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that’s pretty good if you ask me… i actally had to call everyone a month before our wedding date cuz our ceremony site wasn’t ready for opening…

That’s funny–our RSVP date is also tomorrow, and we’ve also only received about half. What is wrong with people??? I know that some of these people were planning on coming, but it would be nice to get the definite notification.

It’s a common problem now - people forget/ignore RSVP requests! I would expect that you might only get a couple more trickle in late. I would plan to start calling the non-responders a week after the deadline has passed.

hmmm..i think people were still RSVP’ing a month after the “please RSVP by”. I also had to send out a mass email reminding people to rsvp since it was most of our friends who were younger that didn’t rsvp on time..haha

I’m loving that postal rate hike. Our responses aren’t “due” for another five weeks, but the stamps on ‘em are only good for two weeks. You can be sure I’m cranking the reliable rumor mill with that.

Yep, that’s what happened to us too. The worst are the ones that respond via word of mouth to so and so who tells so and so that they are coming. Then it gets worse. Some people you just can’t get a straight answer from and then others change their RSVP from “yes” to “no” after it is too late to change the number for your caterer.
So far, with six days to go, we have 4 people who are now “no’s.” Which is costing us nearly 300.00 for people to change their minds and I am certain we will have more no shows since nearly every wedding does.
Sorry, wedding anxiety is making me run on and on…

On deadline day, I ended up sending a friendly-sounding but firm email saying that we were finalizing the list for the caterer. Use “bcc” so they can’t see they are not alone. After email #1, there was email #2 or phone call, and for a select few email #3 plus phone call. There seems to be no shame of being a late RSVP! People are LAAAAAAAAAZY!

Still, there will be last-minute cancelations so consider rounding down your “final count” (maybe by 10%) for the caterer so you’re not overcharged. People were especially bad about adding or subtracting kids on W-day, so you never know! Understandable since kids get sick and babysitters fall through, but just protect yourself from overpaying if possible.

a wedding coordinator told me it’s suggested to set the rsvp date 4 saturdays before the big date. then on the day after the rsvp date (sunday) call everyone who didn’t respond. in case there are people who didn’t receive the invite, we’re supposed to send it priority the following day. i guess we also spend time to do the seating chart…or whatever. i’m not sure what else we’re “supposed” to do

My FI is a slacker. Last summer, a set of our mutual friends got married. They sent him and invite (I was “and guest”ed). I didn’t remind him to return the RSVP because I figured he could be a big boy and do it. He never sent it out, and our friend called to ask if he and I were coming…
There’s nothing wrong with contacting people. They probably meant to return it and forgot. It’s funny how differently we see things on the other end of the wedding spectrum (bride instead of guest). I’m embarrassed for not making him send the RSVP in.

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45/83 sounds pretty good! that’s over 50%!! i sent out 200 invitations and got 34 RSVPS back. people just don’t care! and they get annoyed if you call to ask if they’re coming and even then some of them can’t even give you a definite answer! they just don’t think about what the bride is going through when those RSVPs can make the difference of ordering a few thousand dollars worth more of food or not. i especially hate those people that don’t RSVP, then show up to the wedding with 3 guests, and then bitch because there’s no food for them. well, duh!! those people have no one else to blame but themselves. I hope you get a few more RSVPs tomorrow!! a few of my guests sent in their RSVPs 10 days after the deadline. i don’t know why they didn’t just call. hehe