Wedding Blog
(Just kidding, actually. Mr. Blueberry has made some very important decisions concerning the wedding).
Last week Mr. Blueberry came to me with some rather startling info. He’s changed his mind about this getup:
And has decided that this is how he wants to look at the wedding:
OK well maybe not quite, but he has decided that he likes the bow tie more than the traditional one.
I am really against this–I don’t tend to like bow ties, and I think that given the builds of the other men in tuxes–his BM and our dads, it really wouldn’t be very flattering. But Mr. Blueberry wants what he wants, so I guess bow ties it will be ::sigh::. Now I’m in the process of convincing myself that it’ll be more formal, and that since this is the one time in his life Mr, Blueberry will get to wear a bow tie, he should be able to.
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Thanks for reminding me of one more rule I need to add to the list of things he isnt allowed to wear…
I think bow ties are so classy and formal, so I’m partial to a bowtie. Think Casino Royale 
However, it’s the grooms wedding day too, and he should be allowed to wear what he wants.
my guy will be wearing a traditional tie, but he wrote a bow tie at his brother’s wedding and it was fabulous! it was navy blue with white dots and if we weren’t getting married at 10am, he’d be sporting a bow tie at ours too!
email me if you want to see a photo - it really worked well and he got tons of compliments. even now when he wears it to church, on occasion, he gets a lot of compliments
He chose what he was going to wear. All went VERY well … except he decided on a VERY RED cravat for our pink/green wedding. (Pink was chosen by my sister as a bridesmaid dress after HE vetoed a black dress she was going to wear.) So we had to go back together to change the color. He is still a bit upset because “red is his favorite color”, fine but what about the pink my sister will be wearing plus my pink flowers my sis’s pink and green flowers and his sister’s green dress?!?!?!
My guy will be wearing a bowtie tux as well (it is how I met him, he was in full tail tux because we met through a singing group and that was the men’s uniform). I was leaning towards the tie tux too, but he’s adamant about the bowtie tux, and so he’ll get it!
At least it’s better than his original first idea - he really wanted to wear a kilt. I’d have been fine with that if we were getting married in New England (where we live), but a kilt in Costa Rica?! He’ll die of the heat. Plus, he only wants to wear his clan’s tartan, which isn’t for rent anywhere and way doesn’t match the purple and green theme going on. Well, it’s got green, but super hunter/forest green, not the spring green we’re going with. And buying a kilt of his own clan’s was going to cost more than my wedding dress cost, and even he could see the lunacy in that.
Wow, long comment, sorry!
My future BIL got married 5 months ago and his wife hand picked the tuxes that they all BOUGHT. Since my fiance is having his Brother as his BM and his dad as a groomsmen, they all have the same tux. Which is great. But I don’t like bowties. I suggested maybe they could all rent other accessories and that was shot down. I am trying not to be too much of a bridezilla, but why do I have to have something my future SIL picked out for her wedding?
Grrrrr.
My fiance is planning on the bow tie as well. If he could have it his way, he’d be Frank Sinatra reincarnate…so you can see where that decision came from! I think he’s planning on having the groomsmen wear them as well - he’s talked about getting them the ones that you have to tie yourself for their gifts.
Personally, I think it’s very cool - but I’m realizing more and more as I go along that I love the old weddings where everyone made it a huge affair…you know, like gramma and grampa’s…but that’s just my opinion! I’m sure Mr. Blueberry look great whatever he does! You might not even remember what kind of tie he wore in the end, anyway! Come on…you’ll be married!! 
bowtie’s are super super cute he will look adorable and formal!
I’m dreading sooo dreading this part of the planning. I firmly believe that he should pick out what he wears. After all, there’s *no way* I’d let him pick out what I’m going to wear. But I am a picky little bee and I’m positive he’s going to choose something I’m not very fond of.
My man feels very strongly, one may even say PASSIONATELY, about wearing a bow tie. While I think that limits his color options (a red bow tie doesn’t really work, so we’re going with black), he really wants that classic look, and I’m going along with it. And I have to say, he does look cute with the whole tux put together!
He is wearing it, he should get to choose. My guy picked a bowtie and cummberbund (who knew he was such a traditionalist!), and I was fine with it, since we have more of that retro feel to our wedding anyways.
Mr. Lemon really really wanted a bow tie, then when he went to pick out his tux… somehow he changed his mind and opted for a tie and vest. Not sure what happened there!
it’s just a matter of taste, and bow ties really are the traditional, formal look for a wedding. plus, the guys get so little say in anything (not saying that’s not their fault!) you might just let him wear what he wants to. i mean, it could be a lot worse, right! 
actually ms. blueberry, it’s kind of funny. if my FH said he wanted to wear a tie instead of a bowtie, i’d be upset!
My FI was against the bowtie from the beginning, but so was I, so it made it easy for us. FI is a big guy with a big neck and chin, so a bowtie just looks funny on him, as it does on a few of our groomsmen.
My fiance and his groomsmen are wearing traditional tuxes with bowties/cumberbunds and I wouldn’t have it any other way! White for FI, black for the groomsmen.
I’m curious about bowties being traditional. I guess I think of bowties as very 1960/1970s, did tuxedos always go with bowties up until recently or say, at the turn of the century did people wear long ties/ascots with them?
although i’m a huge backer of the bowtie (as my blacktie wedding party might suggest), i can understand a different taste might skew away from it.
here’s a (subjective) silver lining, though, Miss Blueberry: at the end of the reception (or if you’re doing an afterparty), Mr. Blueberry can pull off the George-Clooney-esque-untied-bow-tie look. to me, anyway, there’s something so charming about an untied bowtie. i think it’s very rakish in an unefforted way. (but maybe that’s just me…)
I love the white bowtie look!! Its SO classy, but Mr. E feels like he is more a tie-kinda-guy. But I think he will get both, and decide on the day off which looks better!
I’m of two minds on this. On one hand, there is this part of me that is like, well, he should be able to wear what he likes as long as he recognizes I’ll be a big sparkly pile of white silk next to him.
The other hand gently mourns the fact that I don’t get to see him in full formal dress. Oh well. I’ve had a crush on James Bond and his fellow full spectrum of various British Isles formal dress wearers, including Kilts, since I was able to see up them without bending over.
But, I’ll just have to sigh wistfully at pictures of Sean Connery and George Clooney because its looking like he’ll be sporting a brown suit. Barring his suit, I would totally have a cocktail or more formal attire wedding just for fun.
We are getting married in June and my SO just keeps saying, “We’ve got plenty of time. I’ll figure it out later.” So, at least Mr. Blueberry is thinking about what he’s going to wear. I don’t think my darling has any idea. . .
I wouldn’t worry too much, Miss Blueberry. My FH is quite the clothes horse, and he is bow-tie ing it, and even going so far as to buy bow ties for the best men so they all match. He has only recently decided which bow tie to wear - evidently, there are like 4 or 5 different styles. Who knew? He is pretty slim, so he is going with a smaller, narrower tie. They do have bigger bow ties if your FH is a bigger guy.
Of course, if he & the groomsmen can tie their own, it really does look much better. There must be instructions online!
I honestly never in my life thought I would have so much to say about bow ties….
My fiancee typically wears ties to work so we wanted something different than the traditional tie. There are not many occassions where my fiancee gets to wear a bowtie so we are going with that and he looks super cute with it! The fathers and his best man will wear a traditional tie because of their short statures, they didnt want to look like penguins haha.
My guy is wearing a black suit with a long tie. We had been watching Top Design and he got really into how thick Jonathan Adler’s tie knots were, so we went searching for an alternative to the regular Windsor Knot and found all sorts! Here’s a link to the knot he has picked for the big day, http://www.totieatie.com/balthus.asp The Balthus Knot. It’s really thick and distinctive. I never knew there were so many ways to tie a tie!
He’s wearing a barong. I am game for that, but I am pleading that the ushers wear tuxes. Why you ask? The bridesmaids dresses we ordered already are black and red ball gowns~that I picked out because they look “smashing” with tuxes. Plus I really think it would look great if we were the only ones in white with a backdrop of black and red attendents.
My fiance wants to wear a bow tie as well, at first i was totally against it however…James Bond wore a BOW TIE in Casino Royale and James Bond is always hot.
Sorry he changed his mind about it, though would you mind telling me where that suit in the photo is from? I really like that suit with the green tie, is it a sage green? But to get back to the subject at hand, I think both bowties and traditional ties are nice. If the bowtie is a light color, it won’t stand out too much either. Maybe try to sway him towards a lighter color.
I normally don’t post, but this topic is quite interesting. I recently had an argument with my FI about tuxes. I let him decide what kind of suit he wants to wear. He calls me one day to exclaim that he found the suit he wants. Get this, he wants him and his groomsmen to wear a suit with tails, top hats, white gloves, and a cane… Our wedding is outdoors, at 10am, on a ranch and my bridesmaids are wearing chinese qhi pao’s. (insert image of China in 1920’s) I know it’s his day too and he didn’t really have a say in what I’m wearing, but I just did not agree. We still haven’t resolved this issue. It’s been an ongoing argument. I’d rather be in your shoes arguing about ties or bows.
Anyway, I personally like ties. Sorry for the long post.
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Mrs. Blueberry, Kansas City
Age and Occupation in 06: 21, Full-time Student
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 23, Full-time Student
Engagement Date: September 10, 2005
Wedding Date: May 25, 2007
Venue: Wynbrick Center - a historic mansion in my hometown.
About Me: We're having an intimate, 125-ish person wedding with a full-blown dessert reception. When I'm not obsessing over wedding stuff or studying for my BA in English, I'm usually playing with our two kitty cats, blogging, doing crafty things, or hanging out with Mr. Blueberry!
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