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We’ve just been saying that we want to confirm the spelling of everyone’s name Works better over email than in person, though….

i agree that you could probably wait to solidify your guest list. however, i wouldnt try to get all the names myself. i mean, they are guests from HIS side. say that he needs to get the guests’ full name, with correct spelling, and their addresses by a certain date, or threaten not to invite them! hahahah. seriously though, make sure he has the responsibility to do this and make sure he does it right. you do not want to spend the rest of your 7 months doing everything that he was supposed to do. you have enough to deal with as it is!

oops! That should have been “what if the name ends up being John”

Sorry, my little rebuttle, but I solidified my list at 7 months (exactly when I sent out the save the dates), and it was the BEST thing I ever did. Not because I was setting it in stone, or making sure we had EVERYONE’s names, but more so because it was the one thing I haven’t had to worry about in the last couple of months. I did have my mom and FMIL help, but that wasn’t much help! In the end there were about 3 or 4 addresses that I looked up (of my mom’s) on MSN white pages, and then I called her and said “is this their address?” Amazingly all of them were correct.

My advice? Get it done now, because I can hear a little worry in your voice, and I can imagine how you would be (take no offense, i am the same way) when it gets down to sending out the invites.

Agree that enlisting the mothers is a great idea to help everyone save face and spread the work.

Agree that whitepages.com is amazingly useful, as is usps.com (post office website; yes, .com, not .gov) to confirm zip codes (and you can get the 4-digit extension, too). For unusual names, google was helpful to locate long-lost college friends.

For know you can keep the STD list short and send a second wave once you get the rest of the details. Or, keep the STD list short; you can send more invitations than STD’s but not vice versa.

Miss Mouse — If his name turns out to be “Jonh” then it’s a good thing you inquired to confirm spelling, because I would have guessed “John” or “Jon.”

Guest lists are pure evil. That is all.

Believe it or not, the guest list was the first thing we started on, the day after we got engaged. It was the only thing we could do while in my parents’ city, and we were excited to do something! Seriously though, it helped us when it came to things like envisioning the kind of wedding we wanted, and when we went to look at venues we could know if all our guests would fit or if we’d need additional rentals and such.

We’re not doing a seating chart. We are reserving tables for immediate family and the wedding party, and then letting everyone else fend for themselves. The way we figure it, everyone there is either family or mutual college friends, so there won’t be that awkward loner who’s forced to sit by herself.