Weddingbee

I’m definitely in the “wait a few years” camp, but I can’t say I’d be terribly disappointed if we got pregnant within the first year! My friend recently had twin boys and they are almost 6 months old. I have dreams of co-opting them and making them my own…

I got pregnant 2 months into my wonderful relationship with FI, we talked about it a lot, and although we knew we wanted to be together forever, we decided to wait to get married until we had been together longer. We moved in together and are now chasing around an 18 month old little man and planning our wedding

I am in the opposite boat, I love my son more then words could ever say, but I get jealous of the DINKS (Double Income, No Kids) around me. The couples who don’t have to stress about their three (at the time) year old running up to play with mommy during the ceremony, and who is the lucky friend or famly member who has to leave the reception early to watch the kid…oh, and the fact that most kf the DINKS I know have a little extra money to put into their weddings…not here! Our extra money is for college savings and new toys…(I love my son!)

Because of my polycystic ovarian syndrome, there’s a chance that getting pregnant will be really hard for me. That being said, it’s a lot easier if you have kids before you’re thirty. I’m 26 now, will be almost 27 by the time the wedding happens and we want two ideally. Soooo….While we say we’re waiting a couple years, I think we’ll start trying sooner, who knows - maybe things will go totally different and I’ll get pregnant the moment we start trying (unlikely, but still)…

And I totally hear the baby vibes, in the words of Melissa Tomei - my biological clock is definitely ticking.

I’m 40. It’s now or never!

We’re 29 & 30, but still plan on waiting a few years. If it turns out that we can’t easily get pregnant then, we’ll adopt. There’s just too much on our plate that we want to take care of now, with DH going back to school and my starting an academic position this fall.

I have always firmly stood on the fact that I want to be married at least 5 years before having children. In my personal experiences growing up, almost ALL of my friends parents got divorced as soon as the youngest went to college, because they had children right away and when the kids were gone, weren’t able to maintain a relationship together. Minimum 5 years for us — which would mean we’d be having children in our early 30s, which is when both of our mothers had us.
My FMIL, however, is really anxious for a grandchild. I think she would be THRILLED if I got knocked up and had a baby before the wedding. It’s not a convenient time for either of us — I’m going for a Ph.D. in oncology, my fiance is finishing up medical school. We’ll likely be living 350 miles apart for our first 3 years of marriage anyways - I do NOT want to be raising a child on my own while spending 70+ hours/week in the lab. Every time I see my FMIL she makes comments about how she can’t wait for grandchildren. It was cute the first 10 times, now it is downright obnoxious. I keep telling my fiance that each time she comments, I’ll push back trying to conceive for a month. At this rate, I won’t start trying until I’m 70!

Julie…my MIL used to do the same thing. Interestingly enough her other son met a woman with three young children, married her, and they have a baby on the way. She’s now got way more than she can handle, and I don’t hear a peep! I’m chalking it up to ‘be careful what you ask for’ with a sly grin.

well…..we were PLANNING on waiting a few years until his aunt pulled a nasty little trick on me. Right after our engagement she announced to us that our Christmas present would be 1/3 of her beautiful candy apple red 1994 Carrera. Then for the wedding gift we would get the next third of it. When we finally produce the family’s first grandchild, we actually GET the Porche. Isn’t that mean? My fiance has already acquired the instruction manual to the gas guzzler and we aren’t even married yet!

We’re still on the young side but we’ve already finished school, already settled in our jobs and lucky enough to have already travelled the world together…we’d like to take a year of just us being married, but after that it’s time for kids.

We are waiting several years. I think we agree 5 years is ideal. I will graduate one year after and then I want to get three years of teaching in before we have any kids.

We don’t want to have kids. Anytime I have mentioned this around family, I get the “oh you’ll change your mind” comments. I’m sure they’ll just get that much worse once we’re married!

I’m 27 now, and I’ll be 28 when we get married. I’ve already got the baby urge now, and really would like to have at least my first by age 30. It’s always been important to me to be a younger mother than my mom was - I was her first child and she had me when she was 33, and she had my younger sister at 39. So we’ll probably start trying around 1-2 years into the marriage.

Fiance originally wanted to wait much longer (like till we were 35) but after we got a puppy and we have now seen each other in a caretaking role for our little fur-baby, it made him want kids sooner, so, yay!

i love kids! but, we want to wait 2-3 years until he’s done w/ his MBA program. god knows i don’t want to hear “but i have a presentation/exam tomorrow…can you wake up and tend to the baby?”. if all goes well, i’ll be big & preggers at his graduation!

oh, great question, laura s. i would LOVE to see mrs. mama bees! maybe a spin off blog of weddingbees?

I put “couple of years” in the poll, but anytime is fine with me! I’m on BC, and will stay on it for a while. However if a little guy slipped through the BC shield, I would not be disappointed!