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Hi all!

I bought an ivory dress (well, more cream-ish than ivory I should say), and now I’ve run into some issues that I hadn’t thought about when buying the dress.

Should I wear gold shoes and jewelry then so it matches the warmer tone? My rings are platinum though. Will that clash? And should the bridesmaids also wear gold shoes and jewelry? Their dresses are going to be teal blue.

Do the groom’s and groomsmen’s shirts need to be ivory as well? My grandfather gave him silver cufflinks as a gift. So then we go back into the gold vs. silver jewelry debate again. **Sigh**

Am I thinking waaaay too much into this? The more I think about it, the more confused I get. =( Help please!

Thanks!

Irene

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21 Responses to “Open Question: Gold Shoes With Ivory Dress?”

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ocicats

I like silver better and I think it’ll coordinate well with your cream dress.

 
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Miss Kiwi

I was always told that the groomsmen/groom should never wear ivory because the ivory will probably not match the ivory of your dress/accents. And men in ivory shirts tend to look yellowish in photos.

I’d also go with silver, it “brightens” the ivory/cream, in my opinion!

Good luck!

 
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Laura S

I’m with ocicats. Take a deep breath :) Platinum rings will be fine. What about pearl jewelry? That won’t clash with either silver/platinum or your dress. You could wear gold shoes if you like the idea, but don’t feel like you have to. Don’t forget that cream/ivory is a neutral colour. You could wear it with basically any colour shoe you want, although I would avoid a stark white.

I don’t think there’s any reason why you need to coordinate your jewelry or shoes with your bridesmaids. In fact many people just have their BM’s wear whatever jewelry and shoes they want with their dresses.

I also don’t think you need to coordinate your groomsmen’s shirts with your dress. If you can get ivory shirts for them, it would definitely look nice, but if you can’t I really wouldn’t stress over it too much, or the silver cufflinks. Everything will look great :)

 
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cg

In my opinion - you are thinking way too much into it!! The bridesmaids don’t have to match with what you’re wearing, neither do the groomsman’s shirts! (Although you can definitely get away with wearing gold and teal. Love the dress, I’m looking at those, too!) And I don’t think you should give up the sentimental value of the cuff links to be able to match with what you’re wearing. Wear what you want to wear and enjoy your day!

 
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Mrs. Butterfly

i had originally settled on gold jewelry for everyone in the bridal party, however, it doesnt work out very well, i dont think. i had an ivory dress, and ivory shoes - i ended up wearing pearls and silvers and diamonds (fake). i think it “sparkles” more when you wear silver.

also for men, you see so little of their shirts anyway so they should probably wear white. i’m sure ivory wont matter either - but miss kiwi is right - it’ll be hard to match YOUR ivory.

good luck!

 
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Pencils

I thought about wearing gold with my ivory gown, but when I “visited” it in the salon, I found it looked terrible with gold. Or, the gold looked terrible with it–it looked harsh and overly bright. But, then, what they call “ivory” can be so many different shades you should decide for yourself–bring both silver-toned and gold jewelry and hold it up to the dress. Don’t have the groomsmen wear ivory shirts, they don’t have to match your gown and white always looks better and crisper. An ivory shirt runs the risk of looking dull. A white shirt goes with everything. And the bridesmaids should wear whatever looks good for them. Teal is a great color in that it looks equally good with gold or silver. Good luck!

 
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Jessica

I agree with most of the other comments. A crisp white shirt goes with anything. Silver will probably go fine with your dress, and the bridesmaids don’t need to coordinate with you, especially on something like shoes. You’re shoes probably won’t be that visable, so making sure that their’s match shouldn’t be a concern. I agree that either silver or gold would probably look good, but you should compare things with your gown to see what works best. On a side note- I wore an ivory dress w/ champagne shoes and pearls. :)

 
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Kelly

I would agree on the no gold thing. A nude shoe is the classiest and won’t clash with whatever jewelry or shade of blue or ivory you’ve got. Also, not that you mentioned it, but no white shoes on bridesmaids..icky

 
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farmgal

My gown is also creamish/ivoryish (from J Crew if that helps), and I opted for pearly baby blue shoes (my something blue) and they look really beautiful in contrast! They draw attention to the details at the bottom and back of my gown. My jewelry is has silver around the pearls– it looks great all together. My FI is wearing bright, crisp white with silver cufflinks. Have fun with it and the ideas are endless!

 
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megan

I’m trying to figure out the same thing. I think I want gold and pearls with my ivory lace dress. My ring is platinum and I want to find gold shoes. I will be giving the bridesmaids gold jewelry to go with their brown dresses but I don’t think it is important that their jewelry matches mine. Also the men will where white shirts because ivory shirts can look dingy and no body will notice that they are the same shade as my dress.
I’ve been going back and forth on the gold or silver toned accessories. I will have to try them both with the dress, but I think gold matched my skin tone better. Now who’s over thinking it?

 
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ivy

you guys rock! i knew you guys could help uncloud my brain! i feel much better now =) i guess i’d been listening to too many peoples opinions…hehe…so it was throwing me off. and the whole white-shirt-being-crisper thing makes much more sense. graci!

 
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sally

I have the same (cream - ivory) I am def going for hot gold shoes (probably wedges) I am also wearing gold jewerly (yes my e-ring and wedding band is platinum). I am undecided as to if the BM’s wear gold shoes but they might (browm BM dresses). I am excited about my gold shoes (even though i have not found them) i think silver is a little yawn for me.

 
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sally

oh and boys are wearing morning suits if that helps.

 
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Iris

If you really like the metalics that are being shown now, you could still do gold shoes. For a more subtle look, try the “champagne” color instead of 14K Donald Trump yellow gold. The champagne gold is ambiguously gold/silver/beige and blends with most medium skintones.

100% agree w/ white shirts on the men. Possible exception for a red-headed groom if the whole wedding is in autumn colors.

 
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Iris

If you’re loving the metallic shoes they are showing this season, maybe try the champagne gold color (ambiguously gold/silver/beige) which is more subtle than the 14K Donald Trump yellow gold.

Agree 100% re white shirts for the men. Possible exception for red-headed groom if the wedding is in fall colors (golds, oranges, browns, ambers, burgandy, forest greens).

 
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Miss Blueberry

My gown is a ‘diamond white’ by Maggie Sottero (basically, ivory) and I found that silver just didn’t look quite right with it–gold really brought out the beauty in the gown! Even though my rings are white gold, I’m wearing gold shoes and accessories on the day-of. But if silver works OK with your shade of ivory, more power to you! I think it’ll be gorgeous :-)

 
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thea

I have an ivory gown as well. I found a great pair of gold tone earrings, but they are more of a pale, matte gold not a normal brass shade of gold so i’ve been looking for a pair of pale gold/ champagne or ivory shoes. (my e-ring is white gold tho. haven’t gotten wedding rings yet. it’s more special if it’s meaningful to you, rather than worrying about matching small details.)

you could always go with colors. if the bm’s have teal dresses, maybe get teal shoes for u or for them. (depending on how u feel about it. some brides get blue shoes for their something blue or red shoes to go with their color scheme.) you could do the same thing with jewelry. or go neutral with pearls. but i think either silver or gold tones would work with ur dress and the teal bm dresses. and someone mentioned already, but the bm’s don’t have to match u or each other. many people just let the bm’s choose their accessories. :)

 
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lixue

I also have an ivory dress…and i’m wearing purple shoes to match the girl’s sashs which are plum :P

the groom will be in an ivory tux with a black vest and ivory tie, the groomsmen will be in black tux’s with an ivory vest and black tie.

Weird? oh yes. But it will work :D I admire someone like who’s thinking of matching everything! But remember color doesn’t really matter b.c it’s all about YOU and you will look beautiful! hehe

 
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tracy

i had an ivory dress.

i wore light gold flats (they looked perfect with my dress)

my husband wore a black tux, ivory shirt, ivory vest and ivory tie

the groomsmen wore a black tux and an ivory shirt

reason the groomsmen wore an ivory shirt was because if they were standing next to my husband..we were scared that if they had a white shirt, it’d make my husband’s ivory shirt look dirty..so it was ivory shirts for everyone and honestly, you can’t really tell the difference between white and ivory when it comes down to it :)

 
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Alina

Oh man!!! I had the same problem til I read this page. I got an all ivory dress and I didn’t know if I could wear silver with it…I hate gold and pearls. They told me that the groom should match the bride and wear an ivory shirt and I think if the groom is wearing an ivory shirt so should the groomsmen because it will make the grooms shirt look dirty like someone said up there. I am probably going to wear clear or purple shoes…

 
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Adi

What color are you accessories??? I would wear Ivory shoes with silver or rhinestone accessories. Not white. Even if the shoes are beautiful…they’ll look extremely tacky against your ivory dress or make your dress look dirty in comparison to the shoes.
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Adi

 


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