Weddingbee Blog

Include sisters (and brothers)! They are your friends for life!

The ones I chose were easy. My sister, his sister, my best friend since grade school. I had a tough time deciding not to ask some of my sorority sisters, but it was either all of them or none of them, and I didn’t want a ton of BMs. Where we all live was part of the decision also, I didn’t want to coordinate dress shopping with girls who live out of state.

interestingly for my case, i had my best pals o be my groomsmen…8 of them in total from secondary school to high school to university friends…

for my wife, she had her best friends from university….one of her best friends wants to decide what the bridesmaids can wear which differs so much from what my wife wanted…so she left and didnt want to help…..

4 months had passed and the misunderstanding hadn’t been clarified yet

I also had a pretty easy decision when I asked my three close cousins to be in my wedding. However, after choosing the entire wedding party and asking everybody, my fiance’s sister told her parents that she wanted to be in the wedding and they called my fiance and told him that we had to add her.

Since then, she has asked if she can get out of buying both the dress and the shoes (she wanted to have a seamstress make the dress and I don’t even know what was wrong with the shoes), so it is becoming a disaster. Every time I email my bridesmaids I cringe because I am afraid that she will complain about something else.

I totally agree that weddings bring out the good and bad sides of everybody. My cousins and I are getting closer because of the deal, but my SIL is just pusing both me and my fiance farther away from her because she is being so difficult. I am not even sure what we could do to solve the problem, but it is certainly frustrating.

i chose my cousins who were my “sisters” growing up. and for my third and final bm i chose the gal that is most like a sister right now. i feel bad that none of my FH’s sisters are a BM, but I’m currently not that close to them. I get along great with them, don’t get me wrong, I have nothing against including them. I just never wanted more than 3 BMs.

I have five ladies, and the choice was easy but difficult for me. Difficult because I have been in six weddings and three of those were as Maid of Honor. Doing the math…that wouldn’t quite work. We have a big circle and I could have asked 10 people, but my fiance wanted to keep it small (and rightly so).

Patrick would have liked to only have three or four but I negotiated five. The Maid of Honor introduced Patrick and me and is a friend to both of us. Matron of Honor is a sorority sister (I was her MOH). BM #1 is a friend from college, BM #2 is my cousin and BM#3 is a friend from 3rd grade (and I was her MOH).

The third girl I was MOH for isn’t a close friend and I asked her to be a reader for us. I couldn’t not ask her to be in the wedding, I didn’t feel but Patrick and I agreed should wouldn’t fit in as a BM–it wouldn’t feel right.

Choosing my bridesmaids were extremely easy. I am only child so I don’t have sisters that I might or would have asked if I were close with them. Instead I have the 4 greatest gfs in the world. They are basically like my sisters - just not related to me by blood. I chose them bc I couldn’t imagine anyone else being by my side as I walked down that aisle. I chose them bc I knew that they’d are sincerely happy for us and are as thoroughly excited as we are about the day. They’ve been with me through the good and the very bad and they’ve supported me through everything … going through this journey … I knew they’d want to be as much a part of it as I wanted them to be.

*yes* I am super cheesy but the girls I asked - mean the world to me and if they read this, I want them to know it and will show them how grateful I am that they accepted. =)

I’d known for forever who my girls would be. My two sisters (both MOHs), my cousin who was always referred to as our fourth sister, my best friend and Pat’s sister.

He asked 8 guys to be in his wedding party so we won’t match and I’m not at all worried. His choices were more difficult then mine even though he asked even more people.

I knew right away who my maid of honor and first bridesmaid would be, two of my closest friends; MOH and I went to high school together and lived together freshman year, she is my rock! My first bridesmaid and I met our freshman year of college and instantly connected; we’re like two peas in a pod, no joke. But I couldn’t have just 2; FI has many guy friends and wanted more. So, we compromised on 4 because it would be a struggle for me to come up with any more than that; I don’t have many female friends. So, I ended up choosing my current roommate and FI’s sister. FI’s sister: one of my greatest decision so far in the wedding planning; I love her! Current roommate: bad, bad idea. At the time, we had lived together less than a month but been friends for close to 2 years. I didn’t realize until after living with her flaky she is. She has bailed on almost every wedding/bridesmaid related activity thus far, and I sometime wonder if she will bail on my wedding. But I still live with her and will up until a month before the wedding, plus I really don’t like confrontation, so I don’t have the heart to “unask” her.

I’m an only child, but I always knew I just wanted one or two people up there with me. I chose my best friend to be my MOH, but I chose my best friend from childhood-high school to be my other bridesmaid. It made me realize why we grew apart.

I had originally wanted to ask my two other best friends from college (we had roomed together for 3 years–quite a feat for girls!), but couldn’t decide between them. One ended up being in Africa when we got married and the other one acted more like my bridesmaid than the other one did. It made me really sad that she couldn’t be up there with me on my special day.

(My MOH is stilled ticked at the bridesmaid for not even having the bridesmaid dress that I paid for pressed before the wedding. I’m over it, but she’s still mad for me. But I guess that’s what best friends are for. :))