Hug The One You Love
April 24th, 2007 @ 10:29 am by Mrs. Pearl
In the course of planning a wedding, I’m sure many people have gotten into minor tiffs with your significant other. Wedding planning can be a stressful event. Now, not to be morbid, but what happens after the wedding? Have you come up with a plan in the event of emergency or possible illness or death? Both Mr. Pearl and I know we need to do something about it because of his previous health issues I’ve blogged about before, but it’s a touchy subject for that same reason.
The issue came back into the forefront for us recently when I happened upon a blog of a woman who was married in August 2004. One month later, her newly minted DH was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. Sadly, her husband passed away on April 11. I didn’t find her blog until around that time, so I went on to read her back story through archived postings. The incredible grace, courage, and strength she writes with in talking about her husband and their journey together is inspirational. Her problems during his sickness and now, after his passing, are also a lesson about the things that we should all be prepared for just in case of the worst happening. I highly encourage others to read her story, but also be prepared when you do so — it will almost definitely make you cry.
Hug the one you love and treasure the moments together.
Best wishes to her, their families, and their children together. May her husband rest in peace.
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4 Responses to “Hug The One You Love”
My FH doesn’t understand why it’s so important for me to always kiss him goodnight, even when we’re having a spat. If something were to happen, the spat wouldn’t matter, but I would dwell on our last moments together not being what they should have been.
I’m really glad you posted this. I’ve survived a life threatening illness and often wonder if it will return (or in another form). Also, FI has some developing health concerns that could develop into major health issues. He doesn’t take care of himself like I do, so I am constantly worrying about him.
Around the time Terri Shiavo was finally laid to rest, FI and I began seriously discussing DNR’s, funeral desires, and power of attorney thoughts and feelings. Although it seems really morbid, I’m pretty practical about that stuff. You just never know what’s in store for us. So, along with settling beneficiary arrangements & health insurance adjustments for when we are married, FI and I wrote out our living wills. We sleep much better at night knowing each other’s wishes despite what the emotion of a tragedy would have determined for us.
It’s important to have these discussions with your SO so that there is no remorse should something as terrible as Snickollet’s situation happen to you.
My FI has a rare genetic disease that requires him to have an infusion every two weeks. I knew this before we started dating, and to me it’s not a big deal as to wether or not we should be together. When he was younger he had major trouble with treatments which leads to other problems (he played t-ball on a broken hip!), but it has been stabilized for about four years now.
It does put a hamper on travel plans, as we can’t be out of town for more than 13 days, and that’s even pushing it because he’s tired for a few days before the infusion. There is the chance of passing it on to our children, but I’m not worried because of the resources out there for people with this disease. Plus there’s a bonus: medical insurance for him and his family is paid for my the disease’s foundation because the treatments are so expensive and because it would be impossible for him to get inssurance otherwise.
Mrs. Pearl, Los Angeles
Age and Occupation: 26, High school history teacher
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 37, Software engineer
Engagement Date: No official date, we just decided :-)
Wedding Date: July 2007
Venue: St. Anthony's Greek Orthodox Church, Ritz Carlton Huntington Hotel
About Me: Mr. Pearl and I have been together for about four and a half years now. We've been "engaged" since 2004 and were originally supposed to get married in June 2006, but postponed the wedding to July 2007. I love shopping for housewares and office supplies, music, reading chick lit, football, and the diverse world of Los Angeles dining.
We kind of joke about it, but we do have an awareness of each other’s medical histories. It was right around the third date that I got the “what to do when I have a seizure/black out/etc” speech, and it was not much later that I had to use that information.