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Weddings New York magazine will have a feature about how to have a wedding with a small budget. Yesterday’s Daily News had an excerpt with a sample wedding that came out to less than $8,000. http://www.nydailynews.com/lifestyle/2007/03/25/2007-03-25_wedding_bill_on_the_cheap.html

Um . . . I’m a late commenter, but the whole name changing ‘thing’ has been a subject of many vibrant conversations among family and friends since our engagement. We have been floating the idea of a ‘coin toss’ at the wedding (talk about a potentially awesome new tradition for the modern bride), where heads means the groom takes the wife’s name, and tails the wife his. This notion makes some (most) people shake in their boots. My fiance isn’t exactly hot on the idea, but he is willing to listen to the critique of just enacting an obviously patriarchal tradition. I find the controversy caused by the idea the single most compelling reason to push it. Controversy is often a mark of a deeply seated, unquestioned norm or value. Reactions that reveal that people are APPALLED at the notion of a husband taking a wife’s name are evidence that we remain shackled to bizarre, and often biased traditions. We need to question why we do things the way we do. What does this stand for? Why do people care SO much what last name a happy, healthy, married couple takes?