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Mrs. Kiwi, Los Angeles Age and Occupation in 06: 27, Bookkeeper Fiance's Age and Occupation: 27, P.E. Teach/Coach @ private schools in LA Engagement Date: March 31, 2006 Wedding Date: November 3, 2007 Venue: Radisson Hotel About Me: I'm a bookkeeper who failed high school algebra. I'm currently living in Los Angeles, literally a street over from where I grew up with Mr. Kiwi, my honey of three years. We have a jumbo mini-dachshund (seriously, he's huuuuge), and we're planning an autumn themed wedding on a shoestring, paid for by ourselves. The wedding date is my late grandma's birthday, I needed her there somehow, and that seemed like the best way for us. I can't believe I'm a Bee! I couldn't be more proud!
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Landslide

April 18th, 2007 @ 5:37 pm by Mrs. Kiwi

Hello Weddingbee, how’s it going? I’m a little stressed. happy04 Wedding planning, tax time, school year drawing to a close? Stress?

Right now Mr. Kiwi is sleep-deprived. Not in a good way, ha ha, but because even with the four jobs he has, we’re still pinching every penny until it coughs copper dust. This wedding isn’t an extravagant affair-it’s not something that we couldn’t afford to have, so what’s the problem? Uncle Sam. Yep, he’s charging poor Mr. Kiwi almost five thousand dollars this year. Mr. K’s claiming everything he can, but that isn’t helping.

Since money is now the one item we focus on, this makes us both look at our jobs in a different way. I wish I had two, but in between the one I have and the five hours left before bed, I have no time for an extra job. Mr. Kiwi, promoted to a new position, yet paid the same (!), has the worries of the world on his shoulders. This leaves me, the worrywart in the relationship, terrified.

Despite all this, I know that if we REALLY need some help near the end we can pinch it together from somewhere-what we wanted NOT to do.

How do you relieve stress? Please tell me, I need help!

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Tea

oh no. i’m sorry to hear about your troubles miss kiwi. i don’t have much help for stress since i always just take a nap when things get too much for me.

 
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kandaceandjason

Exercise is a great stress buster. No really it is. Even if it’s just twenty minutes of jogging, don’t you always feel so much more accomplished? Plus, after you work out, you won’t want to eat junk food, so it works double as a stress buster and a weight loser!

 
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Laura S

I second Kandace’s advice about exercising! Also, backrubs and hugs work wonders, and playing with any four-legged friends you may have on hand (their carefree attitude is infectious).

But I know the ultimate stress relief for financial stress is some cash flow. If you don’t have time for a second job, what about picking up a few hours of freelance work doing whatever you can in the time you have? That way you can set your own hours, and if it’s 3 hours a week, then that’s what it is. You could do anything really. Writing, editing, dog-walking / dog-sitting, sell jewelry, whatever you do well and would spend time doing anyway, try getting paid for it. Just a thought…

And of course, breathe, because as you said, you know you’ll be okay in the end. Short term pain, it will all work out :)

 
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Nony Mouse

Taking 30 seconds to breathe deeply, enough to work at relaxing whichever muscles you tense when stressed (neck, shoulder, and jaw are common).
Take a nice hot bath.
Sing out loud to a campy happy tune. Who can stress around Great Green Globs?
Arrange to have more deducted out of your paychecks so you don’t get caught short next year (or were you hoping for more of a return this year?).

 
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Miss Pumpkin

Awww, Miss Kiwi - I am sorry that you are so worried! This post didn’t have the same spunky voice that your others do so I can tell how down you are. Try not to worry too much - whatever happens you two will be fine, you’ll get through it together!
My stress releiver is to watch funny movies - nothing makes me feel better than laughing at classics like Tommy Boy or Vacation. Nothing heavy, just stupid fun stuff.
In terms of making some quick cash - maybe you could sell some of your old stuff to a second hand store? I also feel better when I de-clutter my life somewhat so that could help in two ways!
Good luck! I’m thinking happy thoughts for you.

 
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Bridezilla

That’s awful! When you’re stressed, the answer can be something as simple as a nice bath and a cup of hot tea with honey, maybe with some nice relaxing music.

Hang in there!

 
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Robyn

my quick money solution suggestions, sell stuff on amazon, books you don’t need anymore can fetch more than you would think, a garage sale is always helpful, maybe babysit for a friend. Could you ask for a raise, many people deserve a raise and could get one but are always too afraid to ask. If there is a chance that either you or the Mr. could get a raise I highly suggest asking!!

 
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Rebecca

Miss Kiwi,

Remind yourself that you are about to marry the person you love most in the world!

That probably sounds cheesy, but I mean it.

When I get nutty about wedding things, I try to remember that the whole point of it is to declare my love for my fiance in front of our families and friends (and God, if you’re religious), and that is just really really COOL!

You could throw a picnic in your local park for your reception and it would be amazing, because you’re in love and being brave enough to make a lifelong commitment to it.

Good luck handling things, I hope you feel better soon.

 
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kanipark

a scream sometimes helps :@
a nice talk with a friend…
eating :)

those are just some ways i relieve my stress :)

 
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tofu

count all the other blessings in your life.
go for a nice long walk.

that how i try to deal w/ stress.

feel better soon!

 
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Mary

All the suggestions above are good, especially Tofu’s: Count all your blessings. When you see how luck you are, the $$$ worries will start to recede. Also remind yourself of how strong you are as a person and that you WILL make it through this.

 
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Jhong Ren

i TALK to my wife, who was the fiancee, at that time

there are times i hide and keep it all in myself…but it is wrong for me

now i TALK…we walked round in a park a few times and we just talk….

talking helps…without the expectation of solving the problems

TALKING cn help to lighten the load…but not solve the problem

the other way is PICK UP A HOBBY….i read to destress

i know some ladies eat chocolate to destress

though scientifically, it is ture…

but it causes another concern

“what if i can’t fit in the gown?”

“what if i become fat?”

so the point here is : FIND a HEALTHY way of coping!!!!

 
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elise

sorry to hear about your situation
uncle sam is also taking $1000 from my fi funny part is he’s still a student. his paycheck is from grant money! when i am stressed out i go to gym or watch mindless reality tv

 
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Redd19

sex.

 
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Chrissie

I second all the posters who said exercise. I run to relieve stress, but maybe you could roller skate :)

 
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Angie

I agree with whoever said to ask for a raise. It’s always worth a shot. I also agree with selling stuff on ebay, amazon or wherever you can. And, I also agree with doing something freelance. There are a lot of great ideas up there.
I relieve stress by listening to loud angry music. Usually Metal, but that’s just me ;) . Perhaps a night in with your girlfriends might help. Dancing around to the radio makes me feel better.
I hope that things get easier for you guys!

 
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Miss Tulip

I clean to de-stress. Usually getting the clutter out of the way helps me to think clearly. Plus, my dorm room is really clean at the end of it!

 
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Mrs Peach

aww miss kiwi. we def understand the stress that money, or the lack-of, can cause… when we get stressed mr. peach and i pray together. and we count our blessings. we take turns saying what we’re thankful for. and in the end we realize we have SO MUCH to be thankful about! As much as we don’t have all the money we want to do this and that, we are reminded that we have a LOT more things than just our bare needs. so with that, i lift up a prayer for you and mr. kiwi. =) i know your wedding will be absolutely gorgeous no matter what!

 
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Kim

kandaceandjason’s comment is right! EXCERCISE. In fact, I am getting married in 9 months and have been craving a way to blow off some steam and I am bored to death with running on the treadmill to get bride ready – yuck! I just found out that the pole dancing work out called S Factor opened this week in Chicago right around the corner from my house - YAY! I have seen it on Oprah a bunch of times and Teri Hatcher and Kate Hudson always mention the S Factor workout as a way to tone up and have fun at the same time. From what I have read on their website (SFactor.com,) it is “a unique, empowering striptease inspired and pole-dancing workout” (blush!). Think it’s time to shake off my winter weight get in gear to be wed…

 


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