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April 9th, 2007 @ 6:33 pm by Open Question

I am wondering what the “stages” of marriage are? It was mentioned in a comment on this beehive when someone asked about unique guestbook ideas like wishbowls.

at my wedding, we will have what we are calling “wedding jars”. basically they are 6 vases with narrow tops that represent different stages that our relationship will go through. we will ask people to put advice, words of encouragement, quotes or prayers for a certain stage of our marriage into the jars. we will open the “newlywed jar” on our honeymoon, and then the rest of the jars we will save to open when we reach that stage.

There is also a deeper spiritual meaning to this- the jars represent the 6 jars of water that Jesus turned into wine at a wedding for His first miracle, but the idea would work just as well if you chose not to add that if you are not christian/religious. ~ Staz

I love the idea of having different wishbowls where guests can leave advice for each stage of a marriage. I am just unsure what they are. Can anyone help please? Thanks!

Marla

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Guest

Kelly

I actually emailed “Staz” back when she commented to find out and she never responded. My guesses is that the 6 stages are broken down into time periods, e.g., first home, first child, empty nest, first grandchild? Any idea?

4/9/07 @ 6:39 pm (reply)

Bee

Mrs. Bee (message) 3,261 posts, Sugar bee

Hi marla,

i think that’s a great idea! maybe starz can chime in on what she used for her 6 jars.

how bout these:

1) the newlywed phase or first year of marriage
2) post newlywed (the first couple years of marriage pre-children… altho mr. bee doesn’t believe that there is such a thing as an end of the newlywed stage)
3) a major life event (buying a house)
4) having a first child
5) when the children go off to college (you’d have to wait a long time to read these wishes)

in addition to stages, there could be wishbowls for advice on how to deal with fights, how to keep the spark alive, etc.

hope this helps! i’d love to see what other suggestions our readers might have.

4/9/07 @ 6:40 pm (reply)

Guest

Jillian Kay

i’ll take a stab:

newlywed
pitter-patter of little feet
teenage angst
emptynest
mid-life crisis
when your babies have babies
growing old together

4/9/07 @ 6:45 pm (reply)

Guest

Iris

Shock, Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression,
Testing, Acceptance.

4/10/07 @ 10:37 am (reply)

Guest

Staz

Kelly, I’m sorry, i never got your e-mail. I have a pretty tight junk-mail filter. The stages we will be using are based on life events…. Newlywed, first child, Mid-life, empty nest, grandkids, retirement.
But I imagine, you could redefine them however you want to or even add or subtract a jar

4/10/07 @ 3:10 pm (reply)