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I usually try to go home once a week or so to hang out with my family . Of course the hot topic is my upcoming wedding (in 6 months!). Initially, my parents were really shocked by our engagement last year, so it took them a while to come around with this whole wedding thing. So I’m just SO glad that they are getting into it. Here are some notable topics of discussion that came up last night at dinner:
- My dad is especially excited about having so many family members together for the first time. We’ll have about 10 - 15 people coming from Taiwan on my dad’s side, who have never met the people on my mom’s side (who all live in the US). So it will be one big reunion. We are all super excited!
- We were talking about the whole walking down the aisle thing, and I asked if they BOTH wanted to walk me down. My mom had this very surprised and pleased look on her face… that made me happy. 
- My mom is uber concerned about her outfit and hairstyle, it’s so cute. She keeps looking for hair pix, cuz she says she doesn’t want to look like “old mommy.”
- My dad on the other hand, is very concerned about the father/daughter dance. He keeps asking what he needs to do, or if he has to take lessons (he doesn’t really want it to come to that!). So I grabbed him, and positioned him in what I figured was some semblance of a waltz stance (glad I watch Dancing With the Stars, haha), and then we spent a minute or two prancing around the kitchen. It was hysterical, we ended up going in circles. Anyways, it seems easy enough and he decided that he can handle it as long as I lead, haha.
How are YOUR parents feeling?
I love the story about your dad and the dancing, so cute : )
My mom is excited and my sister is going overboard, I think she has done more research than I have. The two of them are actually going to a class at Michaels about wedding DIYs soon. I thought it was extremely sweet, and my mom keeps picking up little things here and there like white bows and candy molds in the shape of two entertwining hearts.
My father is still getting over the shock of his first born wanting to get married (even though I have been dating my guy for over 4 years) so he is being stubborn.
My dad is having a hard time with the wedding b/c I am the oldest and only daughter. My parents didn’t marry until they were nearly in their thirties and I think they expected that I would do the same. By the time we are married, I will be 21 and my fiancÆ’© will be 23 but they think I am marrying too young.
Aww, so cute!
It took a while for everyone to come around. I am the eldest only girl. He’s the baby only boy. My mom treats it like no different from any other day.
my parents were worried about the same thing… and they took dancing lessons together! it was the cutest thing. they were waaaaay better than mr. bee and i hehe. maybe dance lessons are something that your parents might really enjoy!
I got engaged 2 1/2 months ago and my family is still really upset, and I am SO frustrated about it. It’s not at all the engagement experience I wanted or hoped for, but it is what it is. It’s taking a rather awful toll on my relationship with my fiance actually (see Miss Kiwi’s post today about passion for more details).
My dad is pretty chilled out about the whole thing, I don’t think he’s terribly enthused, but then my dad is a very unemotional guy. My fiance did ask him for permission to marry me and he gave his blessing, so that’s a good sign.
My mom is really outspoken though and I recently had it out with her and told her that if she can’t be supportive, then I need her to just be quiet and stop campaigning for a breakup to everyone who will listen. It’s embarrassing for me to run into wedding guests at a coffee shop and have them say, “hey, is everything okay with your fiance? You mom seems really against the wedding.” I have had a rocky relationship with my mom in the last 5 years because I’ve come to the realization that although I love her, she has a number of character traits I don’t respect and she’s someone I would never associate with if we weren’t related by blood. She’s probably the most unsupportive person I’ve ever met - not just with regards to my fiance but also she doesn’t support my career choice, the place where I’ve chosen to live, the breed of dog I decided to adopt, the hobbies I enjoy, etc etc. So I guess why would this be any different, right? But I always dreamed of family dinners with my fiance and my family and she’s sort of smashing that hope to bits so it’s hard to accept.
The hardest part for me is that I have only ever had one boyfriend my mom liked. We broke up 8 years ago (because he told me he didn’t love me - I think that’s a good reason to break up!), and my mom to this day has not let up saying “remember David? He was such a nice boy.” Since then she’s compared everyone to him and nobody measures up apparently. But my sister? She could bring home a one night stand and my mom would fawn all over him because she thinks my sister has such great taste. It feels quite unfair.
Laura, Wow, I’m so sorry to hear that!! It sounds really rough, and trust me, I can almost relate!! When we first got engaged, my mom was especially shocked. I know she told many people that she was disapproving of it, and my parent’s office manager even told me once how sorry she is that my parents are being so unsupportive!! Arghhh…
It’s okay actually, I just don’t like to talk to my best friends about it because their parents are in the same social circle as my parents and I’m sure it would get back to them… and I don’t like to talk to my fiance about it because I think that will just make things even harder for him with my parents, so I feel like I have nowhere to turn for support - so thanks for the support and the opportunity to vent! Sometimes that’s all I really need…
Laura, that sound so unfair. Best wishes to you!
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Mrs. Emerald, Chicago Age and Occupation: 26, Wedding Planner Fiance's Age and Occupation: 26, Paralegal Engagement Date: October 8, 2006 Wedding Date: September 2007 Blogging Since: November 29, 2006 Venue: Hyatt Lodge, Oak Brook IL About Me: I have been dreaming about my wedding forever, and flipping through bridal magazines since high school, so I am in my element! I am calling our theme "Vintage Inspired French/Asian Fusion." Mr. Emerald is very involved in the planning process, but of course he generally defers to me cuz I have a strong opinion of how I want everything to be :-).
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