Missing Out
April 27th, 2007 @ 11:59 am by Mrs. Blueberry
In addition to working toward my BA in English, I’m a preschool teacher. I don’t usually blog about this because if I started, it’d open a floodgate–what cute things each kid has done that day, etc. And of course, I want to protect the kids’ privacy. So I’ll just say “I’m a preschool teacher” and leave it at that.
I landed the job in September of last year, after our wedding date had been firmly established. It was shortly after that, though, that I discovered when the last day of school is: Yep, May 25th. If the wedding were in my college town, or the preschool were in Kansas City, you bet your bippy I’d be there on the last day. But alas, it just isn’t possible.
This really makes me sad. Many of my students will be advancing to kindergarten, so I won’t be seeing them again very frequently, if at all. It breaks my heart that I’ll be missing their last day; that I’ll have to say my goodbyes several days prior.
But I’m not just telling my sob story for pity… Did your wedding accidentally coincide with another big event? How did you/will you cope with it?
PS>OK I can’t get away without ONE cute story. Almost every day one of my students says “I don’t want you to marry Mr. Blueberry!” I keep trying to explain to her that I’ll still be at school and that nothing will change, but she is under the impression that as soon as I get married I’ll become a mommy, and will stay at home like her mommy.
PPS>This one isn’t wedding related, but it’s too cute not to share too. I’m only 5′2″, you know, and of course this doesn’t affect how well I do my job. But a few months ago one of my kids’ moms was talking to her about her school. She asked, “And is Miss Blueberry a good teacher?” to which her daughter replied “No!” The mom asked why, and the kid said “She’s too SHORT to be a teacher!” 
Sorry, kid. I’m not getting any taller.
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We knew we wanted a summer wedding. But late summer. My brother goes to school on the east coast (they start school a month before west coast schools). We are getting married in August and I actually looked at my brother and sister university web sites to see when they started back at school. So in a way we planned our wedding around them.
I called one of my friends to tell her we are engaged. I told her our wedding date and she said “I guess there’s something I should tell you…” She’s pregnant, and her due date is the same day. We’re both a little bit sad that she will miss the wedding, but we’ve decided it must be a lucky date.
Oh I also looked at my alma mater’s football schedule to make sure our date was an ok game to miss. Good thing too because the weekend before is when we play one of our biggest rivals (the one we used to literally pitch tents and camp out for the week of the game - we had a free for all seating system so being in the front of the line was imperative! Plus it was such a blast camping and grilling and everything!)
Our ring bearer (Fsil’s son) associates marriage with having a baby. So he keeps asking his parents, can you get married again so we can have another baby? And he think since Mr. SP and I are “getting married”, we’re actually going to have a baby.
In order to have my fiance’s brother as best man, we had a three-week window between the day he comes back from Asia and the day he moves to Africa. We picked the date based entirely on him, and then my work scheduled an event that day. Although they aknowledged that my wedding was on the calendar first, none of my work friends would be able come. Then, because of weird scheduling issues two months after the wedding, the day-of work event was cancelled, and now they can all come. It’s been a lot of ups and downs.
I’m getting married in June, and I picked the day so that my extended family would be able to come. But there’s been so much snow this year that my cousin’s graduation date got pushed back to my wedding day 
So my cousin, aunt, and uncle won’t be able to come, and it makes me sad, but graduation is a big thing and I was hoping to be able to go to it too lol!
We picked Spring to avoid football and baseball issues in Late Summer through Winter.
We picked our actual date based on FI’s sister’s college graduation (after finals but before she graduates) and we’re still missing her actual graduation.
Finally, one of our best friend’s 30th birthday is the night of our rehearsal dinner. She’s attending but I still feel bad. Her husband is throwing a party for her the night before and we’re having birthday cake for her at the dinner. Not quite the same though as really celebrating on your birthday.
We were set on getting married in our alma mater’s chapel (built in 1885, in the middle of grounds) but the university has a lottery system by month that takes place one year out. It’s a very intense process! We lucked out by getting a ceremony slot at all, nonetheless the 6:00-8:00 window on a Saturday evening in early August. The atmosphere will be perfect, as it’s a few weeks before students move back and football season starts. So amazingly, our date was decided entirely by this lottery system, and everything else has to fall in place around that.
We’re bidding on a huge project at work, and they’ve specifically requested me as the lead. Yay me. Then I look at the timeline…yep, the project begins the week of my wedding. (We’re eloping in the Virgin Islands and will be out of the office for 18 days. gulp)
Not sure yet if we’ll win the bid, but I’ve already made it quite clear I will not be checking email or voicemail, or be otherwise available while I’m out.
Intentionally avoided the busy seasons for our professions’ industries.
Katarczyna - is it really eloping if you have planned to do it? I always equated eloping with the “guess what we did on our Vegas vacation last week… surprise!”
I don’t have any first cousin’s, only second cousins that I grew up with very far away, but still important members of my mom’s side of the family. The one closest in age to me and I announced our engagements at the same time and his wedding is a week after mine. As mine’s in Costa Rica, I doubt that any of his family will be able to make it to Costa Rica and then to Boston to his right afterwards (they’re not all from Boston, mostly Minneapolis, some Texas) - that’s a bit of a long vacation… and they’re much more closely related to him than me (plus it’s cheaper). Sad, but that’s the way it goes.
Oh and my FIL’s have a group called the “dinner club.” They get together once a month and each couple hosts in a rotation. They’ve been doing it for over 30 years now. One of their kids is getting married the same weekend we’ll be getting married so clearly none of the dinner club will be able to make it to ours (again a local wedding vs an international one…) However, the in-law’s plan on hosting an informal at home reception a few weeks later after we get back from our honeymoon, so that’ll be nice - we’ll still get to celebrate with them. (Not that I’ve ever met the dinner club and my FI’s fine with them not coming - apparently they can get pretty roudy and gouche pretty quickly with very little alcohol)…
My sister in law is due on the same day. Luckily, their doctor said they could deal with it when the time came if he really thought she would have it on the same day. We didn’t care, of course, but she really wants to be there and my brother is in the wedding. If it all happens on the same day, we’ll just get along without them, but I’m hoping to have a beautiful baby girl at the wedding!
We are getting married a mere 5 days after my fiance graduates medical school, so it will be a very hectic time for us. It was the only weekend that worked out, however, as we have to get married on a Sunday (Jewish wedding) so we wanted to use Memorial Day weekend — if we had to wait until Labor Day, my fiance will have already started his residency and then we wouldn’t be able to take a honeymoon (or even a day off after the wedding). My fiance’s only concern though is that he will lose out on medical school graduation gifts since everyone will be too preoccupied with our wedding!
We had our hearts set on our venue and planned for June 7th, but when we called to reserve it (the first minute they accepted reservations - literally), they had booked all weekends in June except the 28th. My fianc© is a broadcast journalist, so the times he can take vacation are already really limited - to June, half of July, and half of August. We went with the 28th, which is my birthday.
That part doesn’t bother me (it’s like two parties in one! I can’t remember dates to save my life, but I can’t forget my anniversary date now!). What has me fretting a little is the wedding is the day before my grandmother’s 90th birthday. I really, really, really don’t want to steal her thunder. We’re going to honor her at the reception with a bouquet and have a birthday party/bunch send-off the day after the wedding.
we haven’t set a date yet, but my uncles wedding is in the first week of may (3 states away) which happens to be coinciding with me trying to move out of my apartment and that has been causing me some stress, tho none for the couple getting married. :)~
I say eloping only because there are no guests. Destination wedding implies we’re still having the traditional and formal to-do, and we’re not. So I use “elope” loosely because I can’t find a better word for it.
Mrs. Blueberry, Kansas City
Age and Occupation in 06: 21, Full-time Student
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 23, Full-time Student
Engagement Date: September 10, 2005
Wedding Date: May 25, 2007
Venue: Wynbrick Center - a historic mansion in my hometown.
About Me: We're having an intimate, 125-ish person wedding with a full-blown dessert reception. When I'm not obsessing over wedding stuff or studying for my BA in English, I'm usually playing with our two kitty cats, blogging, doing crafty things, or hanging out with Mr. Blueberry!
Kids are too cute! As for timing, FH and I were at dinner one night early in the engagement talking about maybe making his sister a BM. Five minutes later we get a phone call from my FFIL saying that FSIL is pregnant. A quick count on my fingers confirms that she will be 8 months pregnant at our wedding!! Sadly, she lost the baby a month later, but we haven’t asked her to be in the wedding party because we figure that they’ll be trying again and hopefully having success this time! Since the wedding is still 6 months away we didn’t want to put her in an awkward position of feeling like a blimp but doing it anyway just for us. Besides, she’ll have enough to think about without having to deal with me. As a way to still include her, my something borrowed will be her veil and tiara from her wedding last year