A lot of people my and Mr. Blueberry’s age know about Facebook–an online community that started at the university level, but has now expanded to allow everyone–sort of like Myspace. One thing I really like about Facebook is their group/event options–you can create an event, which can be anything from a club meeting to a house party; or you can create a group, which can range from “people who <3 Rice-a-roni” to “Students for alternative energy.” Some people create groups or events for their weddings, bachelor/ette parties, or bridal showers, too! (Not that I would recommend a Facebook invite being your only form of invitation!)

Of course, I had to create a Facebook group for our wedding!

Like that profile photo? smiley504 Click here to see it in all its trashy glory smiley402.

We invited all our Facebook-savvy friends to join, and use the site to update them on where to stay while they’re in KC. They’ve also taken advantage of the site to share things like:

“yay, i’ll be the first on to write on the wedding wall! haha makes me think of oasis. “and after alllllllll… your my wedding walllllllll…” haha, man im awesome… and basically the best bridesmaid ever! lol and did i mention modest??? ¢â„¢¥¢â„¢¥<3″

Yes, that’s from my wonderful bridesmaid Katie smiley504. Where would we be if she couldn’t share that witticism with the rest of our friends? smiley402

In all seriousness, though, just as Facebook can be convenient to let you stay in touch with long-lost friends, it can also let you keep closer friends up-to-date on the various aspects of your life and wedding planning. Not only have we used the group to tell them about their hotel, it also allows us to send a one-click message to any and all of them about anything.

Does anyone else have a Facebook group for wedding guests?


Mrs. Blueberry

Kansas City
Wedding Date:
May 2007
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    Miss Snow Pea, Guest @ 1:35 pm

    I am on facebook! It’s so easy to use too.

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    tabby, Guest @ 1:36 pm

    I’ve gotten Facebook invites to weddings before (followed by a real invite!). My friend who is getting married in June also created a group for the wedding party…it’s so much easier to communicate with the bridesmaids that way (I’m MOH and don’t really know the other bridesmaids that well). Gotta love Facebook!

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    oojoy, Guest @ 1:44 pm

    I’m on Facebook, too! I got on it for school since it helped a lot with group sessions and finding people in the same classes. LOL, never thought to do a wedding group, though. Too cute. :-)

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    ocicats, Guest @ 1:56 pm

    Facebook rocks! It’s so much better than Friendster. Too bad most of my friends use Friendster.

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    Julie, Guest @ 2:20 pm

    I’m on facebook, but I would never imagine using it for wedding purposes. For starters, since my parents are shelling out most of the money, the guest list is composed of mostly their friends, in addition to family, and very few of mine. I couldn’t imagine having a group on Facebook for the wedding when so many of my casual friends are not going to be invited (but would still be able to see that I had a wedding group). I just think it kind of rubs it in their face that it’s going to be a great event, but they won’t be able to attend.
    Miss Blueberry, how did you deal with friends of yours who are also on facebook, but will not be invited to the wedding?

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    Miss Lime, Guest @ 2:31 pm

    oh man, i think i’m too old for facebook [and i’m not even *that* old to be getting married]. my little brother keeps telling me to get on it, but i had no idea what he was talking about.

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    Laura, Guest @ 3:20 pm

    I have a facebook, but I wouldn’t use it for wedding stuff. I don’t want some of my casual friends/sorority sisters who I’m not inviting to see a big to-do I’m making about inviting other people to the wedding. Now that I’m reading the other posts, pretty much seconding what Julie said.

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    Miss Blueberry, Guest @ 4:10 pm

    Julie and Laura–Sure! I don’t have many friends! Sadly, that’s pretty much the truth 😛 I only have a few friends and those people are all very dear to me–so they’re invited to the wedding. All my other “friends” on Facebook are super-casual–people I’ve had classes with, high school acquaintances, etc. No one whose feelings would be hurt by being excluded from the wedding. But I could definitely see how if you have sorority sisters or something who aren’t invited, it could be a touchy subject!

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    kandaceandjason, Guest @ 11:28 pm

    Funny you should mention Facebook – it got me through college and I still check it daily (ok I only graduated three months ago!). Believe it or not, after we racked our brains coming up with our everyone-we-could-ever-want-to-invite list, I went through my Facebook and looked at all my friends – just to make sure I didn’t (accidentally!) miss someone :)

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    Becca, Guest @ 8:48 am

    omg I love it! I’m a college student so of course Facebook is my life! A friend of mine is getting married next summer and she made a group as well. I think it’s a great way to let everyone know, her staus said “Maryelise is engaged! for real!” I really like the bridal party group idea!

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    Allison, Guest @ 9:48 pm

    I think we need to start a facebook group for those of us who are weddingbee obsessed!

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