how to tactfully let them know they are not invited. It has created an awkward situation.
I do find it bizarre that Miss Broccoli won’t even post her age or occupation on her profile. Clearly she is pathologically “private.” I think she will find though that if/when people find out she was/is engaged, they may just meet the news with a great, big yawn. Oh, and for all the people shocked by the “negativitiy,” I thought this blog was supposed to represent the real world. I didn’t know we were creating an alternate, everything must always be reacted to with false positivity, world. The reactions here have been pretty frankly genuine and heartfelt.
The reactions were heartfelt indeed, I just don’t understand why anyone feels the need to be so snippy and oddly concerned with how others run their lives and weddings. Actually, I find a lot of wedding talk falsely positive, or hard to get in the mood for and would like to see differing opinions.
People feel as if their way of doing things is somehow better in general and therefore anyone who doesn’t agree is wrong. I’m sad that you feel it must be false positivism as opposed to, at the very most, a neutral feeling about something someone else is doing that you don’t happen to mimic.
It shouldn’t be so forced to be an acepting person. I have seen this kind of reaction to brides on other sites and it’s why I stay away from those sites.
(accepting) should have spell checked!
miss broccoli,
you wedding. your ring. your job. your life. your decision.
Lynn (et al.), those of us who are “Bees” on a board that allows comments have to be open to the negative ones as well. if i didn’t want to hear the opinions of others (whatever they may be), i know that i surely would have kept my wedding planning limited to a personal diary, or perhaps kept a password protected site and allowed only close (and agreeable) friends to have access.
however, that’s not what i or the other Bees did. instead, we put ourselves out here in a live, interactive way and have to face the comments, unpleasant or not. and, alas, there can be unnecessary cruelty/snippiness/bitchiness due to the relative anonymity the Internet affords us/commenters. people will say things in comments they wouldn’t say to your face. that said, it is what it is and it comes with the territory.
that doesn’t mean that Mrs. Bee ought to allow trolls or meanness for its own sake, but obviously Miss Broccoli’s choices have evoked strong feelings. it’s interesting to see the discussion fleshed out.
Hi Miss Broccoli!
I just wanted to say I’m so glad to see a New England bride on here! I’m getting married in NH in October and I recently attended a wedding in southern Maine that was just beautiful. It’s such a lovely area.
Also, I don’t know if you currently live in New England or if you’re just getting married there, but people should give you a break. New Englanders are fiercely private by nature (I know because I am one - and it was a total culture shock when I moved to the south). To each her own, I say!
I am sad to see such negativity/judgementalness/snipiness here on weddingbee. I thought I got away from that by avoiding The Knot/Nest.
Don’t take it to heart Miss Broccoli. Like some of the other said, YOU are the only one who knows your situation and I don’t see anything wrong with your decisions! I like reading your blog entries so far and good luck with everything!
Miss Broccolli,
I totally support you for wanting to do the things that YOU want to do. If you don’t want to share details with people you barely know, then why should you? I don’t understand why other people on this site would personally attack you for being who you are, which is a private individual. I know some people become ecstatic when something new and exciting happens to them, and would love to spill the juicy details to everyone they know (which is totally fine), but why should these people dictate their own personal beliefs on your own personal beliefs?
I don’t know about others, but one of the primary reasons I read weddingbee and other related types of blogs is because I have an open mind and I would like to see things from other people’s perspective on a particular subject which would allow me to develop more of my own personal ideas. And that is the main reason why I do not agree with personally attacking or criticizing another individual’s opinions on these weblogs. We are here to gain knowledge, support, and different points of views as a resource. So if you don’t agree, then don’t read.
Therefore, props to you Miss Broccolli for continuing to stick up for your own beliefs and opinions!
personally i don’t blame you from hiding it from your co-workers. I kind of wish I did. The only reason I didn’t was because I had made so many comments before hand that I was not to into the idea of marriage and totally ok w/ not having a ring(mostly in defense of being in a 5+ year relationship and not being engaged). I figured lying about it would raise more eyebrows than just admitting it based on my own situation. a bunch of my co-workers have invited themselves. and then when one is invited you have to invite all of them. its spiraling out of control!! so i think you made a wise decision =)
my job is a big ball of negativity and everyone (FH, family) let out a giant sigh of relief when i announced that i wouldn’t invite anyone from work to my wedding. are there a few people i would like to invite? totally. but once you’ve started, where do you draw the line? so we set a “no coworkers” rule and the people i work with who i’d invite in a perf world totally understand.
since nobody’s on the guest list it seemed rude to make a big announcement at work. i just quietly wore my e.ring and let them figure it out. it would have been nice not to tell them at all but i knew i’d only catch hell for it later. setting the tone this way seems to have kept questions about planning to a polite making-small-talk minimum.
fabulous to see you here miss broccoli. NE Brides represent!
oh yeah, and ditto to what AG said. My coworkers were SO RUDE, hurtful even, for all the years beforehand - constantly saying crap like that my boyfriend was secretly gay and that’s why we weren’t married after 5-9 years of living together. Behavior like that virtually guaranteed them a spot on the not-sharing list.
one of the most common issues couples face when it comes to their guest lists is how to handle inviting coworkers. as these posts have sparked quite a lively debate, we’ll delve into that topic further, as well as that of wearing your ring.
what mrs daisy said about blogging is spot on. as bloggers we put ourselves out there and share our opinions and thoughts on a public forum, so it’s fair that what we write is open to criticism and scrutiny. we certainly welcome lively debate and opposing opinions… but often people forget that we’re real people with real feelings behind the blogs.
we want to have a different atmosphere on weddingbee than what often exists on other wedding sites. while we don’t want a “pollyanna” site that’s not indicative of the real world as shelley pointed out, we do want to have a positive atmosphere where commenters can express disagreement without resorting to personal attacks or name calling.
we haven’t had a chance to get to know miss broccoli yet (phew what a turbulent introduction huh ;)). let’s not judge her or her relationship on this one post alone. i understand her desire to maintain her privacy in regards to her wedding plans and think she’ll definitely contribute a lot to weddingbee over the next month.
Miss Broccoli, BIG HUG! haha.
I am a little different in that I have dreamed of my wedding day and the engagement ring and all those things since I was little. But now that I am actually getting married (NEXT MONTH…eek) the way I view things are so different. I always thought I wanted a huge wedding with an extravagant dress and a huge ring but now that it’s really here none of that seems to matter to me. When my fiance and I started talking seriously about marriage I realized that what I wanted was to start a “life” with him and that none of the other things really mattered. I didn’t want him to spend lots of money on a big ring, I opted to save money on my dress and go for something simple (would rather save the money for a house) and all I wanted was an intimate affair (although it’s not possible since our families are too big). I think now my dream wedding would just be my fiance and I on the beach and a handful of friends and family.
There are times when I wear my ering and times when I dont but I dont find that really important either. To me what I like to focus on is just my fiance and I and the life we are starting together.
I dont think it’s right to say that just because you dont wear your ring you are embarrassed or love mr. broccoli any less.
Miss Broccoli,
Wow! I am just catching up on all of this drama now. I really don’t know why people got so offended by your blog. I don’t know you personally and I don’t know a thing about your life, and neither does anyone here. So why judge it? I don’t doubt that you love your FI very much. What you do with your ring is your and your FI’s business. If he is ok with your decision, well then, ok.
And about involving your coworkers, I bet mine wishes I never mentioned it. They are sick to death of hearing me talk about it. I am suprised they haven’t fired me yet! : ) So you keep doing what is best for your life. I am glad you are offering a different perspective on weddings and all the traditions.
Miss Broccoli,
I can’t speak for others out there, but I am confused as to why you are posting on a popular wedding blog site and putting details of your personal life out to relative strangers, but not telling people you see on a daily basis the simple fact that you are engaged! I am a private person too, but I let my coworkers know I was getting married even though I was not inviting them to my wedding.
Weddingbee is a wonderful community and I always love reading this site. Miss Broccoli, you can’t make a post like you did on a public forum and not expect the readers to want more information or not agree with what you say.
I am a bit disappointed with how people can not state their opinions without being attacked by the “For Miss Broccoli” readers. You have the right to state your opinions and you should respect others as well!
Mrs Daisy-
You and I agree- that the bitchiness is unnecessary. I am all for expressing opinions about what one would do in a situation, but to get judgmental in that tone of defense on another is what I rarely see here, and have always appreciated.
I don’t fault Mrs Bee or this board for it, I just was unpleasantly surprised. They aren’t productive opinions, they are simply snippy “I’m better than you are and you are wrong” type of comments.
i second what Mrs. Bee said!
Keep on keepin’ on Miss Broccoli~~!!
each bee on this site has generously offered her own unique perspective, style, humor, etc for us to share in - incl. Miss Broccoli! and i think she has every right to feel/believe whatever she wants to.
and yes, there will always be differing opinions..but C’MON LADIES!! - let’s not turn this into a mean catfight…i think we all know that there are much better(& nicer) ways to communicate things than to say… “i truly don’t believe you…” is a pretty harsh statement. ouch!
and again, like Mrs. Bee said..it’s not like we want to have this “pollyanna” bubble on weddingbee..but i do appreciate the fact that it’s not as catty/mean as other wedding forum sites.
let’s play nice like the nice respectful ladies that we are (& should be!)
I didn’t realize your post would be sooooo controversial. Take it as a compliment! You struck a nerve.
I believe that people often hide behind the internet when they make cruel comments and wouldn’t be so nasty in real life. Meh. That’s what I say to that.
While you and I seem complete opposites in regards to being private (I share anything and everything..to a fault! :)) I would never be nasty and attack someone and I don’t understand people who do either.
Did that even make sense? I’m hungover. That’s my excuse!!
Wow. I just read over all the posts and comments related to Miss B and I have to say that I’m kind of sad that certain people would make such harsh/rude remarks. More importantly, UNNECESSARY comments. At this point, I feel like everyone has added their 2 cents on the matter, but I still wanted to throw mine in as well. Being a private person myself, I have to say that blogging on the internet has nothing to do with exposing yourself 100%. It concerns me to an extent that some of the ladies on here feel that reading someone’s blog or posts = reallllllly *knowing* the blogger. I have a personal blog myself and it would concern me of someone felt that they *really* knew me based on my posts. While I am an avid poster (well, used to be before I got busy with work), I can’t say that any ONE person in the cyberworld knows my name or me (for that matter) in real life. I pick and choose what I want to expose and what I feel comfortable with people out there knowing. How does that constitute “exposing” yourself 100%? Do we know Miss B in real life? Do we even know her NAME? Just because Miss B posted that she’d rather keep certain things private, doesn’t mean that people should jump to conclusions and make assumptions about her. I’m a private person. My co-workers are just that, my co-workers. They are not friends (of mine). Some ex-coworkers have become friends. I have not invited my co-workers either. The only reason why they know is because one person that saw my ring decided to spread the news within a matter of minutes to the entire office. Anyway, my point being that although we are all here posting on a fansite for wedding planning, I feel like everyone is getting a little too crazy over the whole idea of a “wedding”. These people that feel so strongly about telling everyone (assuming that EVERYONE will be so overjoyed for them) don’t realize that once the wedding is over, that rush is gone, and no one will really give a hoot. Life moves on and that immediate high is gone. .Just because I’m in an environment (forcefully at that) with a group of people for 9 to 5 Mon-Fri to earn a living doesn’t make them my friend. I understand ladies giving advice or their 2 cents on matters. Such as: “If I were in your situation, I’d hate to keep my coworkers out of the loop” or “Personally, I’d never leave the house without my ring” … but anything else is just ridiculous. I’d like to see some more useful “controversy” topics like… um.. Conflicts with BMs or SILs or MILs or other useful stuff. Ok, this turned out to be super long. That’all folks!
when i got engaged, i told a few people at work, but i certainly didnt announce it. everyone eventually found out, but i did not go out of my way to tell people. in fact, one of the vp’s didnt even know i was engaged until 2 months before the wedding - and i see him several times a week!
same story with my classmates - the close ones knew right away, but i didnt go around annoucing it. many people found out after a few months, but i think one or two people were surprised that i was married.
in the end, its your choice. i got really sick of the older ladies here giving me shit about my wedding planning. i was working a full time, stressful job, i was also going to school part time for my MBA, and i was planning my own wedding - and they would have the nerve to tell me that i shouldnt be stressed b/c wedding planning isnt a big deal, etc. now everyone’s asking me if i’m pregnant just because i quit smoking.
miss b may have annoying coworkers like me.
Miss Broccoli-
Props to you for not giving in to the criticism and for standing your ground.
Personally, I think you make a great addition to Weddingbee. I can sense your sarcasm in your posts and I can appreciate it (I am the queen of sarcasm in my family).
Welcome and please keep freely expressing yourself. I appreciate your honesty and your point of view.
I just read the comments on your post about your coworkers, and while my office is a place where I’d be more than happy to share my engagement, yours clearly is not. Props to you for sticking to what you believe, and for having a sense of humor about this.
Don’t let the people who are mean get to you! They only know what you’ve told them so far, and I’m fairly sure that is not 100% of who you are.
I must admit, though, that my mind did a bit of double take when reading your first post. BUT I’m very glad to see a new member of wedding bee who is “unique”
I cannot wait to see your ideas! BTW I love the necklace!
BTW! I sure made it sound like the bees are cookie cutter bloggers (that everyone has been planning their weddings for years)! That is definitely not what I meant. Everyone that posts on weddingbee is unique, and I’m glad that there is now a bride-to-bee who was “anti-wedding” (to a point), but is sharing her ideas with us.
i appreciate your honesty and value your different outlook on things. it would be one thing if you were attacking an individual for their opinions in your posts, but i haven’t seen that from you at all. i also appreciate that you’ve been the bigger person in the post above by not attacking people in return. some people just have some nerve…
I am not offended at all by your posts. Why should I be? It’s your wedding, not mine, but your posts are quite interesting. Like I said before I still think it’s odd to hide. I just think there’s a better way than to hide about the fact that you are engaged. Perhaps I’m just being too optimistic since I don’t know you and I don’t know your work situation. If I were in your shoes, I’d announce it to one or two people and usually the news will trickle. I would also say that I’m having a very small wedding. Most people do understand especially if they’re not close to you. I just wonder if it’s really worth it to go out of your way to hide about it.
And just a small note. I only started thinking about weddings once I got engaged. With that said, I see a lot of hostility in these comments but I don’t think that all the brides that are against you are necessarily people that have always dreamt of weddings either. Let’s not get extreme. Obviously we all have opinions based on our own backgrounds - it’s not one or the other.
Since you have opened up pandora’s box, I am very curious to read your next post. Keep it up. Whatever you do be true to yourself.
I’d just like to comment on those people who said ‘if you want your wedding to be private, why are you posting about it online?’
In my opinion, the internet is a great way to get ideas, air frustrations and share information. No one online has any sort of vested interest in another blogger’s wedding. This is why I do it. Telling people in ‘real life’ about it can lead to complications with relationships, hurt feelings, or a lot of unnecessary questions.
I definitely agree with people’s discomfort with the barrage of personal questions - how did he propose, when’s the wedding, etc. Not everything is everyone’s business.
Online is a completely different world, though. At least I think. You’re talking about weddings at a time when you feel like talking about weddings, with people who are all going through similar things.
you can do whatever you want/feel miss broccoli! i’m also very private and i don’t openly speak to my co-workers about my fi. when i’m asked, i will share my information but i don’t try to hide anything from them either. i think it’s best to be upfront about it myself but that’s also just part of my personality - i am what i appear to be. everyone has their own reasons for their actions and just let the hateful posts roll off your back. you know your situation the best.
Wow, I’m just getting caught up and I can’t believe the nasty comments on this and your previous post. I think it’s ok to disagree (like asking for clarification, or asking about your office situation and why you want to hide it from them). It’s not ok to insult someone (therapy or that you aren’t committed to your relationship).
I can totally understand wanting to be private. I’m a quiet, easily embarrased dork, and I don’t relish the attention of re-telling my engagement story or sharing wedding plans with people who don’t really care–they are just making small talk. I’m looking forward to the wedding (I’ve never been interested in weddings), but even more I’m looking forward to the marriage
It’s ok to be different, and ignore the naysayers yelling “conform! conform!” I come to weddingbee to see something different. I’ve gotten great new ideas from here, and it’s wonderful to see someone with a different opinion. Keep it up Miss B. And keep up the discussions, as long as they can stay insult-free
I think Chunky Monkey is delicious and the monkey is NOT cute…j/k.
I believe that a ring is a symbolic representation of your committment to a person and we do it because we live in a material world. I wear my ring on and off. I even tell my FI that he doesn’t have to wear the wedding band after we’re married because I trust him…
I keep my wedding planning secret from my co-workers because of personal issues that they’re going through right now. How can you share the good news when they’re talking about divorce, depression, separation, and all?
You’re unique!
I don’t like brocolli but i have to it when I have dinner with my FI.
Vy- lol!
I thought I’d take a moment to address some of the comments on here. A lot of people have requested more information about my office, but that’s something I’m not very willing to get into. I work with great people, but like any workplace, there are rumors and people can sometimes not get along. Last year a coworker had an engaged daughter, and the only thing anyone ever talked about was the upcoming wedding. Advice was given, ignored; ideas were thrown out; opinions cropped up in every cubbyhole.
Watching all of that, and knowing that Mr. Broccoli was going to pop the question shortly made me realize that I wouldn’t be able to go through with that sort of thing. Most of my coworkers have been planning their daughter’s weddings for years now, and I really didn’t want my ideas and plans scrutinized by people that I tend to keep mum around anyway.
I don’t work with evil people. I really didn’t mean to make them sound like the co-workers from Hades. But people are people. And I sometimes act very “anti-people,” I have to admit. Hence the crazy secretiveness.
On the other hand, every family member and friend knows that we’re getting hitched. They might not know all of the plans, but they know enough (mainly, when and where they’re expected on the wedding day).
I understand that I may not give out all of the necessary information when blogging. Sometimes it’s on purpose and sometimes it’s because I forget that not everyone knows what I’m like. I hope this clears up some things! …Phew.
We aren’t entitled to any more than you want to share. There is no “necessary” information to me here except that you are a bride, planning, and will share what you find applicable to share.
best of luck!
Wow, crazy. I only just caught up on the drama…. you sound like a down-to-earth kind of girl, and I’m totally excited to read more posts from you.
The monkey is cute
Like others, I’ve been offline for a few days and just caught up on this hoopla. Oh my!
I loved your comment about not understanding the walking down the aisle with flowers. I so wanted to ditch the flowers. I totally get where you are coming from. I feel like everyone is loading so much of their baggage and their expectations and yet at the same time saying, it’s your wedding do whatever you want. And then I say that I don’t want flowers and it’s, “what! You have to have flowers!”. Ugh!
I love, love, love weddingbee for including a bride more in my own line of thinking. Us not-dreaming-about-IT-since-the-day-we-were-born-brides are out here too so keep posting for us!
PS - I keep freaking people out by telling them the thing I’m looking forward to most on the honeymoon is the monkey at the resort. People, we’ve been living together for 3 years get over it. And how can you not be excited about a monkey!
ok, ok… I’m late on this, but I have to put my two cents in here because this really strikes a nerve — maybe because I’m a little older??? (32)
I am not trying to be a bitch and I completely agree that Miss B can tell whomever she wants that she is engaged, and wear the ring whenever she wants - i don’t see the big deal with that.
BUT, my problem with her original post was the snide tone by which she referred to her co-workers and their “older” daughters for whom they have been “planning their weddings for years (albeit without the ring).”
I thought that comment was incredibly bitchy, and like many of the posters on here that are attacking her, not very Weddingbee like.
For that reason, I was really offended by her post. It’s a good thing Ms. B is so perfect that neither she, nor her mother, ever planned her wedding, albeit without the ring.
My mother and I certainly did… and guess what, despite our evil pre-ring planning, we were still excited with news of friends’ and loved ones’ engagements.
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Miss Broccoli, Maine
Age and Occupation: 20-something, Cookie Monster
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 26, Real Estate, soon to be student (again)
Engagement Date: November 2005
Wedding Date: April 2007
Venue: Southern Maine
About Me: I actually don't really love weddings (!) and I don't really like broccoli. Fortunately, I have learned that both are not so bad if you squint your eyes and hold your breath. When I'm not planning our 180-ish (90% family!) person wedding, I like to poke fun at Mr. Broccoli, read big books, and drink endless cups of tea.
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