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As I’ve blogged before, Mr. Kiwi and I met for the first time almost ten years ago. I was a 17 year old fresh out of high school when I met Mr. Kiwi - also just out of high school. We dated for a very short time, and quickly lost touch. It was the age old tale of a girl wanting something more “exciting” and less adoring, so she broke up with the man who loved her - knowing all the while this was probably the one person who would ever love her like that. Well, I found that “excitement,” and boy did it suck, my mental prophecy was fulfilled - no one loved me like him. Many years passed, and Mr. Kiwi was never far from my mind.
Over the years, I tried to find him many times - once I actually talked to him! The last time I tried, his brother gave me the new number I could reach him at, and the number was wrong. It seemed that there was something keeping us apart, which is odd due to some slight coincidences between our lives as we grew older.
Mr. Kiwi is a teacher/coach at a school that played against the children I baby sat for. They were often at games together! Mr. Kiwi’s mom works a block away from me, and goes to lunch at some of the same places I do. Our lives intersected in many more ways, I just can’t remember them now. Finally, in 2003, my search for him proved fruitful. I looked up his name on Friendster.com, and got a hit.
After trading emails back and forth, we met up and decided to give the relationship another more adult try. A year later we moved in together, four months after that we got a dog, and a year after THAT we got engaged. Now, we’re going to be marrying two days before our 10 year anniversary. It’s been quite the story to tell - thank goodness for the internet, right?
Sometimes I think this is such a fairytale; girl meets boy, breaks his heart and loses him only to marry him ten years later. The world is full of these stories, right (Miss Bluebell, ahem)? Though it sounds so romantic, there are also major pressures that go along with this. When we first got together, I was often worried about breaking his heart again. I didn’t want to make that mistake - think I loved him and then realize I just wanted this story to work out. Even now, almost four years later, I get worried. What if this isn’t love? How do I KNOW? What if somehow, things go wrong? Usually, I just think - it’s Mr. Kiwi! He’s the best thing that ever happened to me, and I know that now.
Yesterday, I went shopping for my bridal shower stuff (my family likes to start things early), and finally-FINALLY- those little doubts are gone. The fear of “forever” and heartbreak are gone, and joy and excitement have replaced them. People - I’m a grown up now. 
Mr. Kiwi is literally my past, present and future. And our grandkids have a great story to hear when they get older!
Do you think that sometimes people just need a break to realize what they’re missing?
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Ours is kind of the opposite story - a break would have ended everything.
We met my second semester freshman year, towards finals (and summer). We hung out increasingly more and more, and with fewer other people, until it was just us and we went on our first date. But summer was coming and he was heading back to his home city while I stayed for summer school and my job. He didn’t want to get into anything, instead saying we’d pick back up in the fall. But somehow I knew that there would be other guys for me and other girls for him in that three-month hiatus, so I pushed and pushed until we decided to at least give the LD thing a go; he was only about 5 hours away so we’d be able to take trips to visit.
And we made it work! He came up to see me, I went down to see him, and all the while we talked on the phone almost every day, learning each other’s personalities, likes, and dislikes. We sent each other packages, letters, emails. And those weekends when we were together were so perfect even though Sunday always came too quickly. If we hadn’t at least tried the LD relationship, I doubt we really would have picked back up the next semester.
Now, my little sister is going through the same thing - a guy she’s talking to is off to work at a camp the whole summer. I tell her my story and she tells me she’s not looking to marry the guy! But three years ago I wasn’t planning marriage either Funny how things come full circle.
I just broke up with my bf of almost 5 years. I don’t know what the future holds for us but thanks for sharing that story! It makes me feel better. I broke up not b/c I don’t love him anymore or met someone else. I simply need to be on my own - I’m just 22!
yeah sometimes you do need a break in certain circumstance but not every break ends back together you know? yours is an incredible story even with other bees having the same experience. i’ve been told that i was “the girl that got away” on a few occasions but from guys i finally saw would not have been able to give me the type of relationship i wanted and deserved. i’m very happy with my bf and i wouldn’t dare take a break, i know what i would be missing and i don’t want to miss him.
Haha, as you said, we have a very similar story! And yeah, our main problem was also that when we were starting to get back together I just felt sooooo guilty and cared about him so much that I had a hard time deciding to date again b/c I couldn’t be the girl who broke his heart TWICE. Luckily, I got over that eventually though. 
Yay for being grownup!
Heh. I have to say yes I agree. Although I am not marrying the guy that I look back on now and feel really bad for what I him. I hope he has moved on just fine and has a lovely life with someone else.
But, I did sort of put my fiance through the ringer a bit. We were friends and such good friends I refused to sacrifice our friendship for a relationship because considering my track record, it had never worked out. So we put each other through the “ok we won’t date” but really wanting to date each other… before we both finally realized, it would be more torturous to continue to watch each other date other people than to try to make a go of it with each other. becuase we both knew, it’d either be the most amazing relationship ever… or the worse idea in the world. we just really valued our friendship so much that.. we really hoped it wouldn’t turn into the worst idea in the world.
fortunately it was the most amazing thing ever. and now we’re getting married. which still amazes me sometimes. because i never thought i’d really seriously get married. heh.
I don’t know if people need a break so much as sometimes you meet the right person at the wrong time. I wonder if Prince William is in that position now–he thinks he’s too young to settle down, and if he thinks that, then he is, but I wonder if he’s going to regret losing Kate in a few years. Maybe he’ll get her back, his father did, right? I think you’re lucky in that you were able to re-connect with Mr Kiwi when it was the right time. I wonder if that might have happened to Mr Pencils and myself. Turns out we used to go to the same nightclubs when we were twenty or so, we went to the same conventions, know a bunch of the same people, yet we only met 2.5 years ago through a personal ad. And it’s probably a good thing, as I don’t think we would have been right for each other at twenty, but we definitely are now!
Congratulations on re-finding Mr Kiwi and your upcoming marriage!
you are bravery and patience girl.cherish yorselfe,cherish what you have now,cherish elveryone around you.
Ah, Miss Kiwi- similar thing over in Mouse-land. I was Mr Mouse’s first kiss…aww…so sweet… except I was 16 and fickle and thought his best friend was really cute…oh yes, the excitement… but the miracle was we stayed friends after that. Sometimes closer, sometimes a bit drifted, but never too far. And then one day I realized I was in love with my best friend. And panicked. Nooooooo….it would ruin everything. Except. Except. Here we are now.
Sorry, I have a fever of 103 and can tell I’m a bit incoherent. But your story made me all mushy and want to share.
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Mrs. Kiwi, Los Angeles
Age and Occupation in 06: 27, Bookkeeper
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 27, P.E. Teach/Coach @ private schools in LA
Engagement Date: March 31, 2006
Wedding Date: November 3, 2007
Venue: Radisson Hotel
About Me: I'm a bookkeeper who failed high school algebra. I'm currently living in Los Angeles, literally a street over from where I grew up with Mr. Kiwi, my honey of three years. We have a jumbo mini-dachshund (seriously, he's huuuuge), and we're planning an autumn themed wedding on a shoestring, paid for by ourselves. The wedding date is my late grandma's birthday, I needed her there somehow, and that seemed like the best way for us. I can't believe I'm a Bee! I couldn't be more proud!
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