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This just dawned on me… I had a custom stamp made with my address that I planned to use on both the back flap of the outer envelope, and also on the front of the response card envelope so that all the cards come back to me. The stamp looks something like this:
Charlene & Borton
123 Weddingbee Lane
Somewhere, IL 60606
Will people think that we live together, cuz technically we don’t (although we will live at this address after we are married)!! I don’t want to raise any eyebrows… shiiiiiet. 
I was seriously so happy with this stamp (from Impress) cuz it looks awesome!!
Boooo… do you think this is a No-No?
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It does make it appear that you both live there…although I don’t think that’s a big deal; so I think you’re fine.
I don’t think it’s a big deal at all. People often just put one main address, anyway.
I am doing the same thing and my FI and I are not living together either.
Remember, I have somewhat traditional Taiwanese parents… *sigh*
I did the same although the hubby and I did live together at the time (moved in about a week before the invites went out). Nobody said anything about it.
For those relatives that may raise an eyebrow, how about handwriting the return address? Then you can put it however you’d like. For those college friends/neighbors/work friends (aka: cool young people), I wouldn’t worry about it at all.
I read in Emily Post’s Wedding Etiquette book that you should use the address where you would like your gifts to be sent on your return address (since most people will look at the return address when sending gifts.) Since you’re going to be moving into that address eventually, it makes sense logistically. You can just have everyone spread the word that you did it that way so that you don’t have to worry about transporting the gifts when you actually do move in together.
No, don’t worry about what people think. You know the truth and you love the stamp. Basically RSVPs and gifts will be sent to your attention at that address, regardless of if it’s yours, his, your parents…
Don’t worry about it. We did the same thing and have some VERY conservative Christian relatives/friends. No one said anything to us or my mom. Most people knew or assumed that we didn’t live together.
If people do mention something, just say you were being conservative–as in not having to make a whole other return address stamp after the wedding with both your names on it. You were saving the environment and saving some money.
DOH, I didn’t even THINK about the fact that guests will use that to figure out where to send the gifts!! We want the gifts sent to my parents house, cuz they have a front gate that will collect packages. I don’t want gifts, aka my nice china/Vera Wang Crystal/Kitchenaid Mixer sitting outside my townhouse door!!
Hrmm, but maybe I’ll take up Soiree Laura’s suggestion!
For the envelopes going to people who might be judgmental — Hold an index card or something at the very top edge of the envelope so that when you use the address stamp, your names will hit the card and not appear on the envelope.
If you’re worried about what your parents will think, can you just ask/explain to them? I don’t think there is a problem. Etiquette says you don’t need a name on the return address, but since you added it I think it’s fine (it would be weird to have only ONE of your names on the return address, and weird to have 2 addresses). I think you are in the clear.
My mom insisted that I use my parents’ address so that the relatives don’t know we live together (although I work so much, I might as well have the gifts sent to the office 
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My fiance and I live together. He recently officially moved in a couple of months ago. And I have the return address of everything for the wedding only under my name. I think I did this only because I’m planning everything and traditonally that is what is done. I do have a stamp being made in both our names under the same address for our thank you cards. I figured we could use it for that and also for future correspondence. In the end, I don’t think it matters. My parents are quite strict too. I didn’t think they would ever allow my fiance to move in before the nuptials. But here it is. I think in this day and age, relatives and such are accepting as long as there is a strong committment to the union. Good luck!
soireelaura’s suggestion is great. and you can always use the stamp on your thank you cards, so it won’t go to waste. 
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Mrs. Emerald, Chicago
Age and Occupation: 26, Wedding Planner
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 26, Paralegal
Engagement Date: October 8, 2006
Wedding Date: September 2007
Blogging Since: November 29, 2006
Venue: Hyatt Lodge, Oak Brook IL
About Me: I have been dreaming about my wedding forever, and flipping through bridal magazines since high school, so I am in my element! I am calling our theme "Vintage Inspired French/Asian Fusion." Mr. Emerald is very involved in the planning process, but of course he generally defers to me cuz I have a strong opinion of how I want everything to be :-).
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