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No, really.
After this massive spate of wedding-related troubles (ring bearer issues, flower girl dress issues, hotel reservation issues, bridesmaid dress issues, etc…), Mr. Blueberry said, “I wish we’d just eloped.”
We then proceeded to have a game of chicken (”You want to go elope? Fine! Let’s go.” “OK, we’re going…I mean it!” “I mean it too. We’re eloping. Right now.” “Yep.”) that culminated in standing outside, barefoot (me in my pyjamas), at 9:30 at night, ready to get in the car to go elope. And then, only then, did Mr. Blueberry call my bluff. 
So we’ll still be getting married on May 25th, but don’t think I wasn’t tempted to just do it and get it over with.
Are you ever tempted to elope? Would you?
We were acutally going to elope this summer until my mother offered to pay $2,500 toward the cost of the wedding…so we took it and started planning. I still wish we had just eloped sometimes but at least this way my Dad who lives in Maine (I’m in colorado) can come and be a part of our day.
In a heartbeat. I say it 12 times a week.
It comes up every once in a while, although less frequently as the date nears. We seriously considered getting married one year prior to the planned ceremony, so our anniversary would be the same. My salary will increase when I have a “dependent,” and my health insurance will pay for his prescription drugs; between the two, we would have saved $6000 in that one year. We just couldn’t convince ourselves to do it. My feeling was that the wedding itself would be fake, and that just felt wrong. He was probably weighing the six thousand bucks against an extra year of bachelorhood.
I totally would, but Chris wouldn’t - he would be fine with a super small wedding but can’t imagine getting married without his brother and parents and best friend there. And so then I would have to invite my parents and brother and sister or I would never live it down. And from there, all of a sudden it starts costing money we don’t have so we have to use the money my parents have offered, and all of a sudden then since they get a huge say in the event, it’s a $25,000 shindig for 80 guests. But that’s okay 
I am not anti-big wedding, I love it actually. I would be happy either way.
i eloped a few months ago in vegas w/some of our best friends and it was the best wedding ever! the night before we took everyone to eat at the bellagio than the day of had a suv limo pick us up and did a drive thru wedding (where britney spears got married!). afterwards we treated everyone to in and out and we had a reception at my friends suite w/a beautiful buttercream frosting cake and champagne :). my husband and i haven been together for 8 yrs and eloping is more of our style…unfortunately our familes are making us have a more traditional ceremony this fall but we’ll always be glad we did it our way ^_^
Same situation as Laura. It would break his mom’s heart, so we’d have to invite his parents, my parents, siblings, grandparents, etc… It wouldn’t have been spontaneous and oh - we’re catholic too, so try explaining to priest why you have to get.married.right.now…!
Now that our parents are involved and generously paying for a bunch of it, it’s a four course meal, there are multiple wedding related events planned, and oh, all of our friends are sitting at smaller, side tables at the reception so that our parents’ friends and family can be accommodated. c’est la vie, I say. c’est la vie.
I think it gets mentioned at least once a week. Yea another colorado bride!
The FI and I think about it sometimes..but my mom & grandparents offered to pay for the wedding. One major factor was the FI moving out of his house w/o his family knowing because they hated me (for religious reasons and they blame me for his grandmother’s death from a broken heart-really a stroke- because I spent too much time with the FI and took his time away from her), and therefore don’t talk to him anymore at all.
1 MAJOR con to that is, now we have to do a lot of stuff their way. We have to have it at our church which is not one of those big nice churches..it’s a “church” inside of a business building/warehouse type of place. They’re saving money for a few years to buy/build a nice church. Also, a major no-no is alcolhol of any kind. We’re having a “dry” wedding. Why you ask? Because my mom is a conservative, christian, korean lady who doesn’t drink an ounce of alcohol…and considers it a sin. Also, no dancing/dj, etc. The wedding will go as follows: ceremony, reception in church dining hall= korean buffet, toasts, cake cutting, bouquet toss/garter toss, people go home.
So…now we’re thinking about just paying for an afterparty somewhere where we can have an open bar. dj, music, and invite anyone who wants to come celebrate it our way.
So difficult. Oh yea.. did I mention? I’m getting married Oct. 27, 2007 and we haven’t planned a single thing yet because my mom and grandma feel it’s “too early”. —-somebody HELP me…
oh yea..forgot to mention. it is only proper to my mom/grandparents to invite his family…i’m afraif his aunt/uncle (who he lived with)… with either 1. not come. or 2. come and ruin the wedding etc.
In a freaking NY minute. Sadly, we are one month out, so we have passed that “point of no return”.
If had known then what I know now, I would have eloped from the get-go. Or not gotten married two weeks after finals.
I’m getting married May 26th - right after you! And as the date gets closer and closer and the family drama gets greater and greater, I think about eloping more and more. Yesterday, my fiance and I got into it about his relatives who decided to invited along their children to our adults only reception. I was sooooo ready to throw in the towel and elope already…but we’ve got too much money invested in this stupid wedding!
we’re planning on eloping [with our parents' blessing and knowledge] and then having a big ceremony/reception for friends and family later. the bride and groom sometimes gets lost in the shuffle [i see it more as a day for the parents to show off] so we wanted something a lot more intimate and personal. the bf says it’s also symbollic of how we’ll start our lives together: just the two of us.
We say it all the time - usually while talking about money! When we put down the deposit for our reception site, my mother actually said “you know, that could have paid for a trip to Vegas!” But I don’t think we would actually do it, just like most, I’ve been dreaming about my wedding for a long time!
Did the deed 4/14. Yes, maybe not eloped, but not all the big hairy thing. We planned for 60 and it was just overwhelming. No one knew, but a number of things went wrong and it could have been much better and the anxiety and $ were not worth it.
At least once a week it crosses my mind. I havent had to utter the word out loud yet. But then again I am still 3+ months away…
heh. we were originally going to marry in vegas. we had already gotten our marriage license and as we were sitting to wait for the plane to come back we were daring each other to elope. but he wouldn’t do it. i was serious! heh.
ummm…if I don’t find a job soon and lose my health insurance, we’ll be eloping. 
I don’t think I can ever elope. I’m Christian so I really want to get married in the church. Then you can’t JUST invite your immediate family or JUST invite your ONE best friend… so either way, it’s going to snowball and I might as well have a WEDDING wedding afterall!
C.C., you can “elope” without going the courthouse route. My FI’s dad and stepmom got married in a church, with just them and the minister.
Nope. I’ve always wanted the huge party and FI is going along with it, ha ha…I could never do that to the people we’ve booked and the people who have helped plan and put forth money.
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Mrs. Blueberry, Kansas City Age and Occupation in 06: 21, Full-time Student Fiance's Age and Occupation: 23, Full-time Student Engagement Date: September 10, 2005 Wedding Date: May 25, 2007 Venue: Wynbrick Center - a historic mansion in my hometown. About Me: We're having an intimate, 125-ish person wedding with a full-blown dessert reception. When I'm not obsessing over wedding stuff or studying for my BA in English, I'm usually playing with our two kitty cats, blogging, doing crafty things, or hanging out with Mr. Blueberry!
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