Weddingbee

A tie is great actually. It’s like when I read that you can decorate a whole room with 1 item as your focus ie. a rug, a cool vase, etc. Either way, cake is always fun and yummy!

Could be a dirty sock.

You know, I think that’s totally cool: you recognize that Ella has pastry skillz beyond your ken, and you trust her!

That’s how I’m treating my florist: “Look, here’s what I’m wearing, here’s what the girls are wearing, here’s a picture of the site (ignore the backhoe), here’s my late mother’s favorite flower. Go.” I figure she does 50-100 weddings a year, I do one wedding a lifetime, who’s the expert? Who am I to tell her how to do her job?

it’s a good thing the vendors are professionals that can, literally, create anything out of nothing. even a tie. can you imagine trying to explain your ideas to a regular person? you’ll be lucky if you got a cake!

Lol, I hear ya. I actually know exactly what I want for cake, I’m being too damn picky is the bigger problem. But you know what makes me really nervous? Meeting with officiants. I have no idea what the heck I’m supposed to know or ask and I don’t really know how I want the ceremony to flow or anything. I feel very out of my element!

I wonder if it would help you at all to do a quick browse with Mr. Lovebug through some of the cake pictures on teh Knot and see what sort of style you’re both drawn to? Or at least which ones you’re really NOT drawn to? It might help narrow it down just a tad.

ugh i know how you feel. i went to this cake tasting and the baker was actually really rude because i did not know if i wanted a square or round cake and wanted it to be yellow but then had picked out all these other cake pictures that weren’t yellow. if this lady is mean though when you go, just bolt, even if she’s at the top of the league because a vendor also needs to understand that the bride and groom may have different opinions and that they may not know what they want yet. we ended up going to my fiance’s friend who happens to be pastry chef.

I’m feeling behind too! I’ve got three months left and while I’ve got the baker booked, I’m haven’t sat down to talk about any of it yet either. At least I’ve gotten a lot of ideas and won’t feel too scared to go down there and talk to him with real pictures/ideas.

Don’t worry miss lovebug - the inspiration will come. You start with a tie and build from there. Eventually the cake will become your jumping off point and things just start falling into place. Mine all came into place after the dress. There’s one thing that starts the ball rolling and then you go from there.

I totally feel you on the vendor thing - I mean really, for the majority of us brides, this is our FIRST TIME planning a wedding and interacting with all these vendors. How in the world are we supposed to know what to do, say, bring, expect, how to negotiate, etc? And then by the time you start to get the hang of it, your wedding is already planned. Sigh.