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Elle,

You absolutely CANNOT do that. Period. There is no way around that. You either have to add another member to your BP or move on.

Miss Melodious,

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Elle - the only way you could really get away with that is by giving the twin a better job in exchange– so that it becomes a promotion, not a rejection. If you can’t think of any way to do that, well, there’s no shame in having four attendants.

Jmnz - If you really feel like you have to have envelope liners, a cheaper solution may be to buy regular colored paper locally and cut it into liner size yourself (you could also possibly find a printer who would cut it for you). However, I personally would save my money and just use unlined envelopes. It ends up being a huge expense on something people probably won’t notice and definitely will throw away.

ms melodious - one-tier veils are really easy to make, even if you’re sewing illiterate like I am. You can find tutorials on the internet (or you can buy a pattern at a sewing store), and tulle costs something like $1 a yard. I seriously made my veil for $5.

Hope this helps.

~Q

marvil - I am generally not a fan of planning a wedding when not engaged…and since you don’t have a date, don’t worry about booking vendors. What you CAN do is establish a budget and guestlist, shop for vendors and put together planning pics of your ideas. Maybe buy the Martha Stewart or Karen Bussen planner to compile clippings, ideas, business cards, etc. Good luck!

elle - Lets put it this way, there’s no way to do it without offending someone. You’d be looking at friendship-ending if you fire a BM. I would just have a fourth BM and if FI only has three GM that’s okay, too, to have uneven sides.

jmnz - both of your questions are feasible. I would add the liners later (ship and get them printed) and handle all the DIY of the pocketfolds as well. If you’re growing tired of DIY, I’ve heard that pocketfolds are a lot of work (always worth it!) but you may want to buy pre-lined if you don’t think you’ll want to do the work. You’ll probably save money DIY.

Marvil - you could start scouting reception sites for price ranges and style, maybe visit a few and select a site you like. Then you can set the date based on their availability once you have the visa. You could also start looking for your wedding dress, and start thinking about what sort of style you want for your wedding. Maybe start researching vendors and come up with a short list of vendors you’ll consider for your wedding. You could then contact them later on once you’ve set a date.

Elle - I’d have to agree with the others. In general there’s no way to “fire” a BM without hurting her feelings, but I think it would be especially hurtful if you fired one twin and not the other. Can you imagine if you were in her shoes? You’d feel like the other sister was being favoured. If it were me I’d be very angry and hurt. I think you should just try having 4 BM’s instead.

hi guys!

i’m looking for a wedding officiant in northern jersey. any reccommendations? my FI and I both don’t go to church, so finding a priest is outta the question. please help! our wedding is only in a few months!!!

I am aware that some suggestions have been posted before, but I am having a hard time deciding on what songs to play for the following:

1. recessional
2.first dance song- I know this will be personal but what have you selected?
3. Father/ daughter dance and/ or mother/ son dance.
4. anniversary dance
5. last dance.

Thanks and I can’t wait to hear some of your selections!

stp - We actually did “Wouldn’t it Be Nice” by the Beach Boys for our first dance, “My Girl” for the father daughter, and, ironically, “My Guy” for the mother son. It was really nice though.

I need help! A while back (I can’t remember when) there was a post and in the comments section there were a whole bunch of recipes for tea sandwiches. It wasn’t the sandwich recipe contest post–it was a different one. I have checked the archives and tried searching by tags etc. But I cannot find it! Does anyone have an amazing memory?

Might want to consider using a judge for your wedding officiant. Does your fiancĩ or anyone you know have any ties to a NJ judge ie. maybe you know some lawyers, etc.? Many judges have been wedding officiants- usually for couples that they know personally. However, if someone you are close to is friends with a judge then you might be able to get him/her to marry you!