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How old are they? I don’t understand why they can’t walk down the aisle for 30 seconds without clutching to a toy?

Ahahaha~ Oh boy, if Mr. Peach had read this before our wedding he would have insisted of incorporating Spiderman or some other Marvel character into our wedding! Even now, he insists on decorating the house with little figurines… =P It’s your wedding Miss Apple- you do what you want! ^_^

I kinda don’t get it…they’re only walking for 1 minute. They don’t even have to carry anything at all really. Like Mrs Peach said, it’s your wedding, if you love it do whatever you want.

I think the point isn’t that they need to carry something - you want them to, so why not:) I love the idea - my son would have LOVED it to!

Do they like ponies too? Maybe you could have them ride down the aisle on a pony, clutching their spiderman dolls. Your bridesmaids could hold balloons instead of flowers, kids love balloons. And then during the reception instead of a wedding cake, serve an ice cream cake. Everybody loves ice cream!

Now, now. No need to be sour, Miss Apple. Brides have to be thick-skinned and take some criticisms that hit us at our cores.

D’s posting made me laugh because it was so honest and really quite funny. Don’t so so quick to snuff out these alternative voices. Why do we visit this page? To see wedding ideas we can use and other ideas we can laugh at. Some are hits, some are misses. Thank goodness we like different things and have different ideas.

Some “personal” touches run the risk of bordering on silly (we must admit, we’ve all seen some silly things). For me, as long as there is a particular reason (e.g., the groom is a cartoonist for Marvel) and there aren’t too many of such touches it can be cute. At the same time, it’s worth being aware that there can be a fine line between cute/personal and juvenile/tacky. I’m sure those “personal look” light blue tuxedos seemed pretty cool and unique in the 70s and now it’s fodder for jokes. Spiderman goes well beyond my wedding taste, but, hey, I’m a traditionalist who believes the place for wackiness is the groom’s cake.

And, in terms of running a nicely balanced and keep-it-real blog, WeddingBee needs a few of us “Miss Manners” posters with basic conservative, traditional taste to help keep the conversation balanced and lively, so please let’s keep this a polite conversation and welcome a diversity of opinion. Otherwise you end up with 100% patting on the head and then when someone throws out a question (e.g., “What dress should I wear to my bridal shower?”) you’re going to get nothing but “Oh they all look so nice, just do whatever you want” which is ultimately useless and not going to solicit the diversity of general opinion the poser needs, that the users enjoy participating in, and which draws the traffic and advertising (ultimately the money that keeps WeddingBee operating).

We posters don’t get upset if our ideas aren’t universally embraced. The “Leave a Comment” button isn’t reserved for rave reviews. I think the hostesses (who control access) owe a duty of hospitality to the posters they invite to be free to comment on the concepts posted — all feedback welcome.

Now, now. No need to be snooty, Iris. Of course you have the right to disagree with what Miss Apple here has proposed for her wedding. And I applaud your brutal honesty - but let’s try to leave out the brutal part, shall we? This is a forum to share ideas, and all of us bees try very hard to make our wedding our own, and yet we are criticized by strangers who happen to read this blog. I do, however, agree that differing opinions should be expressed on this board. However, in this case, a simple “i wouldnt do it for my wedding” would have sufficed.

I also agree that we, as writers, should develop thicker skin. After all, we are the ones who are blogging in a public forum. We are the ones who volunteered to do this. However, I do not think that gives *any* reader or commenter the right to be riteous and snooty. Perhaps you did not intend for your original comment to be mean - in fact, i’m sure you didnt have malicious intentions. It just came off that way to some of us because the tone (if there is such a thing on the internet) of your questions suggests judgment on your part.

Personally, there have been many ideas proposed by other bees that I have not agreed with. However, you will never see me say a mean word about those ideas, because its not MY wedding, and its not up to me to say that their wedding is “tacky” because of those ideas.

I do find it ironic that you would be the one to write a (slightly) tactless comment, when you consider yourself to be the “miss manners” of this site. Afterall, I believe tradition states that “if you dont have anything nice to say, then dont say anything at all.”

And since you posters “dont get upset if your ideas aren’t universally embraced,” I assume that my disagreement with your ideas on how this site should be managed will not offend you in the slightest. =)

Yours sincerely,
Mrs. Butterfly

For me, I don’t feel as if i’m trying to be “wacky” or “over the top at all” - providing this gift for my nephews to walk down the aisle is something small and cute to me. Now, if I had asked them to wear a Spiderman cape and run down the aisle with it is another situation (not like there is anything wrong with that) but that was not my intent.

I know and understand that this is not my wedding party or my guests special day, this is me and Mr. Apple’s day. But when I offer my nephews (who I adore and love so very much) a gift - its a gift for them AND therefore a gift to me. So I see nothing “silly” about it. And for those posters who think just by providing them these gifts, it’ll be some huge spectacle. I think it will take more than just 1 minute to “ruin” a wedding or a photo.

My guests who will be joining us on our most special day will be close family and friends and they will understand wholeheartedly.

After thinking about it some more and even asking a few people, I cannot wait another day to see them walk down that aisle Spiderman and all.

I found this site while googling around to find a certain wedding gown worn by a certain Mary Jane Watson in the original wedding issue of Spiderman.

While I didn’t find what I was looking for, I DEFINITELY love this idea and if I have ring bearers at my wedding, will totally consider it! My fiance LOVE Spiderman and if I can surprise him with a little touch of what he loves on “my big day”, then I’ve made him a very happy man!

Like I said, I don’t know if I’ll have children at my wedding (don’t know anybody with kids! haha!), but I have been thinking of other ways for our arachnid friend to make an appearance: classy Spiderman cuff-links for the groom, my Mary Jane dress, etc.

So, all the power to you Mrs Apple. I know I found this blog a little after its life, but I hope your wedding was as Spectacular as the webslinger himself!