Weddingbee Blog

Honestly, I didn’t consider anything until when I knew the proposal was coming, after we’d looked at rings. I know on here I seem obssessed with details, but that didn’t happen until after I was engaged. Growing up and during HS, I don’t remembering ever planning, though I did think this one church that some family friends got married in was beautiful. I guess that could count as premature planning, ’cause it’s the one we’re getting married in! (I brought Mr. Plumeria there and crossed my fingers, hoping he’d love it too, and he did!) But other than that… nope.

I’d also like to comment that I think being a blogger on a national blog doesn’t necessarily reflect who the writer really is — I know that being aware of my audience affects the way I write to them, you know? My personality is out here but no one except people who interact with me outside this blog really know me. I can see this issue with Miss Broccoli’s posts and people being quick to judge based only on her published words — while some of their reactions I can understand, it is a bit far to tell someone they need therapy etc based on one post. I can’t wait to read more of her posts to get a more rounded-out, albeit not complete, idea of who she is!

miss plumeria i certainly agree! i’ve met a ton of people in real life after having read their blogs (sometimes for years). you see a glimpse or facet of someone online, but it’s really different when you do meet them irl and you see the whole person.

No, I definitely did not dream of my wedding day as a child. Good grief, I had a ton of guy friends and liked it that way - keeping them as guy friends. I never in a million years thought that I would get married. Once I had a serious boyfriend for a few years, that changed and I would think things like “Gee, this would be a nice spot for a wedding.” Then I would slap myself around (not literally) and remind myself that I wasn’t interested in weddings.

After I broke up with that boyfriend I really thought that was it. I wasn’t interested in finding another and getting married at all seemed like something I was just not destined to do. Once I got engaged to my next boyfriend, I took it all in for a couple of weeks before perusing wedding magazines. The first one was Martha Stewart’s Fall 2005 magazine. I was hooked. It’s been a headache ever since, but wedding planning has become a constant in my life for the last year and a half.

i’m along the lines of miss tulilp. i am a bit of a tomboy still but a huge hopeless romantic but never really put serious thought to my future wedding while i was younger. sure i’d look through the odd ms weddings mag or watch a show but i never actively seek the material and never did i cut anything out. when it came to thinking about my own wedding all i could see was me in some big white dress, the pastor, and a guy with a fuzzy head whom i’m assuming was supposed to be my fiance. how awesomely vague is that? lol.

i was never in a relationship where marriage was ever a possibility so i didn’t think about it. but when i started dating my current bf and had one of those thoughts [right before two of my college friends got married] i suddenly saw his face and everything just fell together. while i’m not a total wedding person, i’m looking forward to being able to plan our own wedding.

though i’m also in the middle of a mad marrying season too with a lot of my friends either married off or are getting engaged [plus i'm helping my best friend plan her wedding as we speak] so i think about it a lot more and have started a binder but that’s only so when it does get time to planning i already have my ideas. plus it is a little fun but it doesn’t run my life. i don’t think i’ll ever be considered a “wedding person.”

besides, dreaming about my wedding when i was little? yeah right. i was a tomboy growing up. you practically had to sedate me to get me into a dress!

I came across Wedding Bee a few months ago. I really enjoy it, but it is as close as I care to get to the Wedding Industrial Complex. In fact, there are entries that I won’t even go near because reading them would likely make me feel conflicted. I am not having letterpress invitations, or floral centerpieces, or a designer dress, favors, bridesmaids, or even a rehearsal dinner… all things that *most* wedding-related media (TV, magazines, websites) present as Must-Haves for your wedding to be The Best Day of Your Life. I don’t subscribe to this view. It’s just not for me. But even I in my steely resolve can’t help but succumb once in a while to the overwhelming message that if I don’t match my Thank You cards to my invitations, my wedding won’t mean as much. (Don’t worry, it’s usually a temporary lapse in judgement that I get over pretty quickly!)

You couldn’t pay me to frequent the Knot boards. They do not speak to me at all… in fact, most of the sentiments on there actually contradict the things I am trying to stay focused on for my wedding. And maybe that’s a big fat stereotype, and I am willing to concede that because I have only visited my local board (Boston) I can’t say diddly about other Knot boards… but this is my experience of it. And it’s my perception that the Knot really does hold the monopoly over online wedding resources.

So after that long diatribe, my short answer is: Nope. Not a wedding person. Never started thinking about the wedding till a few months after getting engaged. I did not spend my youth fantasizing about dresses and colors and such. But we’re planning our wedding now, and I come here for ideas and inspiration, and I would love to see more bloggers like Ms. Broccoli talk about how they’re negotiating personal decisions that go against the grain, because as a bride-to-be, I find myself more often than not in that position.

Have you dreamt about your wedding day since you were a little girl? Absolutely, since Father of the Bride! It seriously was the catalyst and ever celebrity wedding thereafter was a secondary obsession. I didn’t ever plan my own or clip anything I like (save a ring from Tiffany…hmmmm…may be the wedding band…).

Did you become a wedding person after you got engaged? Once I was engaged I finally felt it was okay (and wouldn’t be alarming to the significant other!) to buy the magazines and planners, which I did with my mom the VERY next day. I love weddings so much I nearly became a PR person/planner, and everyone thought it was already planned, but they would be wrong.

I wonder where little girls get the idea about fancy weddings from. When I was growing up, the most important things were my friends and my toys. Getting married… to a BOY.. did not even cross my mind. I never liked wearing dresses anyway.

My thoughts on wedding planning now? It’s like planning a party, so why does the word Wedding send all the ladies into a buying frenzy? Must you have monogrammed coasters that will get thrown away? Must you have a “bridal” tissue paper for blowing your nose? It’s all very silly to me, but I still do love a good party and that’s all I’m focusing on. Have food and friends, will party. Easy peasy!

i’m not engaged and i have not been dreaming about “my wedding” since i was 5. i however, love to plan things and the thought of weddings are a great outlet for me to work out my creative muscles. wedding websites and dreaming up weddings for me are more of a hobby based on personal interests and that is why i’m here.

personally, i can understand that to some people, weddings are just a chore but that doesn’t mean that they want to be married any less. i’ve known many people that while being very detailed wedding planners, opt to have something low key when it comes to their personal day.. how many detailed b2bs have wanted to jump ship and elope in the last minute anyway? its a matter of preference, and for a lot of these brides to be, their wedding is a symbolic event, and the details and planning isn’t that exciting for them. to each their own… i just wish everyone could be respectful of that. there are always appropriate ways to express your differing opinions in a respectful manner… and unfortunately, some people haven’t learned that common courtesy.

when i started planning my wedding, i wished i was one of those girls who dreamed about her wedding day since she was 4… but that’s because i’m the type to have lots of things i like but hard to pick out the things i love! so when it came time to put together my “perfect” wedding, i feel like i didn’t have enough time/ resources… i really wish weddingbee existed many years ago =P then i feel like i could have gathered many great ideas and have a better idea for what i want! but then again, maybe it would have made no difference. ^_^

i thought i was a wedding person… but maybe not. haha. i realize i enjoy helping others with their wedding more than mine. maybe bc then i don’t have to be as budget conscious??

I didn’t dream of my wedding date since I was a little girl. I started when we talked about marriage and after the proposal.