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Last week, I began to send out the first wave of save the dates to our friends. Yesterday, my parents and I began to address the ones for their friends. That’s when I realized I had a problem. No where on the save the date is my last name. It says Susan and Todd on the front and back….but no mention of my last name.
I thought I was being clever by having the return address say, “The Future Mr. And Mrs.”. Little did I realize that guests who don’t know Todd and that I haven’t seen in forever, might not know who the hell I am!? So now I have a bit of a conundrum. What’s a girl to do? Any ideas??
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Send an email to everyone invited, saying that the invitations are on the way, and sign with all your contact info — full names, addresses, e-mail addresses, websites, everything. So it looks like you are sending the “extra” info electronically instead of “cluttering up” your mailing.
Hopefully they just recognize your from the dimple art. 
That might work for some people….but I really haven’t seen some of these people since I was 5. 
if it were me I’d jut put something like, “love, Miss Smith and Mr Jones” underneath the address lines on the card–that way it’ll definitely still be cutesy, but won’t clutter up the card.
Or, if you think they’d recognize you by face (which might not work for people you haven’t seen since you were 5) you could get those photo stamps.
hth!
To the ones for your parents’ friends, you might include a little note “from your parents” - saying hi, we look forward to seeing you, etc… signed, Susan’s parents!
Maybe you could get matching cards printed (or something printed in a same color) so that it looks personalized, but your mom doesn’t have to handwrite the entire note.
oh and by “address lines” I mean the blank lines that you’ll be writing each guest’s address on 
I did the same thing! I completely forgot to add either of our last names. I did, however, have the our website address on there, so I’m hoping that people will check the website and realize who we are.
I wouldn’t worry about it too much. For the people who don’t know who you are, they will probably ask others that they know and will maybe figure it out that way. I think it helps that this is just your save the date, as long as your invitation has you last name, you should be safe. Good luck!
Maybe it’s just me, but why are you inviting anyone who wouldn’t know who you are? It seems like any friend you invite, should be able to recognize you from you and your FI’s name. Like maybe they know more than one Susan, but they definately should know who Susan with the fiance named Todd is.
I can understand if some family members don’t know your fiance and might be confused, but hopefully they’ve heard through the family grapevine that you’re getting married.
Well, let me explain that fact! I’m a navy brat and have moved around all my life. A lot of people that we are inviting are friends that my family and I have known for years, but do not get to see often. We primarily correspond via Christmas letters. People can probably deduce that it is me from the Seattle post mark…but I don’t want to take any chances. These aren’t family members, otherwise I wouldn’t have a problem!
I wouldn’t worry too much about it - it’s a warning for what’s to come, so no one’s gonna be all “oh I have to rsvp, but to whom?”
As long as your invites have your last name you’ll be fine. If it really bothers you look at it this way - it just makes people anticipate your invite more!
well…since it says “invitation to follow” they probably won’t fret and just wait for the invite and then know who it’s from. and since it also matches your invite color scheme, they’ll [hopefully] recognize it.
i’d write a little personal note to those you’re worried about as suggested by miss blueberry. i didn’t include our last names on my save the dates because most people know one of us and even if they don’t know my fiance’s last name, they’ll find out soon enough with the invitation.
i agree w/ inaya… worst case scenario, someone doesn’t recognize you & todd, and/or the person knows several susans, etc - they’ll wait for the invitation. so it all works out.
btw - i love your save-the-dates! very cute
Ditto on the little personal note - but just to those who might be confused, like distant relatives and the like. Then you won’t have to write on EVERY std.
My sister in law’s invitation was like that too!!! (No last name of bride AND groom!) So for her parents’ guests, they just stuck an address label with their parents name and address so the guests knew who it was from Perhaps, you could put your STD card inside an envelope that has your full name on it for those who might not know you?
a navy brat? miss strawberry, you’re awesome. lol, i’m an army brat so i know what you’re talking about with far-flung friends. anywho, i say don’t worry too much. i’m sure they’ll be able to figure out who you are and if not, there’s always the invite
ditto kandace and inaya - it’ll be a fun quirky mystery! “susan WHO??” they’ll spend months anticipating the real answer and then the invite will come and they’ll be like “ohhhhhh, SU-san!” They’ll love you for it. 
Use Return address labels with your last name on them!
I just had the same problem with my save the dates. The wave I sent out to my parents friends had no idea who we were. To prevent that, the next wave I am putting my parents return addresses on the ones that go to their friends.
I like the idea of adding a little message at the bottom right.
Something like “We look forward to sharing this time with you. xoxo Miss Strawberry & Mr. Strawberry”
i remembered our last names for our STDs (a single fold postcard), but i forgot to write “invitation to follow” (we sent them out 2 months ago and i just realized yesterday reading people’s entries). i was WONDERING why people kept saying that it looked a bit odd for an invitation!!!
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Mrs. Strawberry, Seattle
Age and Occupation: 25, Radio DJ, Advertising Sales, Day of Wedding Coordinator
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 26, Engineer
Engagement Date: 07/04/2006
Wedding Date: September 1, 2007
Venue: Lake Union Cafe, Seattle
About Me: I'm a Navy brat that has lived all over the world. I love reality shows that are in poor taste, going to new restaurants, and trying to be crafty. Emphasis on trying!
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